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Kmarie36
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I have no problem with it. I love having company over, and as sweets said if we are eating I just put another plate out. I too grew up where my grandparents, aunts/uncles just pass by.
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by speakthetruth
you tell them to cut it out immediately and if they don't listen, don't answer the door
it's so selfish of them to do, IMO
ITA...they could easily call you!
and if it was my MIL I wouldn't answer the door 
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| Posted 10/18/10 5:14 PM |
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
They had better call first, however, I recently learned that when they call first, they become offended if we say that it isn't a good time. I have to learn not to give a crap if I offend anyone. What has been worse is the, "oh, so and so (insert name of relative that I never even heard of) is coming from NJ this weekend," and the implication is that they are ALL then coming to MY house.
What is almost worse than the drop ins are the drive-bys, as in, "oh, we passed by your house today and your lawn needs to be mowed." Then friggin' mow it!!!!!!!!!
It's different with friends and I will be the first to admit that. I know that a friend who drops by once or twice without calling is not going to start doing it a few times a a week.
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| Posted 10/18/10 5:21 PM |
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nbc188
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I am not a fan of pop-ins...ever, no matter who it is. In the age of cell phones, just call me when you're in the area (and I don't mean my driveway).
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| Posted 10/18/10 5:23 PM |
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Answer the door in a towel and tell them this is not a good time and in the future to call first. Say this time as a courtesy you grabbed a towel but may not be so polite in the future  Although if you are smoking then fil may show up more often.
I am lucky my in laws usually give at least a days notice. My family just pops in but I don't care if my house looks like a bomb went off for them.
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usuk2004
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
My immediate family always drops in on one another. In theory, I love the idea, but in reality, I kind of freak out when anyone stops by unannounced, or even on short notice. Probably because my house is always a mess! 
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| Posted 10/18/10 5:50 PM |
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Sweets13
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
We used to have pop-ins but really don't anymore. I asked that I at least get a phone call before they drive 15 minutes to see us. It was especially important to me when I was nursing 10-12 times a day and then suddenly had to run up to get the door.
I don't really pop-in either. I give a courtesy call before I make the trip.
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| Posted 10/18/10 7:15 PM |
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july06bride
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
No issue with it at all. I grew up in a very tight family where aunts,uncles,cousins and friends were always in and out. If we were eating, my mother would just put another setting on the table. With a family as big as mine, you learn to not mind company. I will say that for the most part, my parents/inlaws do call before they stop over.
I agree-I remember living at home and my grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles, always just popping over and it never being a big deal.
Now, my parents live in NY while I am in CT and they can't just pop over- wish they could. My in laws live close enough to, but they don't ever do that. Like ever...and I think it is a little odd actually that they don't just pop over when they live so close...
I am sure if it were my in laws doing it ALL the TIME it would drive me nuts, but sometimes I wish I lived closer to people so that drop bys could happen more often! 
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july06bride
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
Yup for both- even my parents in NY lol. No one EVER minds!
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| Posted 10/18/10 7:50 PM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I pretty much have an open door policy especially with my family who all lives within 10 mins of us. They all have keys to my house so I never know who will be here, and I love it. However DH family is from all over and when they come its with an invitation or a phone call...we aren't that close to them both DH and I so it would be strange if they just showed up. I don't think I would like my MIL showing up when ever she wanted, but it would be hard for me to say something seeing that it would be a double standard since my family is always here
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| Posted 10/18/10 7:57 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
I don't like pop-ins and I would never go to my parents or ILs without calling - what if they weren't home, or busy?  Then I would have driven 1/2 hour for nothing
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| Posted 10/18/10 8:09 PM |
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
I would rarely have the time to do that, so, no.
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| Posted 10/18/10 8:16 PM |
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brownie
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
To my in laws, no, well they're also 3hrs away...but if they were here I would definitely NOT pop over there and hope they would not here.
My mom on the other hand, I might call w/2mins noticed, and vice versa.
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| Posted 10/18/10 8:24 PM |
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I would love my family to stop by more often, they never do. My in-laws, yea...not so much
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dawnygirl25
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
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I hate drop ins...
It just makes my skin crawl.
Home time is private time. its laying on the living room floor in my jammies and tshirt with no bra while AJ and I play under sheets we'd pulled from the bedroom. Its chasing her around in her bare bottom or 'flying' around in a towel. Door bell rings and that world is shattered. I HATE unexpected guests regardles of bloodline.
same here!! well said
very well said. I completely agree,
I am a planner. I hate the unexpected.
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GioiaMia
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I hate it! OMG how I hate it!
Do I mind when it is my family? No, because I will tell me sister to turn on the TV while I finish cleaning and then take a shower or whatever. I would never do that to my MIL. And I like having everything PERFECT before people come over.
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| Posted 10/18/10 9:06 PM |
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fujamaga
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
hahah I can't stand my in-laws, but I also don't like it when my parents pop in unannounced. My rule: I don't answer the door...
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
I would rarely have the time to do that, so, no.
also, im sorry... my parents and inlaws are much older and don't have little kids running around making messes, or piles of laundry neglected, or dirty dishes in sink, etc. both my FIL and dad are retired and are always home, so the house is maintained, too
so yeah, no wonder they don't mind drop-ins.. there is nothing to judge them on or nit-pick them on.
also i doubt MIL or my mom lounge around in just a tank and boyshort undies like i do.
meanwhile, dh and i are on opposite schedules, house usually a mess, and i hate drop ins.......i would answer the door if publishing clearinghouse knocked
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LittleBlueBug
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
I never could stand pop-ins, but definitely am against it now that I have DS
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by speakthetruth
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
I would rarely have the time to do that, so, no.
also, im sorry... my parents and inlaws are much older and don't have little kids running around making messes, or piles of laundry neglected, or dirty dishes in sink, etc. both my FIL and dad are retired and are always home, so the house is maintained, too
so yeah, no wonder they don't mind drop-ins.. there is nothing to judge them on or nit-pick them on.
also i doubt MIL or my mom lounge around in just a tank and boyshort undies like i do.
meanwhile, dh and i are on opposite schedules, house usually a mess, and i hate drop ins.......i would answer the door if publishing clearinghouse knocked
Well, on that note, my MIL wears her mumus to run errands sometimes, so she is fine being seen in her loungewear. DH wishes she wouldn't do that but I am all for comfort.
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| Posted 10/18/10 10:00 PM |
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saraH
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Sweets13
Quick question for those who don't like pop-ins.
Do you ever just pop in over to your parents or in laws house?
No.
I call my mom first and my DH will call his mom if we are coming over.
I'm sure we have stopped by without calling first, but we really try not to.
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| Posted 10/18/10 10:06 PM |
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wannabemomma
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
Posted by Xelindrya
I hate drop ins...
It just makes my skin crawl.
Home time is private time. its laying on the living room floor in my jammies and tshirt with no bra while AJ and I play under sheets we'd pulled from the bedroom. Its chasing her around in her bare bottom or 'flying' around in a towel. Door bell rings and that world is shattered. I HATE unexpected guests regardles of bloodline.
So well said! My DH was out on Sunday and I was laying 9 months preggo, braless, and unshowered on the couch. I hear my side door being unlocked and I assume it's DH...NOPE, it's my FIL!!!!! He came to drop off a movie he thought we'd like to watch from blockbuster. I was livid. We've had the "please call first" convo. a gazillion times. If we don't answer the phone, they will just keep calling throughout the day until we answer. My DH and I fight over it because it's his parents and who the heck wants anyone talking about their parents, but with DD on the way, I don't want pop-ins! I just don't get it!
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AMF1115
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Re: how does everyone feel about pop-ins esp when its your in-laws?
when DS was younger, under 6 months, I hated it. Now that he has been on a schedule the house isn't as much of a disaster zone. so i dont mind. its very common in DH's family so I've gotten used to it.
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