Hi...New Here...So Scared

i just found out this week that my pregnancy is not viable (8 weeks) and I am in the waiting stage to miscarry I will go in for a D & C early next week if it does not happen on it's own before. But as of last night I started having some mild cramping and bad back pain so I am wondering if it is starting. I just want this whole thing behind us so we can move forward.

Girls who have had a D&C what was your experience like (if you don't mind sharing). How long was recovery? I don't know how long I should tell work I will be out for.

Also, was there a lot of pain afterwards? I am so scared.

Re: Hi...New Here...So Scared

i am sorry

i am in a process of natural mc of my first preg that ended at 7 weeks. Hopefully, you will not need d&c and your body will start to pass it on its own. I started bleeding like AF, passed the sac ( i think) and tissue, then bled for 4 days like normal AF, but now I am still spotting ( day 18). You will see clots and possible tissue coming out. Pain was manageable, it was only bad on the first day when I passed the sac. your Dr should monitor you until your beta drops to 0, and it may take a few weeks. I still do not know the answer on how long the bleeding lasts, since mine has not stopped yet and my beta is not at 0 either


sorry again

Message edited 1/4/2011 12:24:05 PM.

Re: Hi...New Here...So Scared

I had a natural mc so I don't have any advice on the D&C but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss

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I am so so sorry

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I am so sorry I know how you feel. I found out abut my missed miscarriage at 9 weeks...

I went home and started feeling crampy and I was getting so nervous that I wouldn't make it to the hospital in time for the d&c (which at that point I still did not have scheduled).

I did not want to miscarry on my own

At that point I already knew I lost the baby and I could not emotionally deal with walking around knowing it was gone but still there inside of me. I felt like the longer I went on like that the more in denial I would be about the whole thing. I didn't want it to happen at an unexpected time or in an unexpected place. I didn't want to see or feel anything because I felt that would be more traumatic for me. We knew we wanted to do genetic testing if possible and I did not want to deal with retrieving the sample myself and bringing it to the doctors office. I wanted to be able to try again sooner rather than later and having the d&c seemed like the quicker way to go (in terms of getting AF again afterwards). Lastly, there is the chance I would need the d&c anyway or end in the hospital due to the bleeding.

There are also risks that come along with having a d&c so you have to do what you are comfortable with. For us, at the time, the d&c was the way we both wanted to go. We both wanted it to be over quickly so we could grieve, heal and move on.

I found out on a Wed afternoon and had the d&c Friday morning. I was seeing the midwife during my pregnancy and didn't meet the OB until the morning of surgery which was nervewracking. I told the practice that I wanted to do the d&c ASAP and they were so great with scheduling me right away. I was afraid of something happening during the "in between" time and once they knew how I felt they got me on the schedule right away.

Recovery was fine. I asked for a Rx for percocet which I didn't end up needing but I took anyway. I stayed on the couch for like 3 days (I was just so out of it) and I let my DH take care of everything. 2 days after I felt like I was coming down with an infection which totally freaked me out (I was getting sharp pains (which could have been gas) and I started running a low fever) so I went to the ER but everything was fine - they checked my blood, urine and did a sono. My Dr prescribed me extra antibiotics anyway which put me at ease. That was the worst of it. I did bleed on and off for awhile, a little over 2.5 weeks. Once the bleeding stopped I felt a whole lot better.

Emotionally healing was harder for me than physically. I am just starting to feel ok again mentally and it's been a little over a month.

When I had my loss I received so many FMs and everyone said it would get better and all the girls were telling the truth - things do get easier, I promise.

I know you are scared. I know those feelings all too well. I am SO sorry. Hang in there

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Re: Hi...New Here...So Scared

Thanks Everyone! It's all so confusing right now. I am sitting at my desk today at work fine one minute and then on the verge of tears the next. I am just so sad....words can't express how much my heart hurts. We are trying to stay and think positive but at times its so hard. I am just so scared about getting through this loss. I am terrified of the D&C but I don't think I can wait for this to end on it's own. Thanks for listening everyone it is nice to have support.
to u all.

Re: Hi...New Here...So Scared

I was really scared that it would be physically awful but I was pleasantly surprised with how PHYSICALLY painless the whole process was for me... emotionally that's another thing.

I slept through the whole thing (only got minor sedatives not anesthesia but they knocked me out) and just had some very light cramping and bled for about a week. I napped for a few hours when I got home and was able to cook a big meal that night. I took a few days off from the gym (D&C was friday, went back on Monday).

ETA: with the D&C we were able to get genetic testing done and I'm so glad we did b/c it provided a lot of closure for us as to why I miscarried...

Message edited 1/4/2011 3:18:25 PM.

Re: Hi...New Here...So Scared

I am sorry you are going through this. The same thing happened to me. I ended up having a natural m/c before my d&c apt. It is very scary and sad, but you will make it through.