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I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

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lipglossjunky73
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I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Telling them I am married and pregnant...

What do you guys think?

Posted 12/14/06 3:38 PM
 
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munchkinbugs
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Re: I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Posted by lipglossjunky73

Telling them I am married and pregnant...

What do you guys think?




I think it's a good idea. Do they really know you're not married??? You don't have any relatives that may have told them?

Posted 12/14/06 7:20 PM
 

Jenhos
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Re: I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Depends on what you expect to get out of it. They may see it as you opening the door for a relationship. If that isn't what you are looking for I wouldn't send it.

My husband has a VERY strained relationship with his dad and keeps contact to a minimum for the exact reason he doens't want to open the door.

Posted 12/15/06 10:37 AM
 

mikeswife06
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Re: I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Posted by Jenhos

Depends on what you expect to get out of it. They may see it as you opening the door for a relationship. If that isn't what you are looking for I wouldn't send it.

My husband has a VERY strained relationship with his dad and keeps contact to a minimum for the exact reason he doens't want to open the door.



I agree with this. Also, think about the reaction you are expecting. Especially being pregnant might not be the time to bring on added emotion and stress. I just know how much these things hurt and now is such a happy time. Just think about it...Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/19/06 4:52 PM
 

peabody
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Re: I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Posted by lipglossjunky73

Telling them I am married and pregnant...

What do you guys think?




The only thing I think is," Will it help you?"

I was estranged from my mom and sister for about a year after my wedding.

I finally let things go and they are back in my life. But to be honest, I feel better overall. It's weird, now there are boundries, but I do feel overall it was a good decision to let them back in.

It was HARD and took a while.

What I am trying to say, is do the best thing for yourself. Do what makes you feel better.

If you ever need to talk, please feel free to FM.

Posted 12/21/06 1:01 AM
 

lipglossjunky73
My Everything!

Member since 11/05

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Re: I decided to send a letter to my estranged mom and sister...

Ladies -

thanks for your responses.

I want nothing from them. I even sent the letter, type-written, from work with my work logo on it - that way if my mom tries to get in touch with me, its through work and nor through my home.

I just feel they should know they have another family member somewhere. They should know I am married and soon to be a mom.... I feel ambivalent to it still, even though I know they received the letter by now.

Posted 12/21/06 8:55 AM
 
 

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