Bummed but not suprised

This weekend was our 1 year anniversary. I realize that this is not a big deal to anyone but DH and me but, we received losts of calls, txt's and FB messages which were all very nice. But, the one person who I wanted to hear from didn't call. SS. I was hoping he forgot but he didn't.

We went away for the weekend and came home to a message he left on the answering machine Sunday morning. Basically he wanted to know if we were home from our "anniversary getaway" so he could come over and watch the Steeler game. So, he knew it was our anniversary but didn't bother to call me or his father. He only called to see about the football game.

When I mentioned this to DH he said. "He's a kid, what do you expect" God, I'm so sick and tired of hearing that! He's 18!!! His step sister's b-day was the same day and he called her. Whats the difference. Am I expecting too much?

I think I'm more upset b/c the relationship that I've tried so had to establish is now non-existant. He never calls me and when I do see him he barely speaks. I have to ask him ?'s and then I feel like an interrigator. Sigh!!

Re: Bummed but not suprised

In my honest opinion, I wouldnt be upset about this. But I dont get call on my anniversary or expect people to call me. As long as DH and I acknowledge it thats all that matters. I think if SS didnt call you on yur birthday than that would be upsetting.

Hope you had a great anniversary weekend!!

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Posted by Sash

In my honest opinion, I wouldnt be upset about this. But I dont get call on my anniversary or expect people to call me. As long as DH and I acknowledge it thats all that matters. I think if SS didnt call you on yur birthday than that would be upsetting.

Hope you had a great anniversary weekend!!

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I have to agree...it's an anniversary. I'd be upset if he didn't call on your or DH's bday; but not an anniversary--but that's just me.

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I honestly would let it go...young kids never acknowledge anniversaries. I am not making excuses for him, just stating something that I am sure most kids do.

My SDs behavior was so disappointing at our wedding - so I never expected a congratulations from her on that day much less a "Happy Anniversary" went that came around.

In all honesty, she has never once called DH on his birthday - so forget about mine. So in my situation - I don't expect any kind of acknowledgement from her on our anniversary.

I hope you enjoyed your anniversary!

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I would let it go -- I barely remember my own parents' anniversary, and even when I remember I maybe buy a card or something. And I have had over three decades to remember, and I still only run a 50% success rate...

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Thanks girls. I'm over it. Needless to say I was bummed but not suprised....

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I wouldn't be upset. I don't expect calls, cards, or anything else on our anniversary. I think it's for me and DH to celebrate. We don't do anything for our parents either. We MAY call if we remember or ask how their day was after the fact but it's a couple thing in our family.