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dragonmom
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Karen
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christening cost?
My Husbands Chaldean Church(Catholic) is saying $100 up to $500 to baptise our daughter ( she is 7 1/2 mo) has to be done before she is yr old or they cant do it til she is old enough to take classes.
Thought churches were non profit? and baptism was suppose to be free?
and I cant go since im not catholic (yet) even though we are married (JOP) we are not considered married since it wasnt catholic ceremony.... still alot issues as well since im not chaldean, and his family dont understand why he chose to marry american woman since they are suppose to marry their own, but he has told his family that it dont matter and what is said to me or against me is the same as to him, and he wont tolerate it.
none this make sense to me...
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Posted 5/25/13 2:09 PM  |
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Re: christening cost?
every church is different. you're expected to give a donation at my church... and i think at my church the suggested donation is $75
you might not need to use the home parish.
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| Posted 5/25/13 2:30 PM |
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harts2976
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Re: christening cost?
Most churches will ask for a donation.
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| Posted 5/25/13 4:57 PM |
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Providence718
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christening cost?
My cousins audited their daughter at age 3 and had her baptized that year ... The under 1 year rule is strange to me
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| Posted 5/25/13 5:00 PM |
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dragonmom
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Karen
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by harts2976
Most churches will ask for a donation.
Yea I understand a donation as voluntary cost but his church is saying it as a fee charge to do it...not as donation
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| Posted 5/25/13 6:36 PM |
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Kitten1929
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christening cost?
They call it a donation because they're non-profit but in reality it is a fee you must pay if you want to have your christening there.
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| Posted 5/25/13 7:47 PM |
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by Kitten1929
They call it a donation because they're non-profit but in reality it is a fee you must pay if you want to have your christening there.
this. i mean -- honestly if you can't afford the 'donation' i bet you could talk to the people who organize things there.
i remember when we were getting married... the church where my husband's family attends services wanted something insane. 750? maybe 1000? i dont remember.
our church that we had been attending together ... i think it was like 300?
but people of all financial situations have babies and get married -- you'll work it out.
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alli3131
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by Kitten1929
They call it a donation because they're non-profit but in reality it is a fee you must pay if you want to have your christening there.
My church ( catholic) said give what you can. And if you can't give anything no big deal.
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| Posted 5/25/13 8:54 PM |
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WockaWocka10
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christening cost?
Wait, you can't go????
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Re: christening cost?
Also I'm confused... what do you mean it would be $100 cheapest up to $500?
There are different 'prices'?
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| Posted 5/26/13 1:42 PM |
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dragonmom
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Karen
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by WockaWocka10
Wait, you can't go????
a little more explanation
Robert wants to take Roxanne to go see his family ( all catholic) and has to go 3-4 hr drive,to detroit area... none his family has seen her yet and are all downstate... and with the issues with his family (that he still has to deal with and knock it down his way to get them to stop judging me) That 1. Im older 7yr than him, 2. im american not chaldean 3. was married before and have 2 other kids...plus more things.... since he was suppose to marry a choice his mom made, younger,virgin and never married as per chaldean culture, he went totally against all this, and married me and had child... he will fight for me till he dies, he is solid to all commitment no matter what, he has told his family that it dont matter and what is said to me or against me is the same as to him, and he wont tolerate it. He totally isnt like or compairs to any man i have ever known, After all the crap i have had most my life I finally found the man i been wanting...
ANYWAY Robert say's his church wont allow me there cause im not catholic, i say well we are married and she is my daughter too (his church dont recoginize JOP as married)
So I have to wait and deal with it cause none his family will come up here to do it in the local catholic church near me, and I have noone who is catholic to stand with us and be godparent
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dragonmom
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by MaPetiteLoutre
Also I'm confused... what do you mean it would be $100 cheapest up to $500?
There are different 'prices'?
No idea... One Chaldean church in the not so nice area, (bad areas in detroit) is free to 100..... the other ones want more, but they are in the subburbs and nicer areas.
Robert says he is going to get it done, and when they ask for the money, he is going to set what he has and thats it, if they have problem oh well, he dont like the idea of them "asking" for certain amount....they are not asking for suggested donations, but a set fee, from what his aunt said when shwe made some calls as well. His aunt dont understand why we have issue with it....
but most chaldean own 1 or more stores and can afford to do it and not ask why...
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MamaB17
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Re: christening cost?
Our church ask for a donation, no set amount. We gave $150 to the Deacon. We had a private ceremony in the chapel.
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| Posted 5/26/13 6:51 PM |
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Re: christening cost?
I'm from the Detroit area...where exactly is your husband from?
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| Posted 5/26/13 7:11 PM |
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dragonmom
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Karen
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by MaPetiteLoutre
I'm from the Detroit area...where exactly is your husband from?
most his family is in Sterling hts / Warren area
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| Posted 5/26/13 7:16 PM |
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that's exactly where i'm from.
it has to specifically be a 'chaldean catholic' church?
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| Posted 5/26/13 9:39 PM |
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dragonmom
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by MaPetiteLoutre
that's exactly where i'm from.
it has to specifically be a 'chaldean catholic' church?
Yes he wants it to be in his chaldean church.... IF I had had any friend up north here that was Catholic then we would have already had her baptism in the first month she was born, but We have taken almost 8 months now trying to think of someone near here that is Catholic and I have noone, asked all friends i know....
Sooo ending up that he has to take her down to get it done in his church with his family.
Guess since your from, that area you know how strict the chaldean ways and thinking is? Robert in some ways thinks alot like his family but makes his own life and choices and dont let his family rule what he does, im glad about that or id have never had a chance at all in even being with him, since 99% chaldean marry their own. I got the best with him, finally happy and know this man is never going anywhere the rest our lives together.
Just have to get his family to accept that, and then I have to deal with the language issues with his family, mostly they speak chaldean, even though alot them know english
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by alli3131
Posted by Kitten1929
They call it a donation because they're non-profit but in reality it is a fee you must pay if you want to have your christening there.
My church ( catholic) said give what you can. And if you can't give anything no big deal.
I'm guessing we go to the same church in Farmingdale. We were told it could be one dollar or a million. They didn't ask us if we were married in a church or how often we attend. They were more interested in that we wanted to raise our child Catholic.
If you're not happy with your church you can request a letter granting you permission to get your LO Baptized out of your home parish.
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christening cost?
It depends on many things like place(church), people etc...
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Re: christening cost?
Okay, yeah -- you have specific church requirements involved here so everyone else's responses aren't going to help.
I was like  when I saw 'Chaldean' in your earlier post because I've hardly heard that word since I've lived here.
Metro Detroit I think has the highest concentration of Chaldean population in the entire U.S.
That seems like a lot for a Christening but maybe that's standard for that branch? I don't know. If it was me... I'd tell my husband to take care of it if it's so important to him that the baby be christened in that kind of church?
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dragonmom
LIF Infant
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Karen
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by MaPetiteLoutre
Okay, yeah -- you have specific church requirements involved here so everyone else's responses aren't going to help.
I was like when I saw 'Chaldean' in your earlier post because I've hardly heard that word since I've lived here.
Metro Detroit I think has the highest concentration of Chaldean population in the entire U.S.
That seems like a lot for a Christening but maybe that's standard for that branch? I don't know. If it was me... I'd tell my husband to take care of it if it's so important to him that the baby be christened in that kind of church?
Yea I know Detroit area has huge Chaldean population, and Robert is going to be taking her down this coming weekend for 2 days ( sucks I cant go) but after today and his aunt, uncle and his mom tearing into him again today about me, and him diggin himself into hole with me up north here with me and not being home with family , working a job in the stores down there and marrying a young chaldean woman and starting over, I guess its better I don't go this trip. Not til he can kill the issue for good with them
I think as mad as he got today that he will just be getting baptism done and coming home cause his family is pissing him off so much that they wont accept me.
Sorry about venting but its not easy dealing with all the family issues, when they are so against American women.since they see us all as we sleep around don't stay virgins til we marry and stay with one man.... etc... Robert keeps telling them I am not like that, and I never will be. but his family don't understand.
I keep telling Robert not every single american woman/girl etc does that,and they should be able to see that... but all Chaldean see is most of Detroit and their experiences with American women is that they sleep with everyone they can. So its hard concept for Chaldean to think that a American woman can stay true to one man.
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JDubs
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Re: christening cost?
Posted by alli3131
Posted by Kitten1929
They call it a donation because they're non-profit but in reality it is a fee you must pay if you want to have your christening there.
My church ( catholic) said give what you can. And if you can't give anything no big deal.
Same here. We gave $100 as our donation.
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