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babyfever24
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Go ahead call me a hater
Why exactly am I getting baby shower invitations for kids due in October? I mean can people be anymore obnoxious???
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Lillies
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Holy crap that's way too early! I guess people are getting competitive with guests and gifts?
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| Posted 5/12/14 3:48 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
It's obnoxious. I had to unfollow this girl on Instagram after I told her months ago how I find the excessive ultrasound pics offensive.
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| Posted 5/12/14 4:37 PM |
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JSDB
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
That seems really early to me. I am due in mid-Oct and after 3 losses I just fully came out that I was pregnant this weekend and that was only in part because I am showing now and can't hide it. I would have waited even longer if I could have. 
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| Posted 5/12/14 4:57 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
People are just so excessive with their pregnancies and social media makes it so much worse. They have no clue how badly it affects some people like me
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| Posted 5/12/14 4:58 PM |
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babydreams21
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Go ahead call me a hater
Ummm what? Way too early. Definitely jumping the gun. Don't "normal" people worry?
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| Posted 5/12/14 5:10 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by babydreams21
Ummm what? Way too early. Definitely jumping the gun. Don't "normal" people worry?
Nope. They reach that twelve week mark and they're in the clear. Some obnoxious people I know even tell the world the minute they POas 
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| Posted 5/12/14 5:24 PM |
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shellbebaby
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Go ahead call me a hater
The only time I have seen invites that early is when the person lives far away from her family and they do it in the 2nd trimester so she can fly to it.
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| Posted 5/12/14 6:33 PM |
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Go ahead call me a hater
Too early for the shower invites, however, we struggled with IF for four years and we were fully out by 10 weeks. Our thought process being they we would have support if something happened.
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| Posted 5/12/14 6:56 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by JoanneAndJustin
Too early for the shower invites, however, we struggled with IF for four years and we were fully out by 10 weeks. Our thought process being they we would have support if something happened.
Like i said, i am a little cynical lol…….the girl is a super sweet girl and i should be happy for her. NOT EASY!!!
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| Posted 5/12/14 6:57 PM |
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alli3131
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by babyfever24
People are just so excessive with their pregnancies and social media makes it so much worse. They have no clue how badly it affects some people like me
I think this is kinda unfair. It took me two years to have DS and we are over 2 years for # 2. I never once thought any celebrating their pregnancy was excessive. People should be happy and while I was sad for myself I never once would hate on another because they were pg.
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| Posted 5/12/14 8:21 PM |
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cowgirlkate
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by JoanneAndJustin
Too early for the shower invites, however, we struggled with IF for four years and we were fully out by 10 weeks. Our thought process being they we would have support if something happened.
I agree. We were fully out at 9 weeks, partially because after 18 months we were just SO excited and partially because we knew we'd need support if the world came crashing down on our twin happiness parade.
But in response to the original post- there is no way you should get a shower invite for an Oct baby. That is craziness. There is a big difference between being "out" about your pregnancy and sending out shower invites.
Message edited 5/12/2014 8:54:00 PM.
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| Posted 5/12/14 8:52 PM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
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Posted by babyfever24
People are just so excessive with their pregnancies and social media makes it so much worse. They have no clue how badly it affects some people like me
I think this is kinda unfair. It took me two years to have DS and we are over 2 years for # 2. I never once thought any celebrating their pregnancy was excessive. People should be happy and while I was sad for myself I never once would hate on another because they were pg.
The people in my life are excessive and especially insensitive to my situation, posting their urine sticks the day they find out  a baby bump a week. Every ultrasound photo. To each their own, which is why i unfollow them.
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| Posted 5/12/14 9:06 PM |
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Hope2009
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
that's super long time in advance for a shower. Is there some reasoning being it?
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| Posted 5/13/14 5:40 AM |
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Michelle1110
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Prior to being pregnant, I couldn't be happy for anyone who wasn't on this journey with me. I would block them and call it a day.
Now, I post some bump pics (not weekly) and posts, bc people ask for it.
My shower invites went out and I'm due in sept. My shower is in end of June bc that's when my family will be in town.
I get that it seems early, but there's a reason.
All this to say - it's fine to block and hide people during IF. But when you are pregnant, you'll see things a bit differently. I will always consider myself an IF girl, and post on Facebook Resolve info and stuff. But it does change your mind set when you cross over. You'll see that after a point, you prob won't want to hide and act as normal as possible.
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| Posted 5/13/14 5:55 AM |
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Pinkisles
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by babyfever24
People are just so excessive with their pregnancies and social media makes it so much worse. They have no clue how badly it affects some people like me
I have no fertility issues and I feel the same way. I can't stand constant ultrasound pics or bump pics or constantly talking about it on fb. I found that I wanted my pregnancy to be a very private time, just for me, my husband and my close family and friends. I didn't mention a word about being pregnant on fb and I'm glad I didn't. I also won't pits pics of my son because I hate the privacy settings ( which are really not private at all ).
There is too much over sharing on social media in General, IMO.
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| Posted 5/13/14 7:33 AM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by Michelle1110
But when you are pregnant, you'll see things a bit differently. I will always consider myself an IF girl, and post on Facebook Resolve info and stuff. But it does change your mind set when you cross over. You'll see that after a point, you prob won't want to hide and act as normal as possible.
Absolutely I'm sure i will….its just not easy!!!!!
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| Posted 5/13/14 7:51 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
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Posted by alli3131
Posted by babyfever24
People are just so excessive with their pregnancies and social media makes it so much worse. They have no clue how badly it affects some people like me
I think this is kinda unfair. It took me two years to have DS and we are over 2 years for # 2. I never once thought any celebrating their pregnancy was excessive. People should be happy and while I was sad for myself I never once would hate on another because they were pg.
The people in my life are excessive and especially insensitive to my situation, posting their urine sticks the day they find out a baby bump a week. Every ultrasound photo. To each their own, which is why i unfollow them.
It's perfectly fine to unfollow your friends who are posting about their own pregnancies. However, I think it's unfair of you to say they are being insensitive to you by posting their pics of their pregnancies. Their pregnancies have nothing to do with you. They shouldn't have to hide their own happiness just because you are struggling. And posting things on social media is posting it to the world - not to you specifically.
DH and I struggled to get pregnant with DS for a long time and the process was heartbreaking for us. But, I never once expected anyone to hide their pregnancies from me or tame their happiness. I was sad for me, but happy for them. Jealous? Yes, sometimes. But my time came...and so will yours.
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| Posted 5/13/14 8:09 AM |
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babyfever24
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by NYCGirl80
Posted by babyfever24
Posted by alli3131
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It's perfectly fine to unfollow your friends who are posting about their own pregnancies. However, I think it's unfair of you to say they are being insensitive to you by posting their pics of their pregnancies. Their pregnancies have nothing to do with you. They shouldn't have to hide their own happiness just because you are struggling. And posting things on social media is posting it to the world - not to you specifically.
DH and I struggled to get pregnant with DS for a long time and the process was heartbreaking for us. But, I never once expected anyone to hide their pregnancies from me or tame their happiness. I was sad for me, but happy for them. Jealous? Yes, sometimes. But my time came...and so will yours.
Thank you i know its not intended to hurt me but i do expect people in my immediate family to be a little more sensitive towards my struggle and not post every little fart, JMHO
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gina409
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
I think the most important thing to keep in mind is that his is all not black and white
No "right" way to deal with it. Some people can look at other people's Sonos all day and be ok Some can't. NEITHER are wrong.
I will never judge anyone who has been through half of what anyone,none the less this poster has been through
It was a vent. I thought everyone was being insensitive to me when I was struggling. Were they? No of course not. But I didn't see that and it's so much easier to say when you are out of in rather than in the thick of it
No one is asking them to hide. That's why people just unfollow or block. And that's why people feel they can come here and bent bc people will understand exactly what they mean.
So again. If you can deal with it easier,that's great for you
Some can't
Don't worry. Jenn use to have a pregnant mile radius to warn me before I saw one
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| Posted 5/13/14 9:27 AM |
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Michelle1110
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Posted by babyfever24
Posted by Michelle1110
But when you are pregnant, you'll see things a bit differently. I will always consider myself an IF girl, and post on Facebook Resolve info and stuff. But it does change your mind set when you cross over. You'll see that after a point, you prob won't want to hide and act as normal as possible.
Absolutely I'm sure i will….its just not easy!!!!!
No it definitely isn't.
I also tried to imagine the pregnancy posts I would see were from people who had a horrible struggle like I was going through.
I just wanted to say, that me personally - my pregnancy posts aren't meant to rub it in peoples faces, but rather celebrate the rough road I had to journey to get here. Not trying to be insensitive at all. I'm sorry if you took it that way.
You have every right to feel the way you do - and I did for years. It does get better.
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| Posted 5/13/14 10:02 AM |
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hazel2
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Re: Go ahead call me a hater
Hide hide hide!! It's the only way I'm able to get through it. Pics of sonograms seem to be the new norm (dislike) but most women I know do it. This whole infertility journey is not easy and this is just another hard thing we have to deal with. Hang in there
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