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SweetestOfPeas
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Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Would any of you say something to your MIL if she brought up babies during every single conversation?
we are TTC and it’s NONE of her business! If we told her she would tell the whole world. I’m sorry but I think it’s ridiculous that she asks EVERY single time and I really want to say something to her about it. 
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Emily
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I tell her we have a puppy and let it go...my MIL is a wonderful yet crazy lady from the Bronx so blunt is the only thing she understands.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:28 AM |
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lorich
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My MIL does... actually the ENTIRE family (his) does...
I'm to the point where I've heard it soooo much that I don't even acknowledge it anymore. It's getting a little tiredsome.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:29 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I would have you DH say something.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:30 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
My MIL does the same thing but I understand that she would be so elated if we are expecting. So, no, I do not get upset with her. She does not mean any harm.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:31 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by lululu
I would have you DH say something.
I do, he just laughs and says "well, she wants more grandchildren"  not what I want to hear.
she is something else. I already can't stand the woman, and the asking about babies just makes me dislike her more every time.
I don't think there is anything wrong with saying something like "please stop bringing up babies every time we talk".
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:32 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by lululu
I would have you DH say something.
I agree but if he won't, then you should.
Message edited 7/27/2006 11:33:33 AM.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:32 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
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Posted by lululu
I would have you DH say something.
I agree
he won't
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:33 AM |
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MsMBV
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
My MIL does this, I finally had to have DH talk to her about it. She still says stuff as does my FIL, but now hen they do I tell them...thanks for bringing it up, now that's another year I will make you wait.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:35 AM |
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MrsPorkChop
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maybe you should tell her that its not that easy and the topic is very sensitive to you. take her aside and tell her as soon as possible. then maybe she will shut her ole trap!
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:35 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I agree - I would have your DH say something to her.
I have the opposite problem. My MIL is so good about not asking but I know of three occassions where we had good news to tell her (like DH passing the CPA exam) and I could see when we told her - it wasn't what she was expecting. She's been so good about not saying anything which is great because I feel like when we do actually tell her it'll be an explosion of happy.
Tell DH to have a talk with her. She might not realize how her anticipation and excitment are coming across in a bad way.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:35 AM |
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nferrandi
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Can you just attempt to be direct with her? Tell her that her constant questioning makes you uncomfortable and you and DH will do things at your onw pace. Let her know that when there's something to share, she'll know. But to stop harassing you in the meantime.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:35 AM |
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oneday
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I think it would be fine if you told her you just really don't want to discuss it. Tell her DH and you will have a baby, if and when you choose to - and that although you know she is just excited for more grandchildren, her asking about it all the time frustrates you.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:36 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Posted by Ang-Rich
I agree - I would have your DH say something to her.
I have the opposite problem. My MIL is so good about not asking but I know of three occassions where we had good news to tell her (like DH passing the CPA exam) and I could see when we told her - it wasn't what she was expecting. She's been so good about not saying anything which is great because I feel like when we do actually tell her it'll be an explosion of happy.
Tell DH to have a talk with her. She might not realize how her anticipation and excitment are coming across in a bad way.
your MIL sounds like my Mom, very unintrusive. and that's what I am used to because that is how I was raised. his mom is so nosy and such a gossip queen 
DH will not talk to her about it.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:37 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Posted by nferrandi
Can you just attempt to be direct with her? Tell her that her constant questioning makes you uncomfortable and you and DH will do things at your onw pace. Let her know that when there's something to share, she'll know. But to stop harassing you in the meantime.
yes!! this is what I wanted to hear 
TY!! I will say that to her next time 
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:38 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Just tell her you are practicing right now and when you get to Olympic standards, then you will think about giving her grandchildren. That should shut her up 
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:42 AM |
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SuzyQ
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by nferrandi
Can you just attempt to be direct with her? Tell her that her constant questioning makes you uncomfortable and you and DH will do things at your onw pace. Let her know that when there's something to share, she'll know. But to stop harassing you in the meantime.
yes!! this is what I wanted to hear
TY!! I will say that to her next time
This sounds like the perfect thing to say. I understand why you wouldn't want her to know that you're TTC and this is a good way to avoid that. Good luck! I hope she stops bothering you.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:47 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I would definitely tell her you're not interested in talking about babies 2/7!
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:48 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by MrsRbk
Just tell her you are practicing right now and when you get to Olympic standards, then you will think about giving her grandchildren. That should shut her up
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
I don't know if this will help but when I get this from MIL I change the subject rather abruptly. She stops, she gets the hint.
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:56 AM |
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jms100303
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
We are so lucky, neither my parents or my inlaws pressure us about babies.
I would definately have DH say something to them, you don't need the added stress. It is a very private thing, for you and DH - noone else!
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| Posted 7/27/06 11:56 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
If she is so interested in your sex life...start asking her about hers!
Something along the lines:
"Well since you like to talk about what is private in my bedroom, let us talk about what is private in yours...When is the last time you gave (insert FIL name here) a blow job??
If that doesnt stop her, really I don't know what will.
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
eta: i would tactfully say to her that you'd prefer to keep your intimate life private.
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by DebG
If she is so interested in your sex life...start asking her about hers!
Something along the lines:
"Well since you like to talk about what is private in my bedroom, let us talk about what is private in yours...When is the last time you gave (insert FIL name here) a blow job??
If that doesnt stop her, really I don't know what will.
she's a widow
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DebG
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Re: Xpost: need opinions re: IL's!
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by DebG
If she is so interested in your sex life...start asking her about hers!
Something along the lines:
"Well since you like to talk about what is private in my bedroom, let us talk about what is private in yours...When is the last time you gave (insert FIL name here) a blow job??
If that doesnt stop her, really I don't know what will.
she's a widow
OOh my, now I feel horrible.
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