TMI question but I gotta ask

Ok..I'll just now but I have to ask....Is it bad to BD too much?

Here's the story. Since I was following Deanna's plan minus OPK's (i know, it's not really deanna's plan w/out OPK's) and started every other day on CD 8..so that was last monday, wednesday and friday...fine...My monthly cycles said I don't O till Tuesday so the original plan was to wait till sunday...but Saturday I started feeling some cramping on my right side (the side I am supposed to feel O on) so I was like I don't want to miss anything...
So we BDed Saturdya AND sunday too. Now, I don't have those pains anymore but I really didn't see CM like i normally do...so maybe I was wrong..so that means I would BD Monday Tuesday if I am supposed to O tuesday...

So after all that, my question. is it bad to BD too much???? Did I ruin anything?

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I found this...and most things I googled said that there isn't too much sex

Can you have too much sex when you're trying to get pregnant?

In short the general consensus from the medical profession is no, there is no such thing as too much sex when you're trying for a baby. However, as with most things fertility related the explanation is more complex than it may first appear. For starters, it's not necessarily how much sex you're having that's important per se but instead when exactly you're having it.

You only have approximately 6 days during your monthly cycle when you're classed as being 'fertile'. These are the 5 days leading up to ovulation and the day on which you ovulate. When you're trying for a baby these are the 'important' days of your cycle when having sex could result in pregnancy. No matter how many times you have sex outside of this fertile window you're unlikely to fall pregnant.

The reason for this is because only one egg is released during a menstrual cycle and, after ovulation has taken place, only 12 - 24 hours during which fertilisation can occur. As sperm can survive for up to 5 days in fertile cervical fluid this gives you approximately 6 days during which you can conceive each cycle.

When you're trying for a baby the most important thing is to ensure that there is a plentiful supply of sperm available to fertilise the egg when you ovulate. Some people take this to the extreme and believe that by remaining chaste for most of their cycle and then only having sex on the day they ovulate they are maximising their chances of conceiving. While there is some logic in this thinking, for instance a plentiful amount of sperm is likely to be produced in the ejaculate, this method is far from being a safe bet.

To begin with there is a growing body of evidence that suggests that sperm motility is improved by regular sexual activity. Additionally, having sex regularly also helps to make sure that healthy sperm are being produced. Last, but by no means least, even if you have the most regular cycle it is incredibly difficult to pinpoint the exact time when you ovulate, potentially meaning that you end up missing your window of opportunity each month.

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I don't think you ruined anything!! The only time I have heard about BDing too much is if there are issues with sperm count (I think if there is, then they suggest every other day so the quantity can build back up). However, since you were already successful once, I would assume that's not an issue. Keep BDing

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Posted by jerseychick

I don't think you ruined anything!! The only time I have heard about BDing too much is if there are issues with sperm count (I think if there is, then they suggest every other day so the quantity can build back up). However, since you were already successful once, I would assume that's not an issue. Keep BDing

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Not sure...but it looks like you found the answer. Maybe the pains were gas Thats what DH always tells me

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Thanks for posting this Jen because I was wondering the same thing. Im so paranoid Im going to miss a feryile day since I didnt use the OPK that we were BD'ing like every night last week.

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Personally I think its better to BD every day if you know you and DH are fertile ((you have gotten pregnant, so you are fertile)). This way you won't miss your window! So I think your doing a good thing by BDing more often!

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Thanks ladies! I guess I'll keep going on this course for a little while longer. I don't want to miss anything! Might as well give it an honest to goodness try so I know I did everything I could!