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Smalls72
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WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Here's the situation. My DD is born on the same day as my niece. My SIL is a pain in my ***, and my niece at the age of 5, everything is always about it. It's not that I don't love her, but she's kind of a brat. (I blame my SIL for that)
With that said I want my DD to have her own birthday party, especially for her first one. And truthfully I want them all seperate.
WWYD, suck it up and have them together or just do your own thing for your DC and if so what would you tell SIL.
My girlfriend used to share her birthday with her cousin and said she always hated it.
Please help....
TIA
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KittyCat
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
i would 100% have my OWN party maybe a full weekend or 2 apart. It will be a little different when they are older (8 or so) then you can probably have family parties together and friends from classrooms as a seperate party.
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| Posted 7/2/09 10:55 AM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
My 4 girlies
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would have seperate parties ! MAybe try to plan with her a date for her DD ,and then yours a different week or vice versa !
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| Posted 7/2/09 10:57 AM |
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pharmcat2000
Mom of 2 + 1
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Catherine
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by KittyCat
i would 100% have my OWN party maybe a full weekend or 2 apart. It will be a little different when they are older (8 or so) then you can probably have family parties together and friends from classrooms as a seperate party.
I agree with this. And I'd just tell SIL beforehand, "I hope you won't be upset, but I just think our DDs should each have their own day".
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| Posted 7/2/09 10:58 AM |
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SweetT
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Ali
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would have my own birthday party. A first birthday is all about your DD!
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:00 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would absolutely have separate parties, especially for her first birthday and probably thereafter too!
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:10 AM |
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Smalls72
OMG, time is going way to fast
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Bali
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Thanks so much!!!
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:10 AM |
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littlejoy06
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by SweetT
I would have my own birthday party. A first birthday is all about your DD!
ITA!!!
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:11 AM |
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kerrycec03
Mom of 2 beautiful boys!!
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would have your own party.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:12 AM |
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nrvbrd
LIF Adolescent
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Kysha
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Definitely separate parties.
Your birthday is the one day that is YOURS. I would not share it.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:13 AM |
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babyonthebrain
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Your child deserves his own party! Specially because its his first birthday!!!
Maybe in the future you can combine parties but this time I would absolutely not! Just tell her you'll do it another year and that this year is a very special one and you would rather have a separate party.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:16 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Definitely separate. DC are about 3 weeks apart (and 3 years), and we always make sure they have separate parties. On DS's 3rd b-day, I told DW "Whatever you do, don't give birth today. I don't want DC to share the same birthday..." Both DW and DD cooperated with me... 
I would have your DD's party whenever YOU want, and visit your niece the day after her actual b-day, just to let everyone know that your DD is your #1 priority, and even though you love your niece, she has to take a backseat to your own DD.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:29 AM |
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aliwnec10
mom of 3 boys
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Ali
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by jambalady
I would absolutely have separate parties, especially for her first birthday and probably thereafter too!
same here. 
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:39 AM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
For the first I would definitely have her own.
In the future-do whatever you are comfortable with. Personally, I shared my birthday with Christmas every year (I'm the 28th) so I would never make Sydnie share hers. 
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:41 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would do my own thing - even if it meant not having it on her real birthday.
For most 5 year olds - it's all about them, so don't be too hard on her.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:55 AM |
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Smalls72
OMG, time is going way to fast
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by nrthshgrl
I would do my own thing - even if it meant not having it on her real birthday.
For most 5 year olds - it's all about them, so don't be too hard on her.
Thanks, I'm usual not, but I do come home and complain to my DH. Maybe I need to lighten up abit 
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| Posted 7/2/09 12:09 PM |
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Sassyz75
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Dina
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would ONLY do joint birthdays if twins or siblings- not cousins...
So I would talk to your SIL and figure out date she is doing her DD's party- or I would pick your date first and go ahead and get the invites out first!
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| Posted 7/2/09 12:23 PM |
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Superkat
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K
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would definitely have my own party.
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| Posted 7/2/09 12:25 PM |
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by aliwnec10
Posted by jambalady
I would absolutely have separate parties, especially for her first birthday and probably thereafter too!
same here.
Agreed.
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| Posted 7/2/09 12:27 PM |
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Smalls72
OMG, time is going way to fast
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Bali
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Thanks everyone! Have a great weekend!
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| Posted 7/2/09 1:10 PM |
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saraH
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Have your own party!
My siblings and I always had a joint b-day party. We are all september babies, all in the same week. So we never really got our own party until we got to school age.
Especially for your DC's first birthday, they shouldn't have to share that.
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smdl
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by nrthshgrl
I would do my own thing - even if it meant not having it on her real birthday.
For most 5 year olds - it's all about them, so don't be too hard on her.
ITA.
DS and his cousin are 8 days apart. I make sure DS' birthday is NOT on the same day as his cousin. If they mean NOT on his birthday, that's OK.
One of my sister and I have the same birthday. For 11 years, I was on my own. Then our cake had both our names on it. I am sure my sister resented it. She NEVER had a her own cake until I moved out of my parents house. She was 14 by then.
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| Posted 7/2/09 1:40 PM |
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stephaniea
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Stephanie
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
My ds and nephew are born on the same day. We sometimes do the family cake together. (Her inlaws and my inlaws get along) As for the kids party they are separate. We just work the days. Never was an issue.
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mooshyboo
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
Posted by pharmcat2000
Posted by KittyCat
i would 100% have my OWN party maybe a full weekend or 2 apart. It will be a little different when they are older (8 or so) then you can probably have family parties together and friends from classrooms as a seperate party.
I agree with this. And I'd just tell SIL beforehand, "I hope you won't be upset, but I just think our DDs should each have their own day".
I totally agree
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| Posted 7/2/09 1:56 PM |
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Lillykat
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Re: WWYD, need advice please (sorry sorta long)
I would have separate parties IMO. But I hear you on the joint parties - my MIL always wants us to have a joint party with BIL - YES she wanted us to have a JOINT bday party for her son who is in his late 30's with my DD on her 1st and her 2nd bday (BIL's bday is 2 days after my DD#1). Needless to say DH would have no of that - but it was mentioned several times.
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