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dlj97
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Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Thanks everyone! I get that it is "his" day - I would just think he would want to spend it with his kids (or his dad) and not with his friend. I get that he is spending most of the day with us, but I also think it is just weird to go to a friend's house on a Sunday night (friend lives 40 min away). I also think going to the spa alone is not the same.
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allIwant
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Honestly that wouldn't bother me at all! Spend the day with us and get some well needed "man" time at night. Would be the perfect set up for us
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| Posted 6/13/14 7:47 PM |
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sunnygirl
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
I think that he should be able to do whatever he wants, he is spending time with his children. There is no rule that you have to spend very waking moment with your kids on Mothers and Father's Day. I see you mentioned a spa is not the same thing but I think it is. It's about getting away and doing what you want to do for a couple of hours If he spent the whole day with friends that would bother me but not a couple of hours
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| Posted 6/13/14 7:53 PM |
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OhBoyorGirl
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
It wouldn't bother me. He will be spending the entire day with you and the kids, and the basketball game isn't just any old game- it's the finals! So while under normal, everyday circumstances it might be weird for him to go to a friend's house on a Sunday night, this is something special for basketball/sports fans.
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| Posted 6/13/14 8:25 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
I'm in the minority I guess but I tend to feel like MD and FD is about spending time together as a family. I usually plan a really nice day for DH so I guess I would be a little annoyed if he went out that night. I don't know. It's just that we have never celebrated the day individually so I guess in my case, I'd be bothered.
If it really bothers you then just talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn't realize you are upset. Can't hurt to talk. 
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| Posted 6/13/14 8:39 PM |
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dlj97
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Posted by Hofstra26
I'm in the minority I guess but I tend to feel like MD and FD is about spending time together as a family. I usually plan a really nice day for DH so I guess I would be a little annoyed if he went out that night. I don't know. It's just that we have never celebrated the day individually so I guess in my case, I'd be bothered.
If it really bothers you then just talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn't realize you are upset. Can't hurt to talk.
I have made myself VERY clear 
Glad at least someone understands where I am coming from!
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| Posted 6/13/14 8:56 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Posted by dlj97
Posted by Hofstra26
I'm in the minority I guess but I tend to feel like MD and FD is about spending time together as a family. I usually plan a really nice day for DH so I guess I would be a little annoyed if he went out that night. I don't know. It's just that we have never celebrated the day individually so I guess in my case, I'd be bothered.
If it really bothers you then just talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn't realize you are upset. Can't hurt to talk.
I have made myself VERY clear
Glad at least someone understands where I am coming from!
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| Posted 6/13/14 9:21 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Nope don't see the big deal. My DH goes to his friends house probably once a month abd doesn't go over till at least 730 or 8. I wanted me time on Mother's Day for a bit. I asked to go get my nails done and spent the rest of day with my DH and kids. So this is his alone time on Father's Day.
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mrsanonymous
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Posted by Hofstra26
I'm in the minority I guess but I tend to feel like MD and FD is about spending time together as a family. I usually plan a really nice day for DH so I guess I would be a little annoyed if he went out that night. I don't know. It's just that we have never celebrated the day individually so I guess in my case, I'd be bothered.
If it really bothers you then just talk to him about it. Maybe he doesn't realize you are upset. Can't hurt to talk.
I agree. He wouldn't be celebrating Father's Day at all if not for his children. For me, Mothers Day is all about DS (and my mother) so it would be hard for me to understand how it wouldn't be that way for DH. Even after DS goes to bed I would want to celebrate just him and I...no he isn't my father but I am proud and thankful that he is the father if my child.
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missfabulous
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Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
It wouldn't bother me. It's his day and I think he should be able to spend time relaxiing with his friends and watching sports. Its similar to a woman going to get a mani/pedi on mother's day without her kids.
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| Posted 6/14/14 7:21 AM |
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Naturalmama
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Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
This past MD was DS's birthday, but the two MD's before that I got a mani/pedi with my BFF early in the day before coming home to spend time with the family, I plan on doing that next year too. So, if DH told me he wanted a couple of hours by himself or with friends on father's day, as long as it wasn't the whole day, go right ahead.
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| Posted 6/14/14 7:52 AM |
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wakemeup
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Posted by dlj97
Thanks everyone! I get that it is "his" day - I would just think he would want to spend it with his kids (or his dad) and not with his friend. I get that he is spending most of the day with us, but I also think it is just weird to go to a friend's house on a Sunday night (friend lives 40 min away). I also think going to the spa alone is not the same.
It is the same though - if going to the spa alone is something you want to do on "your" day how is that different from what he wants to do on "his" day?
I agree with the PPs, if he is spending the day with his family I would gladly let him spend the evening how he wants. 
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Bridex100
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Father's Day is his day so I would not be annoyed if he wanted to go out at night with his friend. I would be upset if he left for the whole day and did not spend time with his family.
My kids go to bed at 8:30. We eat dinner at 5:30. 7pm would be get ready for bed time and I would let DH have a pass.
I know a few moms who wanted alone time for Mother's Day. Last year, 3 of my mom friends went to the spa together. I don't see any difference.
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| Posted 6/14/14 8:59 AM |
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bella321
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
As long as the majority of day was spent as "family time", it wouldn't bother me if he wanted to go out at night to wind down a little.
If DH was looking to hang out with his friends at, say 1pm, I would definitely take issue with that.
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| Posted 6/14/14 10:11 AM |
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Loveme
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Wouldn't bother me at all. I would probably enjoy the break
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| Posted 6/14/14 10:28 AM |
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Jbon630
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
I'm actually taking my daughter out for part of the day so DH can be alone at home. I think as long as he's spending part of the day with you, I wouldn't be annoyed.
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Re: Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by dlj97
Thanks everyone! I get that it is "his" day - I would just think he would want to spend it with his kids (or his dad) and not with his friend. I get that he is spending most of the day with us, but I also think it is just weird to go to a friend's house on a Sunday night (friend lives 40 min away). I also think going to the spa alone is not the same.
It is the same though - if going to the spa alone is something you want to do on "your" day how is that different from what he wants to do on "his" day?
I agree with the PPs, if he is spending the day with his family I would gladly let him spend the evening how he wants.
ITA with this.
I also don't think it is different than going to the spa for alone time.
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Mrs213
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Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
Wouldn't bother me in the least. It's his day. 7pm over his friends to watch the game is completely reasonable after spending the whole day with you. This is a BIG game lol
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| Posted 6/14/14 7:10 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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Would you be annoyed? DH and Father's Day
7pm no biggy....kids will be going to bed anyway
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