would you be mad if your DC did not get a gift from a close family member?

I am so hurt that my DD was not even acknowledged for her 1st Christmas.

I send out their gifts weeks prior to Christmas and get the response of money being tight and being busy?

You can't get an ornament or something sentamental? You are that busy? To me it speaks leaps and bounds of what you think of your family!

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We didn't receive a gift for my son from BIL and SIL - I made sure to drop their kids gifts off at the house the next weekend.

We haven't heard anything about a gift so I'm going to assume there is none.

In my mind I have been done with these people anyway so this is really just icing on the cake.

If they even bought a gift - I could never hold onto one for WEEKS after Christmas and not give it to a child. So so rude!

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honestly, no. it happened to me this year. i was just upset that they didn't call to say merry christmas.

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Did the person buy anyone else a gift? If so and dd was the only one who didnt, then yes I would be very upset.

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If I read your post correctly, said family member HAS children that you routinely buy for, correct?
Then yes, I'd be ticked.

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Yes I would be mad!!!!!


Don't buy their kids any more gifts-- they'll get the hint!

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Ok, well, yes, since you bought for their kids and didn't get anything in return.

But let me give a little bit of a different spin. Some years I buy for my niece and nephew and DS gets nothing b/c they are short on money. Especially since it involves either ordering online or shipping the gift. There have been other instances where they bought for DS and I didn't buy for them. I guess I don't really get offended by it b/c I've been in that spot too.

ETA: If DS didn't get a gift from my SIL, I'd figure money was tight.

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I'd be annoyed if it was family, and I'm a little spiteful...I wouldn't send a thing the following year, or at least wait to send it AFTER I received and give the same excuse...

Childish, I know, I know, but whatever...what goes around comes around in my opinion...

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Yes, I'd be upset. They could have at least gotten something small to let you know that they were thinking of your DD.

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Not getting a gift wouldn't bother me as long as they called or sent a card or whatever.

My dad forgot my 18th birthday and DS's 2nd birthday completely. No card, no call, nothing. That broke my heart.

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I am trying hard not to be, but I am holding a gruge.

Josh's b-day is a week before Christmas.

MIL did not send a thing. not even a card.

Christmas, MIL and FIL did not send anything...

I sent them both tins of cookies, christms cards...money is tight for me too, but I found a way.

My vow of poverty nun sister knit him things and sent him a b-day gift.

My FIL can't work...so fine. I don't take issue with him. He sent Josh 10.00 for his b-day.

MIL...ughh. She's in a "slow season" currently. So if you aren't getting work, wouldn't you apply for a seasonal job????

Her b-day was late Nov. I sent her a snapfish book....even though it was free, I still took the time and sent it to her. She loved it.

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yes. this year my BF uncle gave our 2 neices a present and nothing for Alexis. Everyone was shocked, its very rude in my opinion.

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money was tight for me but i manage to buy my nephew a few things and took my niece out to dinner. i would feel bad if i didnt

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Thank you for giving me opinions.

Trust me I know what it's like to be tight on money...I am not working and my DH works tons so I can stay home with DD (down here in NC the salaries I am being offered doen't make it worthwhile to put DD in daycare).
We just bought a house over the summer, that is not even completely furnished, but I am able to buy this person and their kid a gift. I took the time to think out too. I don't expect something extravigant, but something that took some thought would have meant something to me and to have my DD be able to look back on.

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I think most would be hurt. Money can be tight but even just a small token goes a long way. I have been there too so I totally understand.

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SIL got no gift for DS this Christmas, nor for his birthday which was a little before.

It annoys me, but she has issues IMO. Doesn't excuse it, but I don't want to get bent out of shape over it either. Like some said, unless you are destitute, some little thing is probably possible.

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