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Eva Luna
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by DandN
I'd give a bit more than what he gave to you (taking into account the time that passed - prices have gone up, etc) but since he gave a modest gift, I would not give your usual amount.
This is my answer too!
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give what I got and here's why...
I was the last of my family and friends to get married.
Many of my cousins got married when I was in college (88-92) and I would work extra shifts at minimum wage to get the $100 I could give them. I didn't have a "pot to you know what in". My Dad was always super generous with them too. He was on strike with the phone company for 11 months while I was at a private college  and still gave my cousin's $500 each for their weddings and that was 15 years ago!!! One he never got a thank you from.
Fast forward to mine (05), my one cousin who has 8 kids... so let's see $500 for wedding, plus $300 for each of the first 6 babies... $2300 from my Dad alone and what did I get from them????
A bounced check for $200 that cost me $40 in bank fees Problem is I can't do anything about it because my family is done having weddings and children. I learned that my family is so F R E A K I N cheap!!
If the circumstances do arrive they are getting what they gave me. That's what I would do.
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| Posted 10/8/06 3:14 PM |
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jodi714
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by Eva Luna
Posted by DandN
I'd give a bit more than what he gave to you (taking into account the time that passed - prices have gone up, etc) but since he gave a modest gift, I would not give your usual amount.
This is my answer too!
Me too!
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| Posted 10/8/06 3:18 PM |
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angnick
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
i would DEFINITELY give what i got from them..
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| Posted 10/8/06 3:41 PM |
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giggles
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by sjm71505
Posted by Eva Luna
Posted by DandN
I'd give a bit more than what he gave to you (taking into account the time that passed - prices have gone up, etc) but since he gave a modest gift, I would not give your usual amount.
This is my answer too!
Me too!
I agree.
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| Posted 10/8/06 3:58 PM |
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antoinette
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Our good friend who happened to also be in our wedding parry didnt really have much money when we got married- he didnt chip in for the bach party, my dh wound up paying for his tux and he only gave us 50$ for a gift and he brought a date with him.
3 years later he gets married and Dh has to pay for bach party, tux, hotel and travel expenses since his wedding is out of state. We gave him $150 as a gift. We feel that was more than generous considering WE are now in a tight finacial position, with me not working anymore and the baby and the other expenses that were involved that we paid for. That is not the usually wedding gift but considering everything else involved we think its more than fair plus its all we really could give.
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| Posted 10/8/06 4:08 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by Redhead
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I would give what I normally give when I go to a wedding.
JMO
i agree
I agree.
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| Posted 10/8/06 4:25 PM |
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I would give what I normally give when I go to a wedding.
JMO
same here
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| Posted 10/8/06 4:26 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by giggles
Posted by sjm71505
Posted by Eva Luna
Posted by DandN
I'd give a bit more than what he gave to you (taking into account the time that passed - prices have gone up, etc) but since he gave a modest gift, I would not give your usual amount.
This is my answer too!
Me too!
I agree.
I agree as well. Even though it doesn't have to cover what he paid per head at Russo's because that place is very expensive.
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| Posted 10/8/06 4:44 PM |
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oakslady
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
absolutely
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:35 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would also give what I would normally give for a wedding. I guess I am a freak on the site (and LIW) because I really didn't care what we got as gifts, I was just happy most people were able to come.
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:37 PM |
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ssbride05
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
We went through a similar situation recently with DH's cousin. They came to our wedding and didn't really give a lot at all! I really wasn't upset, b/c I was glad they were there and could make it. It truly was a gift amount that made DH's entire family uncomfortable.
Fast forward to a month ago. We were invitied to this cousin's wedding and the same issue arose. I thought we should give more, but DH's family insisted we give the same in return.
I really didnt; feel comfortable and wanted to give a little more.. My opinion is to give what you can afford first and foremost, and if you can, give a little more but not what you would normally give.
it's such a hard sitiation.. good luck! I am sure you'll make the right decision!
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:40 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would def give him what he gave you.
I actually had a single friend tell me that she keeps tracks of what she has given me and all my friends and she expects the same back!!
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:41 PM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give him the same gift he gave us.
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:52 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by HillandRon
whatever was given to me at my wedding, that couple will get the same back.
This is the same rule I use for all of the gifts my son gets for his birthdays, bris, etc...
If he knows what it costs for a wedding, then he knows he will get back what he gave...
In fact, my mother is always calling me to ask what so and so gave for the my wedding so she knows how much to give back.. Thank goodness, i still keep the list
Pretty much the same here. And exactly the same for my mom!!
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:54 PM |
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Wendy1220
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I'd give what I normally give at a wedding.
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| Posted 10/8/06 10:54 PM |
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Jenziba
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give exactly what he gave you.
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| Posted 10/8/06 11:21 PM |
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july06bride
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give the same, or maybe a little bit more-
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| Posted 10/8/06 11:23 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Instead of a cash gift, we don't you give a gift that the value can't be determined - like a piece of crystal?
That would solve the DH problem.
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| Posted 10/9/06 8:05 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would probably give a little bit more than what I got. Or, I would at least try to cover my plate. That's about it. I had a friend who got married, I was in her bridal party and she lived in Florida so I had to fly down and pay for a hotel. I also had to buy the dress, shoes, etc. I had to have my hair done the day of the wedding at the salon she wanted and the way she wanted it. It cost me a bundle to be in this wedding. So I gave her a $100 gift. I know it seems cheap, but I was broke at the time and it cost so much for me to get there. Plus she got married in Florida, in a hotel, and she told me the plate charge was $30 pp, so I didn't feel so bad. Well, when I got married she was invited to be in my bridal party. She didn't participate because she got pregnant and she didn't come to the wedding. She sent me a check for $100. Now she is a VERY good friend. So, in light of this, I would probably give close to what a gave, maybe a little more, but not much.
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| Posted 10/9/06 8:17 AM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by nferrandi
We would probably either give what we got, or if it's really under what we'd normally give, we'd meet halfway. Like if you normally give $300 and this guy gave you $100, then give $200.
I'd do the same.
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| Posted 10/9/06 9:06 AM |
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Reese1106
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give what you feel is right. When you got married, he may have been going through a difficult time. And even though he wasn't surprised now at what weddings cost, that doesn't mean he knew it then. I would just give whatever you would give a friend. JMHO.
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| Posted 10/9/06 9:26 AM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
We gave more to DH's cousin than what they gave us because we knew they were in a less desirable financial situation then we were. We knew they could really use the money.
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| Posted 10/9/06 9:34 AM |
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AimeeE2006
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
I would give what I got. JMO
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| Posted 10/9/06 9:36 AM |
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MrsA
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Re: Would you give what you got? (wedding related)
Posted by Eva Luna
Posted by DandN
I'd give a bit more than what he gave to you (taking into account the time that passed - prices have gone up, etc) but since he gave a modest gift, I would not give your usual amount.
This is my answer too!
Agree
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