Would your feelings be hurt and would you say something

A woman I work with (she's in her 60's) I used to joke with all the time. Lets call her jane (to protect her identity) all the time. Our lunches are 30 min and she always takes 45 min or even an hour. I call her long lunch jane. She always laughed. One day she told a vendor "you are not making my day" and we joke about it all the time.

Well today I have never been so hurt by a remark from a co-worker. Jane was on the phone with a vendor screaming at him and sayin things way out of line. I and another co-worker turned around and looked at Jane. Jane looked directly at me and said "you shut up. Just sit there and do your work. mind your own business" My co-worker looked at me with her mouth wide open. Where did that come from???

Whatever I let it go.

Then I was talking to someone else and I said well I pulled a Jane. I was tough.

Well Jane turned around and said "no you are not like Jane, you will never be like jane and I dont appreciate you saying those things. so just shut your mouth, get back in your seat and do your own work. Dont worry about what I do and just shut up"

Well the co-worker I was originally talking to put her head down and then IM's me "dont take it personally. Dont get upset. She's having a bad day. She likes you, just please dont be upset"

I was furious. I could have told around and said a lot of things but I didnt. I just shut my mouth and honestly I refust to talk to Jane.

I spoke to my boss on accident about it. Someone said to her well I know we all had a bad day Jane snapped at Mel for no reason. I told my boss I was upset. All I want is an apology. I dont want a forced apology I want Jane to realize what she did was wrong and I want it to be an honest "I'm sorry"

I told my co-worker honestly I don't want to talk to Jane. I barely want to look at her and until she realizes she was wrong I have nothig to say to her.

I know I shouldnt take it to heart but it really hurt me. She shouldnt have blown up on the floor and their were a lot of other ways she could have said something to me. Fact remains she didnt and she told me to shut up.

What do you think.

Re: Would your feelings be hurt and would you say something

Posted by HarleyGirlFLA

A woman I work with (she's in her 60's) I used to joke with all the time. Lets call her jane (to protect her identity) all the time. Our lunches are 30 min and she always takes 45 min or even an hour. I call her long lunch jane. She always laughed. One day she told a vendor "you are not making my day" and we joke about it all the time.

Well today I have never been so hurt by a remark from a co-worker. Jane was on the phone with a vendor screaming at him and sayin things way out of line. I and another co-worker turned around and looked at Jane. Jane looked directly at me and said "you shut up. Just sit there and do your work. mind your own business" My co-worker looked at me with her mouth wide open. Where did that come from???

Whatever I let it go.

Then I was talking to someone else and I said well I pulled a Jane. I was tough.

Well Jane turned around and said "no you are not like Jane, you will never be like jane and I dont appreciate you saying those things. so just shut your mouth, get back in your seat and do your own work. Dont worry about what I do and just shut up"

Well the co-worker I was originally talking to put her head down and then IM's me "dont take it personally. Dont get upset. She's having a bad day. She likes you, just please dont be upset"

I was furious. I could have told around and said a lot of things but I didnt. I just shut my mouth and honestly I refust to talk to Jane.

I spoke to my boss on accident about it. Someone said to her well I know we all had a bad day Jane snapped at Mel for no reason. I told my boss I was upset. All I want is an apology. I dont want a forced apology I want Jane to realize what she did was wrong and I want it to be an honest "I'm sorry"

I told my co-worker honestly I don't want to talk to Jane. I barely want to look at her and until she realizes she was wrong I have nothig to say to her.

I know I shouldnt take it to heart but it really hurt me. She shouldnt have blown up on the floor and their were a lot of other ways she could have said something to me. Fact remains she didnt and she told me to shut up.

What do you think.

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Re: Would your feelings be hurt and would you say something

Everyone has a bad day, but, for her to yell at you and tell you to shut up is way out of line. You have every right to feel hurt and, unless, a sincere apology was forthcoming, those would be the last words she would ever speak to me.

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Thanks.

I feel like I should of said something but part of me tells me I am a better person for not because it just makes her look even more of a rude crotchy old goat.

At least it's the weekend and next friday night is my monthly drinks out with the IT guy I am really friendly with.

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I would report her to HR!

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I wouldve reported her. I admit, I wouldve been hurt too. Having a bad day is No excuse for her to talk to you like that. She shouldve apologized today!
Sorry that happened.

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Posted by HarleyGirlFLA

Thanks.

I feel like I should of said something but part of me tells me I am a better person for not because it just makes her look even more of a rude crotchy old goat.

At least it's the weekend and next friday night is my monthly drinks out with the IT guy I am really friendly with.

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I would have kicked her in the face!!!!

I wouldn't talk to her anymore...even If she does apologize..It will never be the same...or Maybe when she does apologize you can just tell her to shut up!

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Posted by Nicole728

I would have kicked her in the face!!!!

I wouldn't talk to her anymore...even If she does apologize..It will never be the same...or Maybe when she does apologize you can just tell her to shut up!

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completely unaceptable.

it just pizzes me off to hear how they treat you there sometimes.

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I understand that people have bad days, but her for to tell you to shut up is uncalled for. My feelings would have been hurt and most likely, I probably would have said something back.

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Posted by Aliasmom

completely unaceptable.

it just pizzes me off to hear how they treat you there sometimes.

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Thanks everyone for your kind words and feedback.

Just amazes me how someone you sit near for 8 hours a day 5 days a week could just turn around and tell you to shut up because someone pi$$ed in their cheerios.

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Is she older? She sounds like a miserable older person. And someone who everyone "tip toes" around. I hate people like that. I would have said something. She doesn't respect you, and that's a BAD thing at work.

Sorry you went through that!

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I would be upset and pi$$ed!!

Message edited 9/15/2006 9:16:21 PM.

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Posted by sasha

Is she older? She sounds like a miserable older person. And someone who everyone "tip toes" around. I hate people like that. I would have said something. She doesn't respect you, and that's a BAD thing at work.

Sorry you went through that!

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Posted by MrsERod

Posted by nyteacher13

What do I think? I would have told her to F- OFF.

DITTO!