Hate to say it, but...

is anyone REALLY looking forward to meeting new friends after they have their babies? I'm a FTM so I feel like I'll meet other new moms/parents through baby groups and I can't be more excited. A lot of my friends are just in different places or they aren't the kind of "do anything for each other" friends that I see others have...

Anyone else?

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I agree!! My son will be 2 in feb and I feel like I became closer with friends that have kids and are in the same place as I am! It's nice to have play dates and people that can relate! My best friend though whose more like a sister is still in my life and she's not even dating anyone serious but is the best aunt and friend ever! But the rest all have kids!

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Haven't really thought about it. I'll be a FTWM so I feel like most of my weekends will be family time. I'm definitely open to meeting mom friends and looking forward to it but I also want to do my best to keep strong relationships with my non mom friends.

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I didn't meet any new friends after I had my DS but I also don't take him to any programs or anything so that's probably my fault. We just hang out as a family on the weekends & evenings & we both work during the week so I just maintain the friendships I already had.

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I didn't meet any new friends after my first. It was something that was on my mind at all

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Do not count on making new friends right away. New moms are generally exhausted and not looking for people to hang out with...this was my experience--I have two neighbors with babies close in age to my dd and we hardly see each other.
I think it is easier to socialize when you start taking classes with your baby.

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I think if you ask this on the painting board you will find you actually don't meet new moms and make new friends as often as you are hoping.

I work FT so I never looked or cared but in general I find think many people are busy so it's just not that easy.

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DH and I have always had a ton of friends. I'm at a point where I'm looking to shrink the circle, not expand it. I have met moms at groups and I'll do play dates but I don't make an effort to become "friends". Between working full time and obligations I already have, I'm just too busy. Plus, for the most part, all of our friends are roughly at the same pace as us so their kids are the same age as DS

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As my friends on Long Island are dwindling… with the moves to other states, my mom keeps telling me I'll meet new friends after I have a baby. But I am figuring unless I find myself a mommy and me class, that won't really be until she's a little older. But I may be in CT by then.

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I met a great group of moms through my library so it does happen. I sah and my friends either work or are not local so it's been so nice to meet other moms who are in my town and have kids close in age. We started going when my first was 4 months and saw a lot of the same people all the time. Eventually we stayed doing play dates and getting together with the dads too which is nice. We do a lot together, the kids have a blast, and the moms are less likely to lose their minds!

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I def met new friends once I had kids who had kids.
It depends on what you want: I like having people to meet up with together with the kids.
Two good ones were people who I met but lost touch with til we had kids close in age!
My BFF has no kids yet, so, yes... She def wants to spend time, but it's different than going with someone who has a kid.
You can meet people everywhere: from ob office to Gymboree to the playground or town pool.

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I Am a FTWM also and I have not met any new friends. I go to my local library group on Wed mornings since I work Saturdays I get a day off during the week but I also have a second job. They are all SAHM who make plans with each other. When I tell them I work FT they just go Ohhh and continue on making there plans for lunch on Friday at 11, it sucks and I feel left out but I just ignore it. DD is my new bestie lol.

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I think you can meet friends through play groups if you're really trying to. I did groups but I wasn't looking to make friends so I didn't push for it. We have one couple that I'd consider "friends we made through having kids" but we met them through daycare. DH and the dad actually clicked and they're really the ones who are friends. I'm not the overly friendly type though, so that plays a big role.

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i am a ftm and always looking for new friends!!!

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I find it really tough to make new friends as a working mom (even part time). I feel like most of the playgroup/classes etc where you might meet some new friends are geared to SAHM (obviously since they have more flexibility in scheduling). My friends haven't really changed at all since the birth of my 1st DC and I am very lucky to have my best friend from 1st grade living in my town with twins 6months younger then my DS. She is a SAHM though and has met several new friends (most of them are just very casual friends though-ie only really get together for playgroups and things like that)