1st period after D&C

I found out on Dec. 7th at my 12 week sonogram that my baby had passed away a few days before and had a D&C on Dec. 11th.

I felt shattered, sad, and like a failure for a few days, but then i felt better and was actually surprised how quick i 'moved on'. Now, yesterday, i got my 1st period, and it's like the worst reminder of what a failure i was. I cried the whole drive in to work today. Does it get better with each month? I feel like each month will just be worse as time goes by and I am not pregnant again.

It's difficult as I know I can't get pregnant on my own, and i can't start a cycle with my RE until next month (he says one month after beta goes back to zero).

Anyone find anything helpful? I've always hated AF.... but now she is literally totally depressing.

1st period after D&C

I'm so sorry. My miscarriage was August 1st. I still have days where I'm sad. I think we will never completely get over it. Its a page in our life story. The important thing is to never give up. Try to stay positive. What helped me was this site. I went to a g2g and met other girls in my same boat. It made me realize I wasn't alone. I'm here if you want to talk. Hang in there.

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I'm so sorry

It does get a little better but the sadness will never fully go away. Everyone handles it differently. For me- I was a MESS for weeks. I had lost the baby around 9 weeks and I refused to believe it. I wanted to prolong the D&C... and then I ended up miscarrying at home at what would have been 11 weeks. Those 2 weeks inbetween I just tried to deny and not think about it. Then after the MC I was SO depressed. I would run out and cry in my car during my lunch break.

Then when AF came, I was actually happy and relieved, because that meant I was back to normal and could start trying again. For me, AF was a sense of closure. But there is still that loss in my heart and the terrified feeling that it will happen again.

It is so hard going through this, but you can only take it one day at a time. You will have good days and bad days. Just try not to feel defeated or feel like a failure, because this was not your fault!! It happens to so many of us. It's ok to be sad and mourn your loss- dont be afraid to cry, but don't give up. It will happen for you!!!

(hugs)!

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So sorry for your loss.

It is depressing, but it does get better with time. For me my first AF was the closure I needed. I will always remember my first pregancy (even if it was a short one), but AF helped me move on.

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Thanks for the support and sharing your stories. Today has been better and I have an apt with the RE next Tues so I have a plan to move forward.