What "rules" did you have when you were growing up...

that you will pass on to your children?

(such as...no makeup until a certain age, dating at what age, ears pierced at a certain age, etc.)

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All i can really say is that I am glad my parents taught us manners and dinner table etiquette etc. Please and thank you and all that - I took it with me!

As far as rules.....no phone calls past 11pm. All friends had to be introduced to my parents. They had to meet every guy I went out with - started dating around 16. I wasn't allowed to have my 2nd hole in my ear til I was 18. And then I had 9 . Makeup I wore in HS.

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No boys in the bedroom.. EVER- door open, door closed, didn't matter. The bedroom is a "sacred" space according to my mom.

No real curfew, but needed to plead my case- it was a case by case basis- like concerts, etc I could go to, but over people's houses- couldn't stay late...

My mom would say- there is NOTHING good that goes on at 1 AM- and boy was she right!!!

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dating at a certain age
make up
clothing
how much tv to watch
no tv after school or playing until homework is done (I thought this was a great rule because I never scrambled on Sundays and it took me all of a 1/2 hr to do my hw)
MUST know WHO I was hanging out with and where-phone numbers and parents MUST be home (yes, even at 15-16)
no driving with unknown people-dad HAD to meet them
curfew till I was 19 or 20
no dessert unless dinner was finished or mostly finished
no boys in the bedroom, and if I did, the door remained open.

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I was allowed makeup in middle school so I never went crazy with it.
I wasn't allowed a second piercing, but in college, I went all out and did them myself.
I didn't really have a curfew but the rule was that I still had to get up in the morning and go to school or work or wherever.
BIGGEST RULE!!! Never ever ever get into a car with someone who has been drinking or doing drugs. She always said, Please, don't drink or do drugs, but if you do, never get into a car with someone!!! Smartest rule.

My mom and I always talked and she didn't put silly restrictions on me like my cousins had. They weren't allowed Mtv and had a 9 pm curfew. They really rebelled!

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My only real rule was that I wasn't allowed in my bedroom upstairs with my boyfriend-my father used to say we had a perfectly good tv in the den downstairs that we could watch-we didn't need to sit onn a bed upstairs I guess I didn't have many "guy" rules since I dated the same guy all throughout high school so I never went on "new" dates with anyone.
No real curfew-they just wanted to know where I was and of course "NO DRIVING DRUNK"!!!! I think if I ever did that my dad would have ripped me a new you-know-what.
My parents knew I drank in hs and went to lots of beach parties but as long as I proved myself responsible they didn't mind.

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I had a lot of rules when I was a kid and they are all really similar to all of the rules already posted. My parents main rule was always tell the truth. They did this to build trust between us. The more they trusted us the more we were allowed to do. I was not allowed boys in my room, and they had to know where I was and have a number if they needed to reach me. I will so do the same thing when Kaylee comes around. THere are to many sick people out there and it scares me to think what could happen.

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Were werent allowed makeup till 8th grade..

Wasnt allowed to get our ears pierced till turning 18...I got it done at 20 and almost passed out! LOL

I started dating at a young age...prolly like 7th grade...but she always had to meet the guys and they had to spend a fair amount of time at my house with my family to see what they were all about. I also wasnt allowed in the bedroom alone with them which didnt really matter cause we lived in a small queens apartment where the rooms were on top of each other anyway LOL

Curfew depended on where I was and the group I was with. My main group was my neighborhood friends so we would be close by anyway so I never truly had one.

Drinking and drugs were always just a plain out NO! My mom was and still is very against drinking in any way because of issues in our extended family because of it. I always respected her and tried not to but when I did..I rarely ever got drunk and NEVER got in a car with a drunk driver.

She was also very strict about the amount of family time we all spent together. Back then it seemed like a hassle a bit but looking back now, it made us all so close. We are all like best friends now so I am grateful those family outings were made to be so important.

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Here's my rules

Dear Andrew:

Save your money so you can buy a car, mommy and daddy will not be giving you one when you turn 17.

You will take school seriously and your studies come first. You will allowed to play one sport. Working during the school year is not a necessity, your mother and father will provide the money you need.

We will need to know who you are with and where you are going or where you will be. If your truthful, we will not impose a curfew, but lie to us once, and things will change.

You can have guests of the opposite sex stay over at any time, but there will be at least one level of the house separating you at night.

No smoking.

No drinking.
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These were some of the rules I had while growing up, and I thought my parents were so mean and old fashioned. Now I know better.

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We were only allowed to drink water with dinner - no juice, soda, etc.

We had to be in bed by 9pm - except on Roseanne nights we were allowed until 930.

No phones in our room - until we were like 13 or so.

I was NOT allowed to shave my legs until I was in like 7th grade, lol - although I have snuck in a few times!

TV was not allowed on during the day - we had set TV times

As we got older:
If boyfriends (girlfriends for my brothers) were over, we were not allowed in our rooms with the door closed

Not a curfew, just had to be home at a reasonable hour

There were a lot of rules in my house, DH thinks it's a little much - haha!

Michael will have a nice set of rules when the time comes - right now, he can do what he wants, hehe!

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Absolutely NO cursing. -I was shocked when I went to some friends houses & they cursed in front of their parents!! I give my husband a smack when he curses in front of his mother. (the man is 37!!) I just think it's a respect thing!

If I have a girl she will get her ears pierced as a communion present. (that was my present when I was 7)

There will be a curfew

No smoking (my husband smokes & I hate it)

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Always come eat dinner every night with the whole family at the dinner table. Additional friends always welcome...

A hard one to juggle with two working parent schedules but we manage to do it even with our overnight calls etc. Now with a child, we'd have to get creative. But it is very important...

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had to do chores for allowance like clean the dishes clear the table set the table vacum things like that nothing major

no phone calls after 11pm

my parents were pretty easy on me suprising since I am the oldest.

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* never blow your horn or respond to one. The doorbell works, if they can not use it, you need not get in the car with them.

* when calling someone on the phone always address the person answering the phone "Hello, this is xxx, may I please speak to"

My parents had some crazy rules, which I don't believe in. I managed to do everything anyway, but my paents hardly ever knew where i was. I believe if you are open and honest the relationship between you and your children work out GREAT.