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maybebaby
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Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Just asking, after browsing through answers in a previous post.
I can understand weddings...to each their own I guess..
But a baby or bridal shower? Maybe it is because I am from a large family and there have always been children around at things.
And by children I am even talking about 10-15 years old age...I have a 13 year old cousin who has been at every bridal and baby shower and we wouldn't have it any other way. She is a female member of the family and she gets a kick out of seeing everyone open their gifts...its very cute and I would not have it any other way.
Just curious as to whats the big deal with a child being that age at an event??
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I personally have no problem at all with it but I would totally keep it to a minimum. I had about 10 kids at my shower but they were all young. The oldest was 7. They had such a good time.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:05 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I have no idea.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:08 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
There are always children at showers in our family as well. I also come from a large family. If there are younger girls, they are included.
My flowergirl was 4 when I got married and 11 at my baby shower. I was so glad to have her there
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:16 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I had children at both. More at my baby shower. All my friends female children were there, and 1 baby boy. I wouldn't have it any other way
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:19 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I don't know.... my mom pulled something strange at my shower.
We have a huge family - lots of kids, and the kids have always come to showers....
Prior to my shower, she was asking me which of my friends had children.... and when I asked her why.... She said that she would prefer that they not come. That she didn't want any children at the shower.
I was very  but since she was throwing it, I decided to leave it alone.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:20 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
ITA
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:21 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I can kind of understand a bridal shower only because I think that the people invited to the bridal shower should also be invited to the wedding (even kids).
But with a baby shower I think it is nice that babies or kids would be there. My mom did that with my shower and DS has already been to two baby showers and he is 9 months old!
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:35 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
I totally agree with this.
I mean if you think about it - if everyone (or most people) brought there children to the shower the children and outweigh the # of adults.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Children are always included at showers in my family~ ESPECIALLY the little girls. They are SO cute~ they get really excited about being dressed up and at a "grown-up lady" event.
Now~ weddings..... eh, not so much.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
In my family there are kids at every event. I don't mind it cuz i'm used to it. But for a wedding I prefer there not be children (Nieces and nephews are an exception) I had a ton of kids at my wedding and they were all screaming and running around, they got in the way when it was time to cut the cake...etc. etc. etc. The only parties my son has been to are birthdays and christenngs, and 1 communion.
Honestly I don't mind having kids at parties, except for weddings. Other than that I don't mind them being at birthdays, showers, christenings, or communions...
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:48 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by maybebaby
And by children I am even talking about 10-15 years old age
I don't count anyone over age 12 as an adult when it comes to planning a party at a restaurant because most restaurants charge you the adult price for a plate for ages 12 and above...
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:50 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
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Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
I totally agree with this.
I mean if you think about it - if everyone (or most people) brought there children to the shower the children and outweigh the # of adults.
ITA.
That was the situation I was in for my wedding.
94 adult invitees but had I just invited the children under 12 they would have numbered over 50 as we were the last in our generation to get married.
Unless someone is traveling from OOS and the child is very young, there are no kids at my family's showers.
There were two kids at my shower, my BF's 3 year old (OOS) and my cousin's son who is 3 (she is a single mom
I've never seen kids at a shower until I read this board.
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| Posted 1/26/08 9:59 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
See, for the most part if my family has a shower of some kind, not everyones child comes...like if its a friend of mine invited, she wouldn't bring her kids b/c well, it just hasn't happened (but i would gladly let her if needed).
But with my family..meaning my aunts who have children, they have always always brought their daughters just because they are part of the family.
I think thats kind of what I was asking, lol. Sorry to be confusing!!
I take it that some people don't want their younger female relatives at these things, and to me, I don't get it. But to each their own!
Thanks to all who answered!!
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| Posted 1/26/08 10:12 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Also wanted to add...
When all my aunts were getting married, I was about 9-13 years old (I have a bunch of aunts). My cousin Jennifer was a year younger than me.
We were always expected at the showers and we had a blast. We loved feeling part of the events and being recognized as "women" too, lol. I just can't imagine it any other way for myself...all female children will be invited to whatever we have/throw. I love it that way and there was never a disruption.
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| Posted 1/26/08 10:14 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by Marcie
Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
I totally agree with this.
I mean if you think about it - if everyone (or most people) brought there children to the shower the children and outweigh the # of adults.
I do agree with this. A shower shouldn't be like a gymboree class! I think that if only female relatives are invited it shouldn't ever get that crazy...not in most families anyway!
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I think it's because some people don't like children. I just can't understand why.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
My SIL had a shower and the invites said"No children please." Well. I had a 13 month old at the time, and DH was working, so I just took DD anyways. She said the reason she wanted no children was so the ladies could enjoy themselves without their kids there.
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| Posted 1/26/08 10:18 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
ITA. And for an event like a Bridal Shower, some of the topics of conversation are not appropriate in front of younger children.
I had my friend's children come to my Baby Shower & that was no problem. 
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| Posted 1/26/08 10:39 AM |
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
Posted by nrthshgrl
For me it depends on the age of the kids & how many. I've had babies & a child or two at my showers and it wasn't a problem at all.
However, if I was throwing a shower, I wouldn't want it to be like a gymboree class. I also think 4 hours is a long time to expect a child to behave & not cause disruptions, which is why I leave my kids home. I think the focus should be on the guest of honor.
I completely agree! Also some children are not well-behaved and you can't invite some children and not others.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
I come from a huge family and there are kids/babies at all the showers, however, I just had my shower and my cousin brought her 2 year old daughter and she was laying down in the middle of the aisle, the servers could not get through, one of the servers by accident knocked right into her and she fell and was crying...it was a mess. I never noticed that at other showers before, but I guess because I was at the table next to them, i noticed. I understand she is only 2, but that is maybe a good reason some children should not come to these events. It actually stressed me out a little because the wait staff was getting stressed!
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
On My wedding video all you hear is kids screaming everywhere. That's why I would have prefered not too many kids there (Again with the exception being nieces and nephews). If you are in a situation where you have to bring them then that's another story.
I don't have a problem with them being at any other event.
Speaking of kids going to parties. Tonight DH and I are invited to a 40th birthday for his friend's DH. Adults only... This is more like a dinner for 15 people at a chinese restaurant. An evening for adults because sometimes you need it... However DH's friend did say that if you cannot find a babysitter then you can bring the kids. DS will be with my mom tonight...
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
The thing is some parents and their kids know how to behave at adult functions and some don't.
I think we've all been to a grown-up function and seen the parent who looks at is as "I have 50 other built in baby sitters, I'm going to have a drink and someone else will handle my kids."
Unfortunately you can't invite some kids without inviting the others, so for me, there were no kids at my bridal shower or reception. Even my nephews.
I wanted to be able to focus on the day and my guests (and myself) without worrying if little Timmy was spilling wine or having to give little Jenny a present to open because she was bored.
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Re: Why do some people care so much about not having children at showers?
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The thing is some parents and their kids know how to behave at adult functions and some don't.
I think we've all been to a grown-up function and seen the parent who looks at is as "I have 50 other built in baby sitters, I'm going to have a drink and someone else will handle my kids."
Unfortunately you can't invite some kids without inviting the others, so for me, there were no kids at my bridal shower or reception. Even my nephews.
I wanted to be able to focus on the day and my guests (and myself) without worrying if little Timmy was spilling wine or having to give little Jenny a present to open because she was bored.
I totally agree with this!
My mom invited all of the little girls to my baby shower. They were all awesome, until it was time to open the gifts. They all wanted to help, mayhem ensued and it was very stressful.
And I don't think the average shower guest really enjoys watching children open gifts. It just makes a long process even longer  .
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