Pregnant after miscarriage

For those who've gotten BFPs after a miscarriage: did you change your mind on who you told right away?

We definitely don't want to tell as many people as we did last time (although I dont regret telling them, they were all such a great support). But I want to tell my parents now that I just got my BFP again and DH doesnt. I totally understand his reasoning- my parents can be a little smothering, asking a zillion questions, calling all the time. My parents would be the only people we actually tell in the 1st tri. His parents are in another country and can't really do much from there.

During the mc, my parents were a huge support system to us and if, god forbid it happens again, I think we'd tell them. On the other hand, I dont want to tell them because I feel liek their first thought will be the same exact thought I'm having, "what if she has another mc?" I dont want to disappoint them again.
Thoughts?

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Congrats!!!
For me, I didn't tell my immediate family until my 1st sonogram (at 8 weeks), just because I didn't want to see them go through the heartbreak they did when I miscarried.
Everyone else, we told when I was a little over 3 months.

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No, i always told my immediate family right away... they are the ones i get the most support from IRL.

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First of all, you know how happy I am for you but here are some well deserved extra for getting pregnant again!!

Honestly, I think you just have to figure out what you're comfortable with. For me, I told people who I won't mind sharing news about a loss with if it were to happen. I think it also depends on how open you are in general about this stuff. So many people know about our infertility issues and our path that sharing the news of a pregnancy isn't like some big surprise. For people who don't know earlier on, I am holding out till at least 18-20wks.

Also, our parents knew right away when I got pregnant again.

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Each time I've gotten pg I told my immediate family and best friends. They have all been there for us during all of my losses and I know I need them there for me during the first weeks before anyone else knows. I would go crazy without someone to call with my worries! This time around has been no different (recently got a bfp again!).

Congrats to you on your bfp! Hope this is it for you!

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I actually only told my sister and parents. I wanted to tell everyone else after my first sono. Unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage again so I had to tell everyone the news after I left the ER with the news of a confirmed miscarriage.

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after my 1st loss I decided to wait to tell anyone except my parents, then I had a 2nd loss and wished that everyone knew so that I could talk it out like I did with the 1st. When I got pregnant the 3rd time I just told everyone right away. It's really a personal choice. My family is my support so I wanted them to know.

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I am so happy for you! Congratulations!!!!!

I just told my mom and dad as soon as I got my BFP again. Didnt tell my siblings until after my first ultrasound and told DH's imidiate family around 10 weeks. First time around I told everyone within the first week.

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Hi - I'm 5 weeks now - had a m/c in Sept.
I told our families last time right away. This time no one knows so far except DH and I. I just know my mom will ask me non-stop if I'm ok and honestly I'm nervous enough as it is until I see my OB...I don't need people asking how I'm doing. So for me I'm waiting until after my 1st appt...will tell our parents after that and rest of family when I'm closer to 12 weeks. Will wait until 2nd tri to tell friends or anyone else. I just need to know this baby is ok before I start telling people.
But everyone is different - that's what works for me. If you feel you want to share - go for it!
Congrats and good luck!

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i did not..i also never made it to where i was the first time..

all mine were early ..if i made it to 8 weeks i would prob spill the beans

congrats!!!!!!!!!

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We told the same people: immediate family and very close friends.

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Congrats!!! our first pregnancy we told both of our parents my best friends and he told everyone he knew ..... When we got pregnant the second time we each only told one friend each we knew our parents would worry about me and we wanted to wait till we got out of the first trimester. Well we didn't make it that far and we told our parents AFTER the second D&C If/ when we get pregnant a third time we will figure out who to tell

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Thanks guys. We decided to tell my mom if and when we see the heartbeat later next week.

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we waited on non immediate family

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I dunno I say I dont want to tell people but at the same time it will be hard not too. Since everyone knows I have been trying for a year and is prob waiting for an annoucement. LOL so I dunno I may wait till 8 weeks and then tell a few peeps.