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MrsMerlot
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Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
When you go out to dinner with other people or in a group of people...how is the bill paid:
1) Do you take the total with tax and add gratuity and split it evenly among all?
2) Do you take the total with tax and add gratuity and everyone is responsible for their portion?
For example:
John & Jane - both had the same meals $20
Mike & Alice - had the same meals $10
with tax and tip the total comes out to: $70
Does each person pay (option#1) $18
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Do John & Jane pay (option #2) more than Mike & Alice?
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Posted 12/6/07 8:32 AM  |
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Reese32
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1 
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:46 AM |
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MikesWife
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
ITA! Man up and split the bill.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:47 AM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I would have voted for other..
Most of the time, now what we do is simply ask for seperate checks. Sometimes the servers get annoyed, sometimes it's no problem.
If it's a HUGE problem, then, we split it evenly. If someone had alcohol, they throw in a little extra.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:49 AM |
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VickiC
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We spilt up the bill evenly unless we are the only ones who ordered a bottle of wine with our dinner. Then we'll throw in extra money to cover the bottle.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:50 AM |
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charon54
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by MikesWife
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
ITA! Man up and split the bill.
This kills DH too. And we have certain friends that do this all the time.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:51 AM |
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CathyB
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I think it depends. If it's a once in a while thing just split evenly.
However, my aunt and her husband ALWAYS order way more than everyone else. They both always order multiple apps, salad, entree, dessert and drinks no matter what the occasion. My mom and her brother usually have a salad and a coke at the same meal. It's not fair to expect them to always chip in $50+ for their meal to subsidize my aunt and uncle's huge meal. Many of our cousins have stopped meeting up with them for dinner for this exact reason.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:51 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Depends on how many people, and who the people are. DW and I never have alcohol, and usually a cheap entree, and almost never have appetizers or desserts. BIL and his GF, however, have all of the above. In cases like that, we split it based on what we ordered.
When a bunch of us from work go out to lunch, everyone is eating pretty much the same $$, so we split it evenly.
I don't mind paying a few dollars more, but I'm not spending $50 when I only ordered $25 worth of dinner...
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:51 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We have always paid for what we got. I am not a drinker so I am not going to be paying for other peoples drink. If its one or two thats fine but if you have a lot of people and everyone is ordering drink after drink I dont think I should have to split those.
I have never had a problem though, my friends and I just pay for what we ate + tax + tip
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:52 AM |
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BunnyBaby
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Even Steven...
It is more easier that way.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:54 AM |
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mtnmama
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Message edited 9/1/2009 12:43:35 PM.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:54 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Now that DH & I don't drink we just pay for our meals, tax & tip.
But when we DID drink, we always split the bill evenly.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:56 AM |
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johnsae
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Even
Way too annoying to do it any other way.
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| Posted 12/6/07 8:57 AM |
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J9-13
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by charon54
Posted by MikesWife
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
ITA! Man up and split the bill.
This kills DH too. And we have certain friends that do this all the time.
Yup! This happens soooo many times that DH and I get so fed up and usually end up putting in more than everyone else just to shut everyone up!
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:11 AM |
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Christine
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by johnsae
Even
Way too annoying to do it any other way.
Same here - it actually makes me uncomfortable to even have the conversation at the dinner table. I think in the long run things even out so I am not going to worry about having a less expensive dinner or an extra drink. I will say that if I have a drink with someone that doesn't, we'll split the check but I'll cover the tip.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:16 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by charon54
Posted by MikesWife
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
ITA! Man up and split the bill.
This kills DH too. And we have certain friends that do this all the time.
But maybe they are on a budget and dont want to pay for whats theirs. I can understand both sides but when money is tight I dont want to be paying for other people's app, drinks, etc.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:17 AM |
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MST9106
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Split even...if you have a problem with doing so, then either (a) don't go out in a group or (b) order your money's worth...I can't stand when people argue over this.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:18 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
Yes.Us too. We have one friend who always makes such a big deal about it. Just pay it and move on. #1 here too.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:19 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
i chose option #1. IMO, dividing up the bill based on who had what is very high school. so this time you spent more than you ate. so what? next time you go out, maybe someone else will eat less than you. it all evens out in the end and it is SO not worth arguing about.
ETA: if i, or one of my other friends was short, or on a budget, there is always the option of not going out. IMO, you should expect that you are going to split the bill, and if you can't afford that then don't go. no one is going to think you are a bad person for being on a budget!
Message edited 12/6/2007 9:23:04 AM.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:19 AM |
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TreAnt427
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Split evenly
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:21 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Most of the time even unless DH and I are drinking and the other couple isn't 
This happened last Saturday. I had a couple of glasses of wine and DH had some beers, the other couple didn't drink. We paid $40 more than they did.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:21 AM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
in most cases, its split down the middle, though i have one friend that will put in or ask for extra money if one person had a soda and another didn't. It's SO stupid, IMO.
On the other hand though, if i eat a full dinner and the person I'm with has say, a cup of soup, i won't let them pay half.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:21 AM |
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MeeshkaMich
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1
Totally agree
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:22 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by headoverheels
i chose option #1. IMO, dividing up the bill based on who had what is very high school. so this time you spent more than you ate. so what? next time you go out, maybe someone else will eat less than you. it all evens out in the end and it is SO not worth arguing about.
That's why it depends.... using the example I posted above, our BIL ALWAYS spends 2x what we spend.... EVERY time! It will NEVER even out. We're not broke, and we used to split it evenly, but it gets annoying when every time we go out, we end up paying for most of their meal. We just don't eat that much, or alcohol, so we can't even try to order more to balance it out. In these cases, it definitely makes sense to pay for what you ordered.
With other groups, when it is more balanced, we do split evenly, though. I agree in theory with the balancing out in the end idea, but when you know it won't, sometimes you need to change tactics.
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:25 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We split it out evenly. My theory is that if you're going out to eat with a group of people you know it's going to cost you some so you shouldn't be b!tching about the bill!
Enjoy!
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| Posted 12/6/07 9:25 AM |
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