Anyone considering being a SAHM after DC was born?

I never thought in a million years that I would ever consider being a SAHM. Now that DS is born, I can't imagine leaving him. After my 4 month maternity leave, I'll try going back to work but I am seriously considering being a SAHM.

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I was thinking about it, i came back to work to get my bonus from last year, but I decided to stay bc everything is working out pretty well. try it for 2 months and if you dont' want to do it anymore , quit

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I had been worried I'd feel the same way. But once my leave was over I was SO ready to go back. However, I only work part time, and DH is home with them while I'm working so that plays a BIG part in my ease at going back. BUT- he's also a way better SAHP than I am.

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I could of written your post word for word.. I am lucky to have 4 months maternity leave, but am heartbroken just thinking about leaving DD in a daycare after my mat leave is up. I do love my job (not so much of some colleagues) and by having 2 incomes, it makes our lives that much better. I am so torn.....

*sigh*

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I really wanted to be a SAHM but we couldnt live on only 1 salary - especially in this economy. DH got a new job 2 months ago and is now an Officer at a Bank. His pay and commission are much better, so we might see where we are in a year and I might get a PT job. Right now though, the realty is we need both incomes

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I always wanted to be a SAHM (if we could afford it) and I am and have been since DD was born 19 mos ago. I work here and there once or 2x a month but that's about it.

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i would kill to be a stay at home mom.

okay maybe that wording is a little harsh but that is my dream right now. and i NEVER thought i would say that - it wasn't till DS was born that i started to feel this way.

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Before DD, I always said I wanted to work. Now that she's here and my maternity leave is over (this is my last week), I don't want to go back. I am going to try it out and if it works out then I'll stay. If it doesn't then I'll have a serious talk with my DH.

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I wish with all my heart I could be a SAHM. I do not wanna go back to work!!!!!!!! I'm gonna cry so much when I have to go back to work. My only consolation is that it's still a couple of months away. So sad that it's a luxury now a days to stay home and raise your kids....

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I was home almost a year. I would have loved to stay home, but for our family, it's best for me to work for several reasons.

I have several degrees and a career, but I would give it up in a minute to stay home if I thought it was a good option for us. When I was pregnant, I wasn't sure I would feel this way, but I loved every minute of being home with him, even the tough days.

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OH YEA. big time. I wish I could be but its not at all possible in my situation.

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Yes!

I never thought I would say it but I've seriously thought about being a SAHM but it would involve a drastic change in lifestyle if that happens.

It's definitely possible but will likely require a downgrade to a smaller home - not likely when I'm in a 2BR condo now - OR living alot further away from the metro area.

My friend is able to do this when she moved to East Brunswick to a home that's affordable with only her husband's income.

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I am PG with #2. I came back to work after DS was born but now I will have 2 under 2 and logistically I don't see how I can do it. Plus the cost of having 2 in day care is $1700.

I've not been happy at my job and have been planning a career change so it makes sense but I've never not worked and am nervous to quit especially in these tough economic times. My husband is all for it and financially we'll be ok - not great but we'll manage. It's a tough decision!

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I am a SAHM and I love it! I was layed off in Jan right after I told my boss that I was pregnant... then I had a temporary job before DS was born. For us we would love to have two salaries but for me to make it where it was worth it I would have to go back to work in the city. We don't have family to watch DS and daycare seemed too expensive. I never thought I would love being a SAHM because I always thought I would have my career but being a SAHM is the best job in the world and I would never replace this precious time with DS. I love it so much I want to have #2 ~ just need to get DH on board with that one...

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Early on I thought I would want to be a SAHM but as my maternity wore on I was ready to go back to work - I can honestly say I loved my job.

So I went back (ILs watched DS) and although I didnt hate being at work I decided to quit that job and got a pt job where I work 3 days. This is my perfect. I love being in teh workforce and feeling like I have enough time to get the house stuff done as well as enjoy my son.

When I was on leave DH wanted me to SAH but I insisted on going back. SO we agreed to give it 3 months...I think anything less than 2 months is not adequate to judge whether you like it or not. After 3 months I felt like I was constantly running to do everything which is why I agreed to try PT...

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Absolutely, but then my mortgage payment reminded me why that was not an option

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I would love to be a SAHM but unfortunatly money and circumstances keep me from doing that.
If you can afford it and want to i would seriously consider staying home.

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I pretty much knew I wouldn't be able to go back to work full-time, and once he was born my mind was made up I would be a SAHM. I was considering working from home at one point when my employer offered but haven't taken them up on that yet. It works great for us and I am cherishing it!

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I would love to be a SAHM but we'd have to move to a house that is about 1/2 the price of this one, so move down south, which just can't happen right now with house prices what they are. I also carry the benefits since they are much cheaper and better than they would be if we got them through DH's job. So right now we are actually considering having DH stay home with the DC and work PT when he can.

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Yes, I considered it. I will admit that it's really nice not having to get up at the crack of dawn and being able to take a nap during the day while DD naps.

That being said, I'm going back to work in 3 weeks, and a good part of me is actually looking forward to it. I've been home on disability since 3 months before DD was born. I know now that I could NOT be a SAHM. Don't get me wrong, I love my DD with all of my heart and soul, but I need to get out of the house and start interacting with my coworkers again! I feel like I've lost a big part of my identity since being home, and I'm kinda looking forward to going back.

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I'm completely torn, I looooove my career and what I have made of it, DH would prefer me being SAHM, and I love being at home with DD, but I also love the aspect of brining home a pay check..as of now I don't have immediate plans to go back, I was also laid off at 8.5 months pregnant, I've talked to a few headhunters to see if they can find any home office positions as my field allows for that, and I was in the running for one, when they cut the position entirely bc of the economy, so right now if something falls in my lap great, if not, I'm taking it day by day....I never thought I would love to be a SAHM but I sort of am...