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Christine
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
Does anyone really think that a couple who struggled with infertility never thought of adoption?
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LisaW
Time for me to FLY!
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Did I ever tell you that I hate people?
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by Christine
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
Does anyone really think that a couple who struggled with infertility never thought of adoption?
ding ding ding!!!
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Lisa
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
because its RUDE!!!
Plain and simple...end of story!
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| Posted 1/20/12 8:22 PM |
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nyligirl
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by Lisa
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
because its RUDE!!!
Plain and simple...end of story!
ITA! To me, it is WAY beyond rude!
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ihilani
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
It's nosy, it's rude, it's personal, it's none of your business, it's really personal...
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DumpsterBaby
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
@ssholes 
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wantabuninoven
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Oh yes the wonderful "you can still adopt" line
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BunnyWife
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
People are morons
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McSullivan
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by LisaW
Posted by Christine
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
Does anyone really think that a couple who struggled with infertility never thought of adoption?
ding ding ding!!!
Exactly!! I also feel that it's nosy and rude. It's such an intensly personal decision and is not appropriate for public consumption.
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MrsRbk
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
It's rude and nobody's business. Especially if you know that the couple were not able to have one of their own. If my IF treatments didn't work, we were not going to adopt. That was nobody's business why but our own.
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moonmist09
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
i think its incredibly ruse for people to even ask. Its a very personal matter and if we wanted to discuss it with you, we would.
My SIL just announced she is preggers with her second child. She has been married 4 years. DH and I have been married for 9 months and we have been trying just as long. Our IF journey has not been easy so far with my issues...and i don't discuss those issues with anyone except DH and he and I both agreed we would not say anything to anyone. But everyone is already asking us, when will you have kids. I'm sorry, I didn't know that I had to announce to the world that we are "trying" 
If and when I want to let you know what is going on in my private, personal life, i will. until then, stay out of it and keep your opinions to yourself.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by hdrd0411
I don't understand why this is a bad question? I mean if you can't have children, but you want children, why wouldn't this be an honest question
It's rude and nobody's business. Especially if you know that the couple were not able to have one of their own. If my IF treatments didn't work, we were not going to adopt. That was nobody's business why but our own.
I took the original situation as one where the person's IF issues were already part of the conversation. If not, I never advocate poking into someone's personal life. I HATE it when people ask me or other married couples when they are going to have children. I never ask (well we did discuss it with our best friends, but other than that) because you never know what someone is going through.
BUT I feel like if someone is telling you they're having trouble with IF, bringing up adoption is a natural response, even though I can see why people would find it rude. I just don't think it's intended in that manner.
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lucyloo
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kahlua716
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FranM
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Re: Did you ever think of adopting?
BTDT and Guilty - I have brought the subject up, more like added to the conversation with someone who is having a difficult time conciveing.
We adopted our son. I share our experience if I think it may bring insight or in some way be helpfull.
I would not blurt out why dont you adopt any more than I would blut out when are you having a child. - that I think is rude.
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