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peekaboo
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I am upset
My cousin just told me that she might not be able to come to my shower (which is over a month away). The reason why she says she might not be able to make it is because she might have to work. My shower is the weekend before Thanksgiving. She works in a supermarket and says that is the busiest weekend in the year. She has worked in this supermarket for about 20 years,doesn't that give her some senority??? Its over a month a away. I feel like she just doesn't want to come. She lives out of state and if I don't see her at my shower, I probably won't see her until the Christening, if she doesn't have to work. I had invited her to come over in a few weeks to get together and she said she can't come because her kids have soccer practice. What's the deal?
My family tends to piggyback, when one can't come, then this one doesn't come etc....
I am really hurt by this... am I overreacting? Should I say something??
Thanks for reading 
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Posted 10/3/10 8:05 AM  |
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MrsFein09
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Re: I am upset
I am sorry you are upset I would think that after 20 years she should be able to get the weekend off...but then what do I know about supermarkets. I hope she can come.
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| Posted 10/3/10 8:13 AM |
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Harlow-J
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Re: I am upset
I'm sorry you're upset.
As someone who worked retail for YEARS, I will tell you that there are lots of "blackout dates" where it's company policy that nobody is allowed to be off. Its always especially bad around the holidays, since that's the busiest time of the year.
It's awful. I missed so many family events through the years, and literally there was nothing I could do.
I understand you being hurt and upset-but know that your cousin is in a position she can't get out of, and I'm sure if she could be there she would.
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| Posted 10/3/10 8:18 AM |
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MommaBear
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Re: I am upset
Aww, I'm sorry. Hopefully it won't cause the domino effect you described!
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| Posted 10/3/10 8:47 AM |
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Camroy
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Re: I am upset
I totally understand being upset. I work in the Supermarket industry. Definitely one of, if not the busiest weekends of the year and as a previous poster said...many Companies have black out dates that you are not allowed to request off. I wouldn't be surprised if this was the case. Also, if she has worked there for 20+ years, it might be even more difficult for her to take off. The longer you are there, the more responsibility you have and the more you are relied on.
Sorry she won't make it. Maybe make plans now with her to see when she can come after the baby is born. Set something up so that you know you will be seeing her.
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| Posted 10/3/10 10:16 AM |
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Ever-After
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Re: I am upset
Posted by Harlow-J
I'm sorry you're upset.
As someone who worked retail for YEARS, I will tell you that there are lots of "blackout dates" where it's company policy that nobody is allowed to be off. Its always especially bad around the holidays, since that's the busiest time of the year.
Yes, I've heard this too. My Uncle lives out of state & works at Walmart. He wasn't able to make it to my Wedding a couple years ago and I was pretty hurt by that too. It just seemed like a big enough occasion that you SHOULD be able to get the weekend off. But of course, my wedding WAS 2 days after Christmas so I feel like it might not have necessarily been laziness or him not wanting to be there, but that work truly wouldn't let him. It really sucks, so I kow how you feel. 
I would try to plan something specific with her for after the baby is born. My out of state cousin (who I am VERY close with) won't be able to make it to my shower either because she's in a wedding that weekend. But we're planning on her flying out for a weekend AFTER the baby is born. I'm really excited for that.
Message edited 10/3/2010 7:12:56 PM.
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| Posted 10/3/10 7:11 PM |
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