Need advice... wedding in a month (away)

So, Sasha will be just 6 months and we have this wedding in CT. It's at a resort-- a little "destination'y".

The resort required a two-night minimum, so we booked two nights just thinking we'd figure it out. We booked before Sasha was even born.

So, now I know a lot can change in a month-- but I do not have a good sleeper. She's not completely horrible at night, and probably by then if she is still waking, it will only be once. But, the daytime is another story entirely and she NEEDS to nap when she decides she must, and must be put down for one-- otherwise, she is a crank monster. She is not easy to put down either. My days are very hard.

Now, I cannot freeze my BM. My frozen stash is unusable (lipase). I need to basically be with her to feed her.

So here's the thing--- I can't really leave her with anyone-- even for one night, unless I really pump hardcore a day or so before so there will be enough to feed her, even then I am not sure I will produce enough for the time period. She is also a handful and I do not want to inflict that upon anyone to stay with her for 24+. Plus, I don't think I could really bear to leave her. I can't stand it when someone else even holds her.

I could bring her and get a babysitter at the resort I assume. I can put her to bed myself and then go to the wedding? The ceremony starts at 4 30, so I will probably have to miss it (or bring her), then just go to the reception. I am a little nervous about this cause I have never left her with anyone else and she doesn't like strangers-- but, I will be right there and can tell them to call me if she wakes-- it's just someone to stay there in case she does wake up.

Then I have the same thing for the RD the night before.

I am so confused about what to do.

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I would bring her to the ceremony and hire someone at the hotel for babysitting so you can go up to her if need be. My SIL did this for a wedding for her DD who also HAD to be breastfed- she refused the bottle and wasn't sleeping well at all. She was also a really difficult baby. It all worked out.

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DH and I were both in the bridal party of a wedding in Key West when Landon was 5 months old. We brought a babysitter with us (my mom) for the trip and she babysat DS while we went to the rehearsal dinner, ceremony (she cme to the reception with DS). It was perfect. COuld you bring someone with you?

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If you could bring someone with you like your mom or someone you would feel comfortable with I would do that. One of my husbands best friends got married a few yearsago when DS was little at the Waldorf and we were staying overnight. I had my mom come and a few times during the night I was able to go back to the room. It allowed me to relax over worrying what would happen with ds and let me have a good time.

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I called the place and they gave me babysitter info. I am thinking if she wakes up-- just to have them call me, and I will come back to the room and deal with her-- so, Sasha never even sees the sitter. Now we let her cry for 10 mins or so, so it's not like it's so different. I could deal with that.

We might ask my MIL if she wants to come-- but she would need to bring a friend and have fun during the weekend, I would HATE to have her come just to sit in our hotel room while Sasha slept at night. The guilt would eat away at me.

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Could you bring a another relative other than your MIL- mother, sister etc? This way she would be with someone that you trust and she would be comfortable with - then you can leave every so often come back to the room and feed her as she needs - but still go and participate? Otherwise your MIL could take the baby on walks in the resort or something of that nature since you said you don't want her just sitting in the room.

Otherwise - btw have you tried boiling your milk before freezing it - I have read that if you have lipase issues when BFing that by boiling the milk first it kills the enzyme that causes the spoiling. That might be a solution b.c it that does work then you can pump and store and that would solve your problem.

I understand how difficult it can be - I have a 7.5 week old who refuses a bottle and has colic and reflux - but the above solution would be what I would do if I wanted to go to the wedding.