Planning the Month.

This is going to sound complete stupid but here goes anyway.

I have been TTC for about 6 months. I would very much like to be pregnant. But if I wind up getting AF this month *warning stupidity straight ahead* I kind of want to suspend trying for next month because I don't want to have a baby in January.

Is there anyone else who kind of has an idea of a month that they would ideally like to give birth or is it just me?

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i always think what month will i give birth if i get pregnant now, but whatever month it is i don't care i just want to get pregnant

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As long as my baby is healthy, I could care less what month they're born in. My SIL didn't want to be pg over the summer and wanted a May baby for both her first and 2nd- she started trying in september and low and behold- BOOM- IMMEDIATELY pregnant. Her 2nd one wan't planned, but once again- it just 'happened' to be a May baby.
DH and I have been TTC for way too long w/ no success... so I'd be happy w/ any month of the year.

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I can understand what you are saying. I always wanted a fall baby, especially a Libra because I am one, but after trying for months I'll be happy any time it happens....

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I hear ya. If you want to skip January, go for it. I was thinking of starting again next month, but that would mean January. Both DH & my bday are in january. I also don't like having a january birthday, so would prefer not to have baby have a jan bday.

But then again... If I get a healthy baby, do I really care ? Not really....

It's great to plan things, but it doesn't always work out. Had I known I would have problems, I would have started trying two years ago. unfortunately many of us end up on the TTC board for to freakin' long

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I definitely understand where you are coming from. If I conceive this month, my due date will be Christmas Day, which would not be my first choice for giving birth!

However, we have been trying for a few months and we just want a healthy baby and it does not matter when he/she arrives

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given how hard it's been to get pregnant, and all the IF issues my husband and I are going through, I don't care what month I have a baby. Would it have been nice to be able to pick what month NOT to give birth..? Sure.. but life doesn't work that way.

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I never wanted to carry a baby through the summer. Guess who is carrying a baby through the summer? ME and QUITE grateful too. Why? Because my body wouldnt let me do it any other way. I will take the blessings where they come from and whenever they come. I have been through too much to be picky.

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I dont think that is silly. I was thinking the same thing about this month. That would mean a Dec. birth and i wasn thrilled w. that idea Im mean sure... i'd be happy to get PG and have a healthy baby etc etc, but besides all that, there are others "hopes" and "wishes"

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actually, next month would be a december birth

this month would still be a november birth

my sister got pregnant in feb - gave birth end of october

conceiving in may would be january

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ok the charting software that i use has me as "if i conceive this cycle, my due date would be november 27th"

so if i conceive next cycle (april) would be december

again, my sister conceived feb and had nephew oct 24

ETA: I use the charting software that came with TCOYF -

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I thought about this and I wasn't going to try this past month because my due date would be around December 1st and DD's 2nd birthday is December 6th, but I just want another baby, so we tried anyway.

It's not stupid though, skip next month if you don't want a January baby... but I have to tell you that January babies are awesome and become super cool adults (ie., me, lol )

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I thought about this and I wasn't going to try this past month because my due date would be around December 1st and DD's 2nd birthday is December 6th, but I just want another baby, so we tried anyway.

It's not stupid though, skip next month if you don't want a January baby... but I have to tell you that January babies are awesome and become super cool adults (ie., me, lol )

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If the decision is right for you, then it makes sense. I was 2nd guessing a December baby, but it's so hard for us to stop trying, now that we've begun, and built..."momentum".

I think we all have our ideals, so it's just a matter of sticking to them or giving them up for the sake of getting PG ASAP.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

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It's really a personal decision for you to make.

For me, there are definately months that I would prefer over others, but I would never skip a month of trying to prevent giving birth in a certain month. I really want to have another baby & I will take it in any month I can get it. If I get pregnant this cycle, I will be due right between Christmas & New Years. I say, please god, bring on the New Year baby!

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I would have preferred another late spring baby, but there was no way in hell I was going to wait almost a year to start trying again.

I don't see the issue in putting off one month though.

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I am going to start trying next month because I didnt want to have a baby in the first half of the school year. I figure this gives me at least seven months before i would even half to worry about giving birth right before school in the fall.

Having a january or december baby depends on what part of april you conceive. My o day is in the middle of april and that would give me a birth date of january 7- so if you are early april that would be an end of december baby.

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I don't care what month I have a baby. All I want is a healthy baby, no matter what day of the year it is born. But you have to do what is right for you.

BTW - I am a January baby, its a great month to be born

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I understand what you are saying...

If I were to get preg. this time around...
(Im supposed to "O" at the very end of the month- the begining of April)

Judging by my last period- Id be due 12/24-12/26- and I cant imagine not being able to be around for my son on Christmas..

Therefore- I plan to avoid DH around these dates- if it happens anyway- Ill be delighted, otherwise Im shooting for a January baby (which would be a late April early May canception)

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