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teachermom
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
Asking for a friend (really!)
A close friend is getting married next month and her dad is very sick and will not be able to attend her wedding. He may pass before it even gets here. They are paid in full with their venue and I want to offer to call and talk to them about options.
If you have been in this situation (rescheduling when paid in full) I would appreciate any advice. Thank you
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Posted 9/17/17 7:56 PM |
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MrsT809
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
Not what you're asking but would he be able to attend if they did a small, town hall type ceremony beforehand? Then if the hall doesn't want to work with them they could leave it as is versus trying to coordinate moving all the vendors to another date and figuring out who can sms can't come on the new date.
I had a friend who did a justice of the peace and planned to have a big wedding soon after (he was military so it made life easier for them to be married while living on base). Her dad passed unexpectedly soon after they married and they never had the wedding. It stinks and 15 years later I still feel bad and I'm sure they're still sad they missed out on that celebration.
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Posted 9/17/17 8:53 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
I would try to have something earlier that he can attend.
I'm so sorry for your friend. I hope she can figure something out and her dad can see his daughter get married.
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Posted 9/17/17 8:59 PM |
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mommy2be716
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
agree with the above. I would do a town hall wedding beforehand, and hire and photographer to take photos of her and her father before the ceremony so she has those memories to keep. Then continue to have the reception on it's scheduled date
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Posted 9/17/17 9:07 PM |
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MrsG823
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
Your friend should double check her contracts. Some places may offer to reschedule the wedding if they can rebook the date. My brother died suddenly three months before my wedding and while my venue offered to postpone the wedding some of my vendors were not as flexible. In the end I decided to keep my wedding date and my family was happy to have a happy occasion to celebrate.
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Posted 9/17/17 10:50 PM |
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mrsrainbow
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
It depend on the venue. Contracts are contracts, but some places will work with you and others won't. It doesn't hurt to ask, but it's really up to the venue to decide. My friend lost her house in Sandy and the venue would not do anything for her. The wedding went on because she would have otherwise lost all that too. My husband's cousin had a death in her fiance's family and the venue let her reschedule, but the date she picked was more money so she had to pay the difference. At the end of the day they're in business and they don't have to do anything (just being honest :( )
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Posted 9/18/17 9:59 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
Posted by mrsrainbow
It depend on the venue. Contracts are contracts, but some places will work with you and others won't. It doesn't hurt to ask, but it's really up to the venue to decide. My friend lost her house in Sandy and the venue would not do anything for her. The wedding went on because she would have otherwise lost all that too. My husband's cousin had a death in her fiance's family and the venue let her reschedule, but the date she picked was more money so she had to pay the difference. At the end of the day they're in business and they don't have to do anything (just being honest :( )
Yes I tend to agree. I don't imagine they would let you reschedule at this point, but it doesn't hurt to ask
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Posted 9/18/17 10:01 AM |
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lightblue
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Re: Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
Posted by mommy2be716
agree with the above. I would do a town hall wedding beforehand, and hire and photographer to take photos of her and her father before the ceremony so she has those memories to keep. Then continue to have the reception on it's scheduled date
I like this idea
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Posted 9/18/17 12:49 PM |
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Loveme
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Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
My mother suddenly died 3 months before our wedding. We went to our catering hall and asked to postpone. They did no questions asked and with no penalties. We sat down with one of the managers and he told us that if our other vendors gave us a hard time to let him know and he will handle it. Luckily everyone else was very understanding and whatever money we had already paid was applied to a later date.
I would tell your friend to call the venue and ask to speak to someone.
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Posted 9/18/17 2:02 PM |
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LI2VA
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Re: Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
As someone who runs a wedding venue I can tell you that most places have policy in place that if you cancel that close to the event, you lose your money. It is not that we want to keep your money but rather it could have gone to someone else and we cannot re-book the space in that amount of time.
All venue's are different and some don't necessary allow you re-book for another day but you never know. I would just ask what if any recourse you have under the circumstances.
This is why I always tell my clients to purchase event insurance... its no more than $200 for some peace of mind should situations like this come up.
GL
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Posted 9/18/17 2:49 PM |
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Re: Rescheduling Wedding 1 month out
My mother was near the end just before my wedding. My brothers went to the Milleridge a d explained what was happening. They said we could have called the day if and cancelled with no penalty and they woukd have moved it to another date. That said we talked about doing someth ing small at the hospital if need be my no. Got to attend my wedding and dies 10 days later. I urge ypur friend to do something that he can be a part of. It meant the world to me that my mom got to witness it.
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Posted 9/19/17 9:00 AM |
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