Re: would you move far away?

Absolutely yes. I have wanted to live down south since before i met DH. The only issue would be my son who has some special needs. However, if I could find an excellent program for him I would move in a heartbeat.

While DH's family would not be a large issue, this move would impact my parents in a big way. They are very close to their grandson and are not "travelers." Either they would decide to retire near us or they would only get to see us a couple times a year (whereas now we live 10 minutes apart and see them weekly).

Re: would you move far away?

I would take it in .000001 seconds, as long as it was a nice place for my kids.

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No, I couldnt do it. Dh and my families are all on LI or in the surrounding areas. They are great about helping out, watching DD one day a week and babysitting when we need it, its really invaluable. I want my DD to have a closer relationship with her grandparents than I had with my grandparents who lived in Florida. I wasnt close with them since we only saw them a couple of times a year. I want them to be a part of her everday lilfe, not just relatives she sees for a week every 6 months.

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I would.
A 10 hour car ride, may be a 2 hour flight.
Family and Friends would find a way to come and visit.

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I would and I did!!! Best decision ever!

NY to TX so 24hr car ride, 3.5-4hr plane ride. Although unlike some other posters are family was not our world in NY. Before we move we were actually living with my mom but it was a very tense situation (one of the pushes we needed to get up and move halfway across the country) and honestly my relationship with her is better now that we're further away!
We knew no one except for some distant cousins on my husband's side. 3yrs later and we both have lots of friends, a reliable baby-sitter and without asking my brother and his family followed us over here last year. It's definitely awesome having them here but we would have still been happy with just our immediate family as well.

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Re: would you move far away?

Posted by Hofstra26

H-E-L-L yes I would do it..........no question. I would be packing my boxes, but that's just me.

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Re: would you move far away?

If it meant being home with my kids, YES.

Moving very far from family would be hard, but for me, if I had to work to get by and quality of life wasn't what it could be..then yes, i'd move. I'd want and need those years home with my kids.

I am lucky in that I live in MD...I am about 4 hours from family, so i do get to see them pretty often. Especially in the summer, i see them like half of it!

There are always pros and cons to each situation. Some responded that its no good to have a big home if theres nobody around to share it with, but there are other factors in your decision. If being a SAHM is a big thing you want to do, then it is absolutely worth it to move. It's a few years and then that time is gone. Family can visit and you can visit them, but you can't get the time back with your kids. That is how I'd view it! But everyone is different and you have to do what is best for you.

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We just moved OOS. My DH lost his job in December and my hours were reduced in the beginning of Feb. We were struggling before the job issues and we were losing our apartment. My DH applied for a job and was offered a position in Tampa. We had a choice. We could stay in NY and move back in with my ILs (we lived with them for a year) or up and move to FL.

While I cannot stay home permanently I'm able to be a SAHM for a little bit. I never would've gotten that opportunity if we were in NY.

We know absolutely no one down here. My FIL is retired from the airlines so him and my MIL fly standby for free. So they were down here for a week when we first came down and they are coming down again next week for a little over week.

I miss my family but I was up in NY for some dental work last weekend. In June we are driving up to NY to spend father's day on LI, and my family is coming down to Disney in July.

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I could never do it, perhaps if grandparents on both sides had passed away otherwise those relationships are too important. DS sees my parents every day and my husband's every weekend, to me this is priceless.

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We did it when I was pregnant with DD #1. Best thing we did for our family. I can stay home. We have a beautiful house, live in an amazing school district, have made wonderful friends. Yes, we miss everyone, but it was the right thing for our family. I do wish we were closer & could visit more, but with twin almost 1 year olds, it just can't happen right now. We live in Illinois, so the drive is very long. Flying has gotten so expensive. When we first moved & only had 1 DD, flights were dirt cheap & we got back 4+ times/year.
People are so friendly here. Life is so different. Most times we are very happy with our decision.

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Yes, and we've done it. We don't regret moving to NC at all. We would have struggled alot on LI and to US, we wanted more breathing room and to get more for our money. We had to do what was right for OUR little family. We have a new home, several acres and make almost the same as we did up in NY. This August, I will be either scaling back to 2 days per week or staying at home entirely with our boys. I could NOT have done that on LI. To us, having the opportunity to stay home was worth it 10000%.

We do miss our families, don't get me wrong.....but we go up a few times a year, and have them come down a few times as well.

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Yes and plan on doing it in the near future. My dh has been applying and as soon as he gets hired were out of here. It would be a 4 hour car drive which isnt far far away but still far LOL.

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No not right now. Kids are small I want them around family. In the future if dh lost his job or took a pay cut, I would consider moving

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I WOULD MOVE IN A HEARTBEAT!!!!!
Life is too short to live in constant worry about making it day to day! If there is a better place for you, go!!!! You can always come back and visit your family! For me life is an adventure!!! It's no fun if you're stuck in a rut all the time!

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A ten hour car ride, thats not that far! lol. I moved abroad when I got married and have been here for years, Its fine but its really bloody hard raising kids with no family support network around you. Friends are awesome, but I often wish I were living closer to my family.

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I don't think I could - but I'm not IN that situation, so who knows?

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Yes!!! Say when and I will start packing!

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Re: would you move far away?

I think I would if circumstances were different. We never will because of DH's job and my parents being here but I think about it alot.

Re: would you move far away?

No.

I know a bunch of people that moved away for the same opportunity but ended up coming back because they missed their families. That would totally be me, I am too close with my fam.

Re: would you move far away?

Oh yes. The only thing id miss is my mother but with lower cost of living we could afford to take her with us. dd has no cousins aunts uncles. ILs can pack it up and move/visit by us if they want otherwise no loss.

Re: would you move far away?

Absolutely I would. You can always visit family. It is hard to build much for your children's future if everything is paycheck to paycheck.

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I personally, could never do it. My DS sees my parents 1-2 times a week and my inlaws 3-4 times a week. I want him to grow up spending summer days at my parents pool with his cousins, and knowing who his great grandparents are. They are in their mid 70's and in VERY good health but I know they would never drive more than 2 hours or so, it is to much for them at this point. So we would never see them. For a short time when I was PG we considered looking in North or South Carolina- but for me, I would rather live in a smaller home and have to work but be near my family and friends. I know I would make new friends, but that is not the same as family as my best friends who I have had for years and consider just as much my family as my blood relatives. I just couldn't do it. BUT, what is important to me isn't necessarily important to everyone else and I think in the end it is a very personal desicion. Good luck!!

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I would totally do it, if if my husband was sure to have a secure job, with great pay.

my husbands family is not in NY at all so we wouldnt be leaving them. we just have my parents here and they are retired and would probobly end up moving where ever we go, or at least doing extended vacations.
i dont have much close friends anymore, since becoming a SAHM, because we cant afford go out and many of my friends are single.