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ChilisWife
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Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
I hate to complain because my DH works so hard and is such a great dad and husband. BUT - that's when he is around, which is hardly ever! He is in an industry where during certain months, he has to work almost every day of the week from early morning until late at night, with a LOT of travel. It is SO HARD to keep everything together - I work full time, shuttle DS to and from daycare, try to spend time with DS, take care of the house and the errands, etc. I have no time for myself and I feel so frustrated and often resentful towards him, even though I know it is not his choice.
I guess I am just venting and looking for others that are going through the same thing!
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Matteos-mommy
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
My situation doesn't seem quite as bad, but my DH works midnights so he's not there to help me at night with the baby, I too have to shuffle him to day care and then go to work. My DH does errands around the house and takes the baby on his days off but then as soon as I'm home he's off going bike riding and I get to take care of baby. It has literally been more than two months since I've been able to go anywhere besides work without the baby. I definitely feel your frustration. 
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| Posted 6/7/08 8:55 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
Yeah, and it's not just help with the baby - it is our time together, too, that is missing. We can never make plans or do anything as a family or as a couple because of his schedule. He jokingly asks me if I want him to quit his job and be a SAHD, and I actually really would love that!
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| Posted 6/7/08 8:58 PM |
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Matteos-mommy
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
We definitely have that problem of finding us time. How long does his busy time of the year last? My poor hubby left for work at 10 pm Friday night and because of his day won't be back until 6ish on Sunday night.  And he's literally working the whole time. Luckily that doesn't happen often
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| Posted 6/7/08 9:03 PM |
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Deedlebugs
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
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| Posted 6/7/08 10:08 PM |
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weeble
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
Posted by ChilisWife
I hate to complain because my DH works so hard and is such a great dad and husband. BUT - that's when he is around, which is hardly ever! He is in an industry where during certain months, he has to work almost every day of the week from early morning until late at night, with a LOT of travel. It is SO HARD to keep everything together - I work full time, shuttle DS to and from daycare, try to spend time with DS, take care of the house and the errands, etc. I have no time for myself and I feel so frustrated and often resentful towards him, even though I know it is not his choice.
I guess I am just venting and looking for others that are going through the same thing!
I could have written this post. I know EXACTLY how you feel- we're in the exact same situation. The only difference is that I work from home, rather than in the office. It still makes for a long day because I work during DD's naps and when she goes to bed at night. I guess the reason it does work for me to work from home is because my husband works the same types of hours as yours, but there are a lot of days when I would gladly cut back on my work hours just so I could get more time with him and he could get more time with DD. He's an awesome dad and I know that he wants to spend more time with her (us) but for now, it's just not possible.
I'm sort of used to it, BUT when he travels and is away for 7-10 days at a time I REALLY feel it...
Know you're not alone to feel this way....
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| Posted 6/7/08 10:21 PM |
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emilain
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
yes!!!!, I work full time and I still feel like a single Mom, I do EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wish i could be a SAHM
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| Posted 6/7/08 10:28 PM |
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snowboardgirl
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
I feel your pain. My DH works extemely long hours. He wakes up at 3:30AM leaves the house by 4:30 and gets home between 10:00 and 12:00. He does this 6 or 7 days a week. He sleeps out at least 2 or 3 nights a week (he drives a truck and runs the company with his parents).
He is a great father and husband. Our DD is only 2 months old. It is very hard for me and I am still on maternity leave. I am going back to work in the city at the end of June. My commute is over two hours each way. I hope I can handle it. I am extremely tired.
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| Posted 6/7/08 11:57 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Spinoff: Anyone with a DH that works so much that you are basically a single mom?
Posted by snowboardgirl
I feel your pain. My DH works extemely long hours. He wakes up at 3:30AM leaves the house by 4:30 and gets home between 10:00 and 12:00. He does this 6 or 7 days a week. He sleeps out at least 2 or 3 nights a week (he drives a truck and runs the company with his parents).
He is a great father and husband. Our DD is only 2 months old. It is very hard for me and I am still on maternity leave. I am going back to work in the city at the end of June. My commute is over two hours each way. I hope I can handle it. I am extremely tired.
Wow, good luck with the commute. I had a 4 hour round trip commute to for years. I continued to commute to NYC until DS was 6 months old, but I didn't have a live-in nanny (we use daycare) so there was basically no way I could continue that schedule. No daycare around here opens at 6am and closes at 8pm and DH's schedule was too unreliable, plus, that would mean that I would never see DS. It was awful because I really loved my job and it took awhile to find one on LI.
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