name drama- help!

I'm so excited because yesterday (at 15 wks) we were able to find out that we're having a boy!! I'm already having name drama though- which is part of the reason I was hoping for a girl. My husband wants to give our child his name- Kenneth. His father has the same name and his grandfather before him...I've never been super pumped about the idea....but I can't really argue because he agreed to raise our child Jewish (he's catholic)- although religion is really not a big thing for him...he has no real connection to his- and doesn't evn care about big holidays. But now that we are really having a boy I feel sad that I don't get a say in the name. Plus he dropped it on me yesterday that he likes the idea of calling him junior...which I REALLY don't like. I just wish we could choose a name together -I don't like the confusion of all these people with the same name. He gave me hope a month or so ago when he came home with the name Caden- saying he really liked it- when I asked about using his name he said he was considering others...but now that its real we're back on his name. I'm hoping if I find some other name he could get excited about then I might be able to persuade him. Any ideas on good boys names?? Or if I truly get stuck with this name- any ideas on good nicknames- besides K.C. -if we go with a C middle name.

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hmm Its seems like its more of a tradition in ur DH's fam. Is that the case?
If you do use ur DH's name I wouldn't call him Jr. but maybe Ken or Kenny?!

Sorry ur not loving the idea of having the name passed down but its kinda cool to know the name will continue for yet another generation.

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DS is the 6th Edward in DH family......the first son of the first son has always been named Edward. It was really important to him and his family that it be passed on. I HATED, and I mean HATED the name Edward. However, it was more important to carry on the tradition than it was for me to get to pick a name myself and I got that. So I did name DS Edward, bc I didnt want to be THAT girl, KWIM? Can you compromise on a middle name, so hes not a Junior? None of the Edwards in DH line are Jrs since they all have middle names. I think it was a great compromise.....he gets to pass his name on and carry the tradition, you still have some say in the naming process and that solves that Junior issue you are having since he wont be a Junior.

Anyway, its almost 4 years later and DS name has grown on me and NOW, I couldnt imagine him being anyone else but Eddie, and I love it.

Also, look down the line to when DS is an adult, it means a lot to my DH to have carried on a family name, and while DS is to young to get it now, Im sure when he is older he will have the same sentiment and pride about it that all of the other Eds do.

(oh and its not really confusing with everyone having the same name, LOL ;-, Eddie is the 4th still living Edward and so far, everyone has known when they are being addressed vs the other Eds)

Message edited 5/19/2011 8:09:35 AM.

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im not a fan of the whole jr. thing or naming after people. but i do understand DH's point...its a huge tradition...

what do you call your DH? Ken? Kenny? or Kenneth? cuz i would say name him that but give him another nick name like Kenny or Ken like the PP said.

he wouldnt go for useing Kenneth as a middle name??

I would just explain to DH how you feel that you want some part in the naming of your son too!

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If his grandfather had the name, this baby wouldn't be junior. He'd be the 4th. I have a friend in the same situation (with the name Kenneth and all) but she's thinking of using Trip or Trey because hers would be the 3rd. I think she said a nickname for the 4th could be Dru (from Quadruple).

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I may be more religious than most but in Judaism and if you're raising the baby Jewish you can't name after living and you definitely can't have a Junior...
I know this isn't any help but wanted to see if you can add that to your argument

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I like the idea of Kenneth as a middle name. Have you suggested that to DH?

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Posted by pickles16

I may be more religious than most but in Judaism and if you're raising the baby Jewish you can't name after living and you definitely can't have a Junior...
I know this isn't any help but wanted to see if you can add that to your argument

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My cousin's name is Kenneth Charles and we have always called him KC (Casey).

FWIW, I think Kenneth is a nice, strong manly name. Even Ken and Kenny are nice names I think.

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I don't think the middle name thing would fly with him...A lot of people in his family call him Kenny. They call his dad big Kenny and my husband little kenny...so the baby will be tiny kenny?
I would prefer some other kind of k nickname but can't think of anything...

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my husband is Kenny too. we havent totally decided if we are using his name if the baby is a boy yet but if we decide to do that we will call him KJ (kenny jr)

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I would try to go with Kenneth as a middle name but I am one of those people that is completely against passing names down. I think children named after someone else can be expected to live up to the person they are named after. Thankfully, DH has no interest in his name being used for our children. JMO

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I know a kenneth that is a 3rd and they call him Kent for short

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would be ok with it as a middle name? its hard when your stuck on a name especially one with familial ties.. maybe you can kind of express your feelings about your son being IV

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Posted by sleepy

I don't think the middle name thing would fly with him...A lot of people in his family call him Kenny. They call his dad big Kenny and my husband little kenny...so the baby will be tiny kenny?
I would prefer some other kind of k nickname but can't think of anything...

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Posted by mbg1007

Posted by pickles16

I may be more religious than most but in Judaism and if you're raising the baby Jewish you can't name after living and you definitely can't have a Junior...
I know this isn't any help but wanted to see if you can add that to your argument

The not naming after the living superstition in judaism is just an ashkenizi superstition that has morphed into a "rule". The sephardic jews (jews from middle eastern, african, greek and spanish backgrounds) name after the lviing but Jews from ashkenizi (european) backgrounds don't so it really has more to do with your tradition than a religious rule and of course how superstitious you are. Also, when naming a child after someone some say that it would be the hebrew name that matters so you shouldn't name the hebrew name after the living, so the english name allows for more freedom.

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by mbg1007

Posted by pickles16

I may be more religious than most but in Judaism and if you're raising the baby Jewish you can't name after living and you definitely can't have a Junior...
I know this isn't any help but wanted to see if you can add that to your argument

The not naming after the living superstition in judaism is just an ashkenizi superstition that has morphed into a "rule". The sephardic jews (jews from middle eastern, african, greek and spanish backgrounds) name after the lviing but Jews from ashkenizi (european) backgrounds don't so it really has more to do with your tradition than a religious rule and of course how superstitious you are. Also, when naming a child after someone some say that it would be the hebrew name that matters so you shouldn't name the hebrew name after the living, so the english name allows for more freedom.

Thanks I know this all, I assumed she was asheknazi..and I know about the English name, but it tends to be an "American" thing to name the English name after someone as well, so was going off that...My 10 years in Yeshiva and my husband graduating from yeshiva this has been ingrained in me

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I'm not hating Kent for short...

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My DH's first name is Warren, his father's name is Warren and his grandfather was Warren. What his father and my husband were brought up being called was their middle name.

FIL: Warren Kent - he goes by Kent
DH: Warren Cory - goes by Cory

You think that maybe you could talk DH into that? Name him Kenneth and pick a name you both love for the middle and call him by his middle name.

For work DH is W. Cory M.....

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i have a friend who's a junior but he goes by "JR" and he goes by "J." just another thought