Going to other people's homes

How do you do it with your LO?
Do you stay right there with them or let them be?

I guess it depends with me. At home I trust DS in our home b/c it's totally child proofed and he's good with other kids.

He's only 2, but b/c he can't explain or sort of "tattle" if something happens I have to keep a closer eye on him.

I was thinking of this b/c when we go somewhere if there's older kids or my sister's house the older kids really watch Mason.
Last weekend we went to a friends house for her DD's Christening. All the kids (ages 3 - 10) were playing in the basement and I knew it wasn't a good idea to just let him play down there by himself. He's good, but as I explained if something bothers him he can't communicate so well with the other kids or tell me if something happened. He'll just cry or whine if he fell or someone took a toy away.

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when DS was 2 i let him play by himself... but at 2 he was getting a LOT of therapy so most of the time we had play dates they were here, if we did go to someone house a therapist was usually there with us.

when we didn't have someone with us, he was pretty ok.. he had times where someone needed to intervene, but i didnt want to be on top of him, i wanted him to play with other children and learn from them by himself. at 2 years old, other children believe it or not do understand... all of his NT friends know he is "off" but they don't understand fully, but they know AJ is AJ and he is different.

i guess each scenario is different... and at 4.5 the kids know what pushes his buttons and when to stop... (his NT friends have been friends with him since he was 4.5 months old)

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I can totally relate. DS is awesome at home but if left alone at someone else's house, he would just stim on doors and I have to CONSTANTLY watch him and redirect him. It's exhausting.

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I keep an eye on him, though from a distance. DS is 4. I would let him be on his own more, but he was giving other children unwanted hugs (sometimes around the neck) and hitting until recently, so I never felt comfortable leaving him with another child. He hasn't done this in awhile, but I still keep an eye on him.

He also still mouths objects. If it weren't for these things, I would give him more space.