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Merf99
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
OMG! That is so funny. But don't think DH and I haven't thought - what if that happened?????? LOL!!!!
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CookiePuss
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Posted by Merf99
Thank you so much for all of your advice. I am working from home today so I am able to see what goes on (although I am sure she won't be left in the swnig for hours). I am going to tell her I spoke to the doctor since she was SO cranky last night and he wants me to keep a log of when she eats, sleeps and poops. So at her next check-uphe can see about patterns.
I will talk to DH about telling her we are installing surveillance cameras so we can see her. But I'm just worried she will know they were alrady there since we won't be putting anything additional. I guess we can say that the alarm sensors (which are really cameras) are being changed to turn into cameras.
I wouldn't even go that far. I have a journal that I keep. She writes everything down that happens during the day because I want to know. That is reason enough.
Do you get to watch in real time? If you are hesitant about telling her there are cameras installed, you can always call when you know she isn't doing what you want her to do and ask her what is going on. See how that works.
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| Posted 1/23/07 8:49 AM |
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Merf99
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
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Posted by Merf99
Thank you so much for all of your advice. I am working from home today so I am able to see what goes on (although I am sure she won't be left in the swnig for hours). I am going to tell her I spoke to the doctor since she was SO cranky last night and he wants me to keep a log of when she eats, sleeps and poops. So at her next check-uphe can see about patterns.
I will talk to DH about telling her we are installing surveillance cameras so we can see her. But I'm just worried she will know they were alrady there since we won't be putting anything additional. I guess we can say that the alarm sensors (which are really cameras) are being changed to turn into cameras.
I wouldn't even go that far. I have a journal that I keep. She writes everything down that happens during the day because I want to know. That is reason enough.
Do you get to watch in real time? If you are hesitant about telling her there are cameras installed, you can always call when you know she isn't doing what you want her to do and ask her what is going on. See how that works.
OK so today I'm going to tell her, starting tomorrow, when I'm at work, we are keeping logs. And no, I can't watch it in real time yet- we are trying but my company won't allow it because of some firewalls. Other wise I definitely would be calling when I see this happening.
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:02 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
I know how hard it is. I'm sorry you are going through this.
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:06 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Posted by Seles81
lying definitly would make me made enough to fire her. I would start looking for someone else and in the meantime take away the swing, either hide or take it apart that way she has to interact with her.
I agree with this - actually, this was one of our criteria when looking at daycares - many of them use swings, and god knows how long the babies stay in the swing during the day. The daycare program we chose specifically does NOT use swings and the director told us the reason being that they want the babies to have as much interaction during the day as possible, and that they tend to be ignored when swings are around (mind you, I used the swing OFTEN those early months to get Alex to sleep). I would look for someone else because you aren't just looking for someone that you *know* won't ever harm your daughter, but you're paying this money for someone to INTERACT with her as well. It's one thing if she's sleeping in the swing for the 2-3 hours - my daughter used to do that all the time. But, if your nanny is plopping her in the swing and keeping her in there while she's awake, that's a problem. You CAN find someone who will fill both roles
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:13 AM |
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:25 AM |
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Michelle
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Good Luck Meredith, my SIL has her sitter keep a log and I think it is a great idea. We never did it with mine but I wish I would have, since there are times that I wonder what did they do all morning.
I am surprised that the nanny doesn't expect thier to be cameras, I would be nervous that there was if I was a nany, since everyone has them these days.
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:28 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
When I was interviewing nannies, I told them all that there would be cameras.
A good nanny is hard to find so I am hesitant to say fire her immediately over this. At the same time, the lying does make me uncomfortable and I wouldn't be giving her more opportunities to lie to prove to myself that she will.
As awkward as it may be, I think I would just tell her we going to install cameras (don't tell her you've already been watching).
Good luck and keep us posted!
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:48 AM |
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| Posted 1/23/07 9:48 AM |
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Nicole728
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Sorry to crash your board...but I would def give her a log to write in, to document times your DC eats and sleeps...and the if the swing thing really bothers you I would take it apart and put it away...Also i would tell the nanny...while DC is sleeping you expect her to do a, b and c....as a former nanny nap time, was chore time...i did laundry and cleaned the house while the child was napping...after everything was done, then and only then did I watch TV or my own stuff.
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| Posted 1/23/07 10:19 AM |
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Merf99
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
I appreciate all of your input. And like a few people said, a good nanny is very hard to find so I'm not apt to fire her right now. Today, I've asked her to do quite a few things and they were done (granted I was working from home today) but now that she knows what I want, lets see if she does it tomorrow when I get into work.
And I am going to ask her to keep a log. I have the pages from when I had a baby nurse so she can just fill it in.
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| Posted 1/23/07 12:41 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
IMO...I dont think you should fire her. I think you should give her a list of things to be done and tell her write the babies naps down etc... SPELL IT OUT if you have to. I think trustworthy people are hard to find and it sounds like you generally think shes good. The lying thing I would have to dismiss....ONLY bc people stray truth all the time except they are not on camera. Imagine if everyone was taped at all times. If you saw her beating your child or TOTALLY ignoring the child thats one thing. I would keep an eye on the cam and see what happens after you crate your list. Good Luck to you!
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Emily77
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
I would 100% get rid of her. She lied to you about what she was doing during the day and there is no excuse for leaving a baby in a sing for hours at a time.
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| Posted 1/23/07 1:46 PM |
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Mom-2-Liam
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
I think the main point here is she lied. Granted it wasn't about your DD but she told you she didn't have time to clean, yet she didn't do a thing but watch TV while DD was swinging away. If she's going to have DD swing for 2 hours like that she could have done some housework. I don't know, lying to an employer, is a big no no to me.
But how would you tell her w/o having her figure out you have the nanny cam?
I hope things work out!
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Mom-2-Liam
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Posted by Merf99
Thank you so much for all of your advice. I am working from home today so I am able to see what goes on (although I am sure she won't be left in the swnig for hours). I am going to tell her I spoke to the doctor since she was SO cranky last night and he wants me to keep a log of when she eats, sleeps and poops. So at her next check-uphe can see about patterns.
I will talk to DH about telling her we are installing surveillance cameras so we can see her. But I'm just worried she will know they were alrady there since we won't be putting anything additional. I guess we can say that the alarm sensors (which are really cameras) are being changed to turn into cameras.
She may feel uncomfortable with that and want to quit...but it's up to you if you want her to know. It will keep her on her toes, though!
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FelAndJon
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Re: Problem with our nanny- need advice
Meredith, how did this work out for you?
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Im sure he watched that one a few times 
