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king361
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Need opinions
After your parents die, what is an acceptable period of time to wait before conducting a yard sale on their front lawn?
It should also be noted that the deceased parents always believed that doing a yard sale of someones belongings after they die is disgraceful to the dead.
Thanks
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Jbon630
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by king361
After your parents die, what is an acceptable period of time to wait before conducting a yard sale on their front lawn?
It should also be noted that the deceased parents always believed that doing a yard sale of someones belongings after they die is disgraceful to the dead.
Thanks
If my parents thought this, I would never do it, no matter how much time has passed.
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| Posted 10/1/12 9:22 PM |
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king361
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Re: Need opinions
My aunt did this less than 3 weeks after her mother died and my uncle excused it as "we can't wait forever, a yard sale needs to be done in nice weather."
Just wanted to see if I was being overly emotional/sentimental etc. or if this really is low.
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| Posted 10/1/12 9:29 PM |
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shadows
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by king361
My aunt did this less than 3 weeks after her mother died and my uncle excused it as "we can't wait forever, a yard sale needs to be done in nice weather."
Just wanted to see if I was being overly emotional/sentimental etc. or if this really is low.
I wouldn't be able to do it that soon - in fact i don't know if i'd ever be able to - but i suppose everyone is different. I think at least a few months.
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ModDot
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The older the person, sometimes, the less sentimental. Especially if they knew that the end was coming for the loved one.
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| Posted 10/1/12 9:55 PM |
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LSP2005
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I think it depends on the circumstances. Death of a loved one is never an easy time, but the aunt is correct in saying it is better to do now in the nice weather than in December-March. If you are thinking of putting the house up for sale, sometimes it is better to have it fully furnished. If a family member inherited the home, is it fair for them to have to live with everything? Did the estate have enough $ to cover liabilities? Who inherited everything. I would hope that the person received what they were supposed to. I am extremely sorry for your loss. How did your parent's feel about it?
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Sweetlax22
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I think that it depends on the circumstances surrounding their death ( age, was is sudden, etc). Anything from a few weeks on could be acceptable.
If the person who died was against it I can't see ever doing it and I would just donate whatever I could.
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I don't think I would do it at their house seeing how they felt. Could you do it at your house?
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| Posted 10/1/12 11:06 PM |
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mlny
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Idk. I feel like everyone grieves so differently.. they could just be completely out of it and having the garage sale just because they can't deal with looking at all of their belongings.
Or they can just be completely selfish.
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| Posted 10/1/12 11:14 PM |
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hopingforbaby
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by Jbon630
Posted by king361
After your parents die, what is an acceptable period of time to wait before conducting a yard sale on their front lawn?
It should also be noted that the deceased parents always believed that doing a yard sale of someones belongings after they die is disgraceful to the dead.
Thanks
If my parents thought this, I would never do it, no matter how much time has passed.
I agree. Im so sorry for your loss.  
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nrthshgrl
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When the family mutal decides to do it.
I don't believe that people should rule beyond the grave. If you can respect their wishes, great, but I think above all reason should prevail in a situation.
If there was dissension, then I think the aunt & uncle should have left it up to your parents to work out. If someone thinks a yard sale is disrespectful to the dead but had no money to bury them or arrangements to dispose of their items, the burden is on the family. Whichever way they need to handle it to get the job done is the way to do it.
For example, my DH's aunt died & the cousin is trying to sell the condo because it's costing her an additional $500+ a month - an expense she can't really carry for long. They started cleaning out her house the weekend she passed away.
I'm sorry for your loss. It absolutely sucks to think that the way something was handled over a loved one's death would cause a rift because I'm sure it's the last thing your grandparents would have wanted - even more so than the garage sale.
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Paramount
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by king361
After your parents die, what is an acceptable period of time to wait before conducting a yard sale on their front lawn?
It should also be noted that the deceased parents always believed that doing a yard sale of someones belongings after they die is disgraceful to the dead.
Thanks
I think you do it when your ready.
Personally, Does it REALLY matter how they felt about yard sales? You are the person who is left to make decisions, move everything, deal with the aftermath of what they have left behind. They are no longer on this earth and in a final resting place. You still have 60+ years to live. I mean no disrespect for their memory...just that you have life left. You ca still honor them, but also do what YOU FEEL needs to be done.
I would actually think that, even though they felt a certain way about yard sales, they would happy knowing they can help YOU out with some money for your life. If you need the money to settle their estate, if you need help with costs. If its sending their grandchild to school (or paying off your debt) that's all things that are a blessing to their memory.
I am so sorry for your loss.
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MrsM429
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Posted by nrthshgrl
When the family mutal decides to do it.
I don't believe that people should rule beyond the grave. If you can respect their wishes, great, but I think above all reason should prevail in a situation.
I agree with this, it needs to be a decision that every agrees on.
In my situation, DH's grandma and mother passed away within 7 months of each other (april and november). DH and his uncle wanted to have a yard sale the following spring, but DH's aunt refused. We ended up waiting until the fall- when she was emotionally ready to let go of her families possessions.
I'm sorry for your loss
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Xelindrya
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by Paramount
Posted by king361
After your parents die, what is an acceptable period of time to wait before conducting a yard sale on their front lawn?
It should also be noted that the deceased parents always believed that doing a yard sale of someones belongings after they die is disgraceful to the dead.
Thanks
I think you do it when your ready.
Personally, Does it REALLY matter how they felt about yard sales? You are the person who is left to make decisions, move everything, deal with the aftermath of what they have left behind. They are no longer on this earth and in a final resting place. You still have 60+ years to live. I mean no disrespect for their memory...just that you have life left. You ca still honor them, but also do what YOU FEEL needs to be done.
I would actually think that, even though they felt a certain way about yard sales, they would happy knowing they can help YOU out with some money for your life. If you need the money to settle their estate, if you need help with costs. If its sending their grandchild to school (or paying off your debt) that's all things that are a blessing to their memory.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I agree with this. There's never a 'good time' and death is hard on everyone. There's no easy answer here. Its unfair to expect a person to hold on to all that stuff.
Sorry for your loss.
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Re: Need opinions
Posted by king361
My aunt did this less than 3 weeks after her mother died and my uncle excused it as "we can't wait forever, a yard sale needs to be done in nice weather."
Just wanted to see if I was being overly emotional/sentimental etc. or if this really is low.
If the parents never thought this was a good idea than there would NEVER have been a good enough time to do it. They should have respected their parents and avoided doing one altogether.
I don't think you're being overly emotional or sentimental. It sounds like your aunt & uncle are being very disrespectful. The only thing I can assume is that this is their way to "move on" by not having the stuff around. Maybe that makes it easier for them? But I still find it in poor taste.
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Onemoretime
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I guess Whatever is better for the people dealing with the house. There is no right answer, I'm sure it's so hard for everyone
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Jenn627
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a year
eta: I'm so literal.
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I also agree with PP that all family members should be in agreement.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Need opinions
At least after the executor is named. Even if you "know" what someone wants, you really can't do anything until the executor is named, and the will is followed. That takes a while to happen.
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