Re: MC is inevitable...natural v. D&C? Need guidance please

Posted by Alyssa79

Posted by jessnbrian

Posted by Alyssa79

Posted by jessnbrian

Posted by Alyssa79

I'm sorry for your loss :(

I did mine naturally (I was 9 weeks).

While it was one of the hardest things to go through emotionally, mentally and physically I would choose this route again if it came down to it - I feel nature ran its course.

I had a lot of pain and discomfort and as much as the dr's office told me what I might feel, I still wasn't prepared for what I was up against.

Either way it sucks but I feel our bodies aren't ready and it's its way of telling us.

Editied b/c I just realized I have never "spoken" about this to anyone really and i actually feel a little better discussing it now

I think it is so important to talk about it - it definitely helps with the healing process. I HATE that there is this stigma that comes with IF and well, just fertility and TTC in general. It's like the whole process (regardless of whether you are having difficulties or not) is sort of talked about only behind closed doors and I hate that.

I definitely agree with you but as a person who doesn't really discuss what goes on in my life I'm not really open to just discussing. Plus my dad passed away a few months before that so no one (and I mean no one) should've heard what was going on in my head at that extremely depressing time

First, I am so very sorry for your losses, I can't even imagine going through all of that. I totally get being a private person, but those are DEFINITELY the times that you need to share what's going on. (Though I will absolutely admit that EVERYONE'S grieving process is different.) I just know that for myself (and many of my friends and family) it's when we keep it inside that we get in trouble and resort to other forms of relief (alcohol, drugs, cutting, over eating, starving, etc). I hope you find that this to be a safe haven for sharing!

ETA: And honestly if you shared and someone judged you, then eff them - no one has the right, and if the people in your life are not able to listen without judgement then you need new people in your life. I have legit 2 good friends, and that's about it. They are sisters to me and both of them have known me through my worst times - times when I was contemplating drastic measures and drinking heavily. Thanks to their friendship and support I am NOT in those places anymore, and would know that if I were to get depressed again I could go straight to them or my DH for the support and guidance (to a therapist, lol) that I needed.

agreed and as time passes I do wish I did things differently and spoke about it and opened up more. it's nice when you know people are there for you (truly there) and my word of advice is that even if you think people don't care about your problems or aren't there for you..there might just be that 1 or 2 that is.

Thanks Jess for making me talk

Re: MC is inevitable...natural v. D&C? Need guidance please

i am so sorry for your loss

i have had 3

2 were gone before anyhting could be done

1 i had the choice,i opted natural and if i could go back and change it i would

it was awful seeing it before my face