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DebG
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Member since 5/05 18602 total posts
Name: The cure IS worse!
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Feelings
Why is it that people feel they ahve the right to tell you how you SHOULD feel? or tell you your feelings are rediculous? What gives someone the right to say "you shouldn't feel that way" How do you respond when someone does this to you.
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Posted 3/8/06 8:49 AM |
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CAJ
woulda, coulda, shoulda
Member since 12/05 3366 total posts
Name: CJ
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Re: Feelings
Just say dont judge me unless you have walked in my shoes!
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Posted 3/8/06 8:51 AM |
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Leeners
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Member since 5/05 4898 total posts
Name: Eileen
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Re: Feelings
If I possibly can, I ignore them and chalk it up to ignorance. If I can't do that, I just say "no one can help the way they feel, it's our reactions to those feelings that we can control so please don't tell me how I should or should not feel." I would then end the conversation so as not to get into an argument.
I hate when people say this to me, or to other people in my presence, so I know how utterly obnoxious you probably find it. This and "Relax" are the worst things someone can say to me
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Posted 3/8/06 8:51 AM |
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Lisa
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Member since 5/05 22334 total posts
Name: Professional Aunts No Kids
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Re: Feelings
no one should tell anyone how they should feel. If I want to feel angry about a situation, then let me.
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Posted 3/8/06 8:52 AM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
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Re: Feelings
Posted by Leeners
I hate when people say this to me, or to other people in my presence, so I know how utterly obnoxious you probably find it. This and "Relax" are the worst things someone can say to me
Me too! I hate it! It's not that I need validation but I certainly don't need to be made to feel foolish.
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Posted 3/8/06 8:53 AM |
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ChristineR
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Member since 5/05 2083 total posts
Name: Christine
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Re: Feelings
I usually tell people, "Live my life for one day then you could tell me how I should feel."
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Posted 3/8/06 8:56 AM |
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DebG
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Name: The cure IS worse!
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Re: Feelings
Posted by ChristineR
I usually tell people, "Live my life for one day then you could tell me how I should feel."
that is so much better than my normal response of "F*** off" lol...I don't think its very effective
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Posted 3/8/06 8:57 AM |
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Kelly
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Member since 5/05 681 total posts
Name: This is it
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Re: Feelings
Do you think sometimes this is done in an attempt to make another person feel better?
In some cases it works: #1: I feel badly because I was late for the party. #2: You shouldn't feel badly, the party is just getting started.
Obviously in other cases it might not work as well--even so, the intent to be helpful might still be there: #1-I'm so worried about an upcoming test I'm having. #2-Oh, you shouldn't be! You have good doctors/study habits/etc...
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Posted 3/8/06 8:57 AM |
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usuk2004
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Member since 5/05 5150 total posts
Name: Farah
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Re: Feelings
Well, I think people are egocentric by nature - you cna't ever know what it feels like to be someone else, so you only ever have your experience or what you think you would say, do or feel in certain situations to go by. People just say what they think without thinking most of the time
I constantly find myself receiving unsolicited advice. Usually I just smile and say Maybe...I don't get people telling me how I feel though...
I'd say just say Well, that's not the way I feel, I feel like X and that's that!
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Posted 3/8/06 8:58 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Member since 5/05 13659 total posts
Name: And If That Isn't A True Blue Miracle
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Re: Feelings
i usually tell them to go scratch their a$$
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Posted 3/8/06 9:11 AM |
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DebG
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Re: Feelings
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i usually tell them to go scratch their a$$
almost as good as what I say.
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Posted 3/8/06 9:12 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Member since 5/05 27530 total posts
Name: me
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Re: Feelings
I HATE when someone tries to invalidate my feelings. I feel like HOW DARE THEY?! I have a right to feel however I want, whenever I want. It doesn't mean my feelings are the truth, but just how I'm feeling at the time. I usually tell the person, "I cannot change how I FEEL, and I am entitled to feel however I am at any given moment in time." When JT gives me a headache about feeling a certain way, I just tell him I don't appreciate him trying to invalidate me. He usually feels bad then when he realizes that's what he's doing.
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Posted 3/8/06 10:18 AM |
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kms717
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Member since 2/06 2747 total posts
Name: Kelly
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Re: Feelings
I agree with CJ
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Posted 3/8/06 10:53 AM |
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Shorty
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Member since 5/05 30390 total posts
Name: really
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Re: Feelings
I hate people.
Let ME feel how I WANNA FEEL
ugh
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Posted 3/8/06 10:54 AM |
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