Something for a friend who miscarried.

I had a miscarriage very early on in my first pregnancy and it was hard enough to deal with. A friend of mine just miscarried about 18 weeks in and had to deliver her son.

I want to send her something. Maybe something to honor him or a remembrance. Something. But I don't know what.

Any ideas or thoughts on this?


ETA: Was thinking of a simple Willow Tree figurine. Just the angel. Nothing holding a baby, because if it were me I would break down every time I saw it. Just an angel to comfort them.

Message edited 4/4/2017 7:53:12 PM.

Re: Something for a friend who miscarried.

I'm so sorry about your friend.

I had a loss around then.. 17.5 weeks. I think it's just really good to show your support, make a plan to get together and get her out of her house (and out of her head). If you're looking for something tangible, one of my friends planted a tree in my baby boy's memory from the website atreeinstead.com. We named him, so along with this came a certificate from the company which had his name printed on it, along with a personalized heartfelt note from my friend.

Everyone grieves in different ways. Some people just want to forget and move on. I know for me, I liked seeing his name on the certificate. It reminded me that he was was real, when everyone else around me walked on eggshells afraid to mention anything about him or my experience. Regardless of what you do, just being there is more meaningful than anything else.

Re: Something for a friend who miscarried.

I got an ornament. It was small and nice... with a quote about someone lost to me. Means a lot because I felt like that part of my life was completely erased.

Re: Something for a friend who miscarried.

I'm so sorry. Everyone is different. Personally, I wouldn't want gifts. If you think she would appreciate it, I think some kind of Angel sounds nice. I wish I had a sonogram picture of the baby I miscarried and if I did, I would want to put it in a frame maybe with a poem or blessing on it. Not sure if they make something like that.

Re: Something for a friend who miscarried.

I had two eight-week losses, and frankly, I would not want to receive any kind of remembrance gift. It would be a too painful reminder for me to have, and I think every one is so different with this. I would err on the side of offering an ear, just being supportive if she wants to talk.

I do like the tree planting idea though. Because its not a tangible reminder.

Re: Something for a friend who miscarried.

A card with a few kind words goes a long way. A gift is very kind and appreciated. Even if she doesn't keep it out forever, she could eventually pack it away with other mementos. A miscarriage and a second trimester delivery are two very different things. You are a good friend.

Something for a friend who miscarried.

I gave an angel that came with a prayer of healing. I felt like it was the way to go because it acknowledged what happened but was geared towards the couple. It was well received