Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

DH and I are officially TTC this month - SD has a new baby sister from BM that is about a month old - she is adjusting hard, but they told her about the baby as soon as BM POAS. I don't want to be in labor when we tell her, but I want to make sure we are fine and confirmed with sonos and such before we break the news to ANYONE.

Do you think 12-13 weeks is an ok time frame to let a 6 y/o know that another sibling is on the way?
I know we would plan on telling our families right around then and I would rather the news come from DH to her than BM hearing through the grapevine and telling SD... KWIM?

If you have been in this situation - how did you handle it?

Re: Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

My SD was 7 when we were pg. w/ my DS...We told her just around the 12 week mark

Re: Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

It was common knowledge around our house, to both my children and DHs children, that we were planning on having another child....we didnt keep that part a secret. My girls were 7, 7, & 12 and DHs DDs were 3 & 8.

When I did conceive (which fortunitely didnt take too long) we waited to tell them until around 12/13 weeks or so....

The girls were 4, 8,8, 9, & 13 when DS was born....

We told them, I think in mid march, by June they were ready for him to get here already. Pregnancy takes an aweful long time for a child....

Re: Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

SSs were 9 and 6 when we got pg with DS. I wanted to wait to tell them until 12 weeks, but when I was only 6 weeks or so, we were all in the park (woodsy area) and the kids wanted to go "hiking", DH decided that was a good time to tell them while he explained why it wasn't a good idea for me to go hiking. They adjusted well immediately. My younger SS had questions like, how do you know? etc. I was lucky to have an easy pregnancy and the boys were on board the whole way through!

Re: Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

my SS was 7 when we got married. he knew we were going to add to our family and the weekend after i POAS, we told him. he was so excited he spelled B R O T H E R and said that's what he wanted. he's adjusted well since, even though there are the typical sibling jealousy issues here and there ;)
good luck

Re: Question for those with SK's that had a DC with their Father/Mother..

I had 3 SC and with DD#1 we waited until after I was about 20 weeks to tell them. They were 3, 5 and 7 at the time. This time around (a year later ) we are going to wait the same amount again. And I will have an amnio earlier than last year so we are going to tell them that they are going to have a brother or sister. The kids are now 4, 6 and 8. It was hard keeping it a secret but since I am chubby to begin with, they can't tell that my belly is growing. Whatever is most comfortable for you and DH!