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zoe282
We have our miracle!
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Jen
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So what do you think about this issue?
Is Porn the downfall of marriages??
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Posted 4/17/09 10:51 AM  |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
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Nik
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
i think being obsessed with porn is def a problem - if my DH looked at porn on a daily basis it would def irk me.....watching together once in awhile or on his own here and there isn't a big deal to me - but if it became a habit i could totally see it putting a strain on our marriage - i know there are people who get obsessive with porn and thats not my cup of tea, i rather make my own porn with DH than watch it 
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| Posted 4/17/09 11:27 AM |
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GioiaMia
Let's Go Rangers!
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
Great blog! As for setting unrealistic standards, we are too poor to afford anything good so I look better than those girls ::whew!::
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| Posted 4/17/09 11:32 AM |
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Cheeks24
Living a dream
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Cheeks
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
I think obsessions with something can ruin a marriage. If a person watches porn, big deal. It's when they start taking the obsession out of context and into their marriage that can ruin it or think that their obsession is the only thing in life that is right.
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| Posted 4/17/09 11:50 AM |
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RockysGirl
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Cassandra
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
porn would be a downfall in MY marriage. lol. It's disgusting and I want no part of that in my house & marriage. But everybody's different.
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| Posted 4/17/09 11:57 AM |
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HollaDay
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Holla!
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
someone close to me is "addicted" to porn. he looks at it every day. probably all day everyday
he doesnt hide the fact that he does this (or shove it in anyone's face either). I'm not sure the repocusions this has on his marriage--as I do not ask--but I'm sure that his wife loves him all the same. She took a vow to love him no matter what and as long as she isn't being hurt by it, I can't see why it should be a problem with their marriage. maybe they're both into it
ps I'm not talking about DH a family friend
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| Posted 4/17/09 12:27 PM |
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RockysGirl
LIF Infant
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Cassandra
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
Posted by KK-Holiday
ps I'm not talking about DH a family friend
sure 
(just playing. lol)
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| Posted 4/17/09 12:37 PM |
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Nifheim
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
i really could care less unless it was a daily event.
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| Posted 4/17/09 1:14 PM |
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MrsG123
LIF Toddler
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Taryn
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
a lot of couples seem to be okay with it..let alone enjoy it.. i guess to each is own, and some people feel that so long as ur on the same page w/ur spouse that it's okay - but as for us? dh & i keep it out of out bedroom, and out of our house. There are a TON of underlying issues besides just "being okay with it" - and if u do some research, the stats will probably shock u..not only about how it can gradually deteriorate ur marraige w/out u even realizing, but even just the sex industry in general...u may think i'm crazy lol - but i can't look at anything in the sex industry without feeling horrible for the girls.. it is a very VERY dark world that's masked by something that people find so alluring.. and it makes me sad. It's just the way i feel..but it's something i feel very strongly about. I'm not judging ANYONE that doesn't find it a big deal - so please don't take it that way - but it's something that i think is a very real, very dangerous thing that slides into a lot of homes these days..it can start off as something so "once in a while" and before u know it...there's problems..
Shelley Lubben speaks a LOT of truth when it comes to porn....and the best part?? SHE'S A FORMER PORN STAR!!
u can check out her myspace page -
www.myspace.com/shelleylubben
it has a TON of info..and she shares an amazing story & has really interesting facts & such..she goes around the country & actually talks to men, women, etc... she even goes to the huge porn conventions every year & shares her story!
Anyway, her story is just something worth reading - she also has her website which is thepinkcross.org - but her myspace i find to have a TON of stuff..
anyways, jmo 
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MrsG123
LIF Toddler
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Taryn
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
Posted by Nik211
i rather make my own porn with DH than watch it
that's great.  lol
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| Posted 4/17/09 2:03 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
MBA at your service!
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
i think any activity where a partner in a marriage is obsessed with -- such as alcohol, gambling, porn, etc. can be a downfall of a marriage or just about any relationship. (friends/family)
i don't like the idea of using something that is a 3rd party to a couple such as porn, to be a "reason" for a marriage deteriorating. in the end the main issue of a marriage failing lies within the 2 people in it and how they communicate and relate to each other.
DH and i have no issues with porn and we've watched a movie here and there together. porn being an issue in a marriage i think lies more with how EACH partner feels about it. it obviously will be an issue if one spouse doesn't like it compared to the other.
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| Posted 4/17/09 2:07 PM |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
Member since 5/08 3303 total posts
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Nik
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
Posted by MrsG123
Posted by Nik211
i rather make my own porn with DH than watch it
that's great. lol
for some reason porn to me = adolescent/teenage boy......i dont know why DH would want to watch porn if he has a real person (me, his wonderful amazing wife ) to do things with - and i think you can do plenty of fantasizing in your mind without needing pictures/movies etc.....
my DH isnt really into porn - im not saying he never looked at it or got turned on by it - but its not something we have in the house and he doesnt have time to go on the computer searching for it and he doesnt buy magazines - if he did he wouldnt hide it - its just its not on his priorities of things to watch on tv/look up on the computer in his limited spare time....i guess i kind of like it that way....im not sure how i would feel if he was big into porn, especially like watching movies a lot....
i dont know why but when i think of guys watching porn i think of like teenage boys and gross hairy pervy men
but im not against it - ive def seen porn before so its not like im a prude or anything
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| Posted 4/17/09 2:59 PM |
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Lizzie217
LIF Adolescent
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elizabeth
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
I think an any obsession will deteriorate a marriage i.e. drinking, drugs, videogames, porn, sports....taken to the extreme all these things equal one person feeling that they are playing second fiddle.
That said the occasional porn does not bother me (we both enjoy on occasion  ) The same way the occasional drunk night, sporting event etc. does not bother me. My DH and I make EACHOTHER our #1`priority which is important.
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| Posted 4/17/09 3:18 PM |
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zoe282
We have our miracle!
Member since 8/08 3634 total posts
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Jen
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Re: So what do you think about this issue?
Thanks for sharing girls! It really got a good response on my blog. I like hearing both sides of the issue!
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