mixed feelings

I hope some of you can relate. I am soooo excited to meet my little one - hold her in my arms and be a mom. Every little twinge of pain I hope is labor and am only disappointed when it isn't.

I also can't wait to not be preggo anymore. I'm really uncomfy - and today I feel like crap - every day more than the last.

BUT on the other hand, I'm starting to get nervous about labor/delivery and almost dreading it. I'm also really scared for her arrival - all the changes, being unprepared, not knowing what I am doing, the lack of sleep, how it will change my relationship with my DH, not working anymore - everything rolled up into one.

Can anyone relate - tell me I am not crazy.

Re: mixed feelings

You are totally NOT crazy, I'm feeling the same way.

I just want to meet my baby already. Find out if it's a boy or girl, see whose features it has, what it's personality is like, figure out what we'll name it, since we don't know the sex, and just hold it and feed it.

I'm also tired of the achy back, feeling nauseus (again, and I'm in my 8th month) the coming and going sciatica, and just walking around feeling so blimpy sometimes.

And then I get sad to think that I only have 7 weeks left of being pregnant, feeling my baby kick me and roll around. I feel like I'll miss it all once it's gone. It'll be replaced by my baby in my arms, but I feel like I'll really miss the wonder that having your child growing inside of you gives.

So many mixed emotions....

Re: mixed feelings

Don't worry, I feel the SAME way but I think it's completely normal. I've always loved kids and couldn't wait to have my own. I still can't wait-- I'm so excited and blessed to be able to have a baby of my very own with my DH.
On the other hand, I also have those same anxieties-- being unprepared, not having a clue, not sleeping and not working anymore. To top it off, we're moving out of the city where we've both been for over 7 years and moving to LI (my due date is Sept 26th & our closing is SUPPOSED to be Oct 1st).
It's just a lot of changes all at once...but, I keep telling myself they are HAPPY changes!!!
Hang in there...you're SO close!

Re: mixed feelings

I feel the same way but I am definitely more ready to meet her than I am to wait. I think I just want to move on to the next step of holding my little one in my arms and not in my belly.

Re: mixed feelings

I haven't gotten to the point of not wanting to be pregnant anymore. I love every minute of it but at the same time can't wait to meet my baby and see what he or she looks like! My arms are numb with want to hold it. Then those feelings of HOLY SH!T - will I be a good mother? will it come naturally? will I be able to handle it? come they make me want to stay pregnant forever!!!

Re: mixed feelings

What you're feeling is totally normal. I'm not going to lie to you.....things certainly do change but eventually you get used to it.

You'll be a great mom. You'll be surprised how natural things happen.

I was petrified of being a horrible mom. My MIL kept asking me if I was nuts. She's like you're going to do great. She was right. I took to it like I've been doing it my whole life. Sure you're going to have some days where you're going to just feel like you're clueless but that is normal....it's part of the process.

As far as labor, I found I made it worse in my head than what it really was. If you're getting an epidural, you'll be more than fine (well that was my experience!)

You'll be pleasantly surprised how your relationship with your husband changes (at least I was). You just have to try and make time for the both of you. However, you will definitely have arguments on how much you're doing and how much he isn't. If you face the fact that they will never do as much as we do, you'll resolve most of your arguments from the start! (LOL)

Don't worry it's the best time of your life. Good luck!!! You're going to be great!

Re: mixed feelings

I hear ya!!

While I'm not ready for the pregnancy to be over, I can't wait to finally have the baby here, know the sex, know what he/she looks like, call him/her something other than "Squirmy"...

On the other hand, neither my DH nor I are "baby people" (even with 5 nephews!) and I'm scared I'm not going to know what to do...it's all unknown. How will I go shopping with a baby? Will I be able to dry my hair in peace? Will we be able to go out to dinner ever again? How can I be totally responsible for a living being?!?!?! People always have to remind us that being a parent is fun; we find ourselves looking at the negative. I tell myself that everyone does it! I will function normally again, and those concerns will seem so silly I'm sure. In just a few short weeks we'll both be in full swing and I really can't wait to get started!!

Now as for labor and delivery...I think I'm still in denial...how much can it really hurt?

Re: mixed feelings

Posted by Eireann

I hear ya!!

While I'm not ready for the pregnancy to be over, I can't wait to finally have the baby here, know the sex, know what he/she looks like, call him/her something other than "Squirmy"...

On the other hand, neither my DH nor I are "baby people" (even with 5 nephews!) and I'm scared I'm not going to know what to do...it's all unknown. How will I go shopping with a baby? Will I be able to dry my hair in peace? Will we be able to go out to dinner ever again? How can I be totally responsible for a living being?!?!?! People always have to remind us that being a parent is fun; we find ourselves looking at the negative. I tell myself that everyone does it! I will function normally again, and those concerns will seem so silly I'm sure. In just a few short weeks we'll both be in full swing and I really can't wait to get started!!

Now as for labor and delivery...I think I'm still in denial...how much can it really hurt?

Message edited 8/25/2005 6:41:39 PM.