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SLPRunner
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Re: Ready for number 2?
Posted by ChristinaM128
After reading these responses, I also want to add that I would have preferred a bigger age split to stagger daycare costs. My brother and I are 6 years apart and that's the norm for me. However, having my first at age 34 didn't leave a lot of room for waiting much longer than 3 years.[/QUOTE
This. I always wanted kids 2 years apart. It's how my brother and I grew up. But being I work I need to consider daycare costs. I'll probably start trying for #2 when my DS is 3.
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twicethefun
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Re: Ready for number 2?
My children are 3.5 years apart and are opposite sexes. I think it's a perfect age difference for us. Believe it or not they still play and laugh together. And they also scream, and cry at each other. It's a love hate relationship, lol but mostly love. I don't think it would be any better if they were closer in age. My son is presently working with my daughter to teach her to play softball. He gets her from school and will walk her home if necessary. I think there will be positives and negatives for any age difference you choose. Just do it when you're ready.
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Golden19
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Ready for number 2?
I always thought I wanted my children 2 to 3 years apart in age. I had trouble TTC #2 and they will be almost 5 years apart in age. I have to say, I am more than OK with the age difference.
I was able to give my DC so much one on one time, mommy & me classes, consistent schedule, etc, and now when DC enters K next year, I will be able to give baby #2 the same exact thing. While TTC, there was a brief time period that I got upset thinking about the age difference, but I think it actually works so much better for my family.
My brother & I are almost 5 years apart, and we played fine. Sure we fought, but when we were younger we always played together. Since high school we have been at different stages of life, but I am OK with that we still get along fine. You can have children close in age who hate each other, and you can have children years apart who are best friends. You just never know.
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nferrandi
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Re: Ready for number 2?
Posted by LiveItUp
The only thing that makes me kinda sad is she will be going into 4th grade by the time our LO enters kindergarten, so that feels like a pretty big gap to me, but I think they can still be close if DH and I encourage and nurture a special bond between them.
We have this exactly. I sent my fourth grader and kindergartner off on the bus this year. I agree that I do wish they were just a couple months closer so that they would have more time in school together, but it took me 10 months to get pregnant with #2.
The gap really isn't that big. They do have some different interests, but for the most part, they play together well and are pretty close.
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Annie91606
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Re: Ready for number 2?
I had my second when my first was 2.5 years old. They are now 5 and 7, and play together often. I did have 2 in diapers for about 8 months!
My big thing was having my first get some time to be our only child for a bit before a baby came.
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| Posted 9/12/15 8:44 AM |
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Sparrow
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Ready for number 2?
Mine are 22mo apart and I think it's great. I always wanted mine close together so that they could be playmates, which they totally are. My sibling and I are over 6 years apart and while we get along great, we were never in the same place at all age wise until we became adults. Growing up I always wished I had a sibling closer in age.
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bella321
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Re: Ready for number 2?
My kids are 3 years apart (almost exactly) and I LOVE the age difference.
Here's why ...
1. Older child was potty trained a few weeks before the second arrived. A big time and money saver.
2. Older child started part time nursery school six months after the baby was born. This gave me some undivided time with the new one.
3. Older child was able to verbalize what he needed. Dealing with two crying babies would be overwhelming, for me, at least.
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MichLiz213
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Ready for number 2?
Emotionally I'm ready, but DH and I have some career things to work out first, so the perfect time is what's good for us and not an exact age gap. DS is 4 already, so whenever we decide to have #2 will be perfect for our family.
My brother and I are 12 months apart, and there's 6 years between my two brothers, so I've seen it both ways.
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lululu
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Re: Ready for number 2?
My first two are 2 yrs 9 mos apart but only two school years. I think that a little closer might have been nicer just to make sure they are only two grades apart. My second and third are only 17 mos apart. They are also two school years apart. I think that was a little too close together. probably should've waited another 6 months. So I like the 2 year difference.
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Ready for number 2?
2 under 2 is rough, at least for me it was. I wouldn't change is now but in the first 18 months I hardly slept and spent my entire days running around after them. I always wanted my kids close in age but now I'm wiser and I think 3-4 years is an easier.
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| Posted 9/13/15 6:09 PM |
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MrsKR88
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Re: Ready for number 2?
Posted by bella321
My kids are 3 years apart (almost exactly) and I LOVE the age difference.
Here's why ...
1. Older child was potty trained a few weeks before the second arrived. A big time and money saver.
2. Older child started part time nursery school six months after the baby was born. This gave me some undivided time with the new one.
3. Older child was able to verbalize what he needed. Dealing with two crying babies would be overwhelming, for me, at least.
My kids are exactly 2 years apart and it was tough. If I had a 3rd, I would want a 3 yr+ age gap for all of these reasons.
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