Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Usually split it evenly, but if we are struggling for cash we do it individually. In our friends we can kind of know who might be having problems and in that case it is no problem. We all understand as each of us has been there. IT depends on the situation.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

split it evenly. I really don't care if someone ordered a meal that costs $5 more than mine.

this reminds me of my MIL and her friends. when they go out to a restaurant and the bill arrives, the calculators get pulled out of their bags

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

NOOOOOOOO way. You are talking my #1 pet peev in the entire world.

My motto, hands down...
PAY FOR WHAT YOU EAT AND DO NOT SPLIT EVENLY

Nothing drives me crazier than this topic. If I go out with a group and get a diet coke and a sandwich, there's no WAY im paying $30 because people had wine, appetizers, etc. How is that ever ever fair?

If people can't do the math, I'll gladly tell them what they owe.

If figuring out who ate/drank what and what they owe causes "tension" among you and your friends, you need new friends.

It works with us, no one complains, and everyone pays for what they enjoyed that night.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Just split it evenly. Who wants to sit there and quibble over a few bucks? Of course, if someone ordered more drinks, or an extra appetizer, or the lobster or whatever, they should voluntarily throw a few extra dollars. And usually with our friends, that's what happens.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

split evenly..but if someone has a significant amont less to eat or drink, then they dont pay as much as us...

the other day we went out to dinner w/family-and we had to pay SO MUCh-and we didnt even drink anything..i thought that was unfair........

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

depends we have a couple we go out with and we take turns paying. we will pay one time they will pay another. it works out well with this couple.
any other time we split even.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Posted by MikesWife

Posted by Reese32

It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.

So I chose #1

ITA! Man up and split the bill.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

In most cases we split evenly -
If we are the only ones drinking, we'll throw in extra $$$, but I can't stand when people nickel and dime the bill - Like "Ok, YOU had a $15 burger and 2 beers and I had a $12 salad and a a glass of wine ........" - Come on !! -



Every group usually has that one inconsiderate person who orders EVERYTHING and then wants to split evenly - We just avoid inviting those people -

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

USUALLY i split evenly---HOWEVER....


there was a friend that my friends would bring to a group dinner. and it would P I S S me off when this particular person would make sure and order like 6 or 7 cocktails (when no one else was drinking) and then order THE MOST expensive dinner---like stuffed lobster, with an appetizer, salad, dessert---and then when the bill comes---they'd want to split it "evenly". (meanwhile everyone else might have just had a dinner each).

nope--sorry---i'm not a penny pinching miser or anything---BUT if you have CLEARLY ordered more than the rest of the group where what you consumed is like almost 50% of the bill-- i refuse to split evenly....cause its not really even. this person would do that shiiit alllllllll the time--to the point where my friends finally stopped asking them to come out.

99% of the time we do it even---usually DH and i and another couple....but if i think the other ppl have a significant amount more--than i don't think i should have to pay for you.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Whenever my best friend, her husband, my bf and I all go out we alwyas split it evenly.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

I hate having to split the bill evenly. It like pains me when we go out to dinner with a big group becauce usually someone is going to end up paying too much. I don't think there is anything wrong with roughly dividing the bill fairly.
I did vote #1 though since that is what usually happens...

Message edited 12/6/2007 9:48:17 AM.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

For me, it depends which friends I am going out with. For the most part we split it evenly within reason of course.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

I put split evenly.

unless it's GROSSLY uneven.

but most of my friends will all extra. I mean, who is going to stiff a friend?

If I have lobster and 6 martinis ( ) I am not going to expect a friend to split it evenly if she had a salad and the minestrone and a diet coke.

I wouldn't ALLOW my friends to cover me like that, but you know what, they wouldn't mind.

b/c it might be them the next time with the champagne taste.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

I always split it evenly. However, I think if someone ordered a lot more than everyone else, i.e. champagne, apps, steak, dessert, and everyone else just had an entree and a soda, then I think that person should offer to throw in some extra cash.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Posted by Ophelia

I put split evenly.

unless it's GROSSLY uneven.

but most of my friends will all extra. I mean, who is going to stiff a friend?

If I have lobster and 6 martinis ( ) I am not going to expect a friend to split it evenly if she had a salad and the minestrone and a diet coke.

I wouldn't ALLOW my friends to cover me like that, but you know what, they wouldn't mind.

b/c it might be them the next time with the champagne taste.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Normally, we just split it evenly.

We have a couple friends who order way too much and the most expensive things on the menu. With them, we get separate checks.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Split it evenly.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

We always split evenly unless someone else doesn't drink, then we kick in more.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Me any my friends sometimes split it the bill evenly but what we do is if the place has a bar then each person would just order there drinks from there to avoid any confusion or we do a separate bar check since there may be a few who don't drink. I think that's only fair.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Evenly except if there is a lot of alcohol involved. But all of my friends are considerate people so it has never come up as an issue.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Posted by Ophelia

I put split evenly.

unless it's GROSSLY uneven.

but most of my friends will all extra. I mean, who is going to stiff a friend?

If I have lobster and 6 martinis ( ) I am not going to expect a friend to split it evenly if she had a salad and the minestrone and a diet coke.

I wouldn't ALLOW my friends to cover me like that, but you know what, they wouldn't mind.

b/c it might be them the next time with the champagne taste.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

DH and I don't normally drink when we go out to dinner - ALLLLLLL of our friends do, and have multiple drinks. Of course it's easier to split the bill down the middle, and for the most part we'll do that, but I think it's really unfair for DH and I to pay $150 for a meal that really only cost us $60 (yes, this has happened to us!). That's a lot of extra money to throw in because people didn't want to just add up what they had... I'm not talking about $5 difference in whatever plates you had.

Also, if DH and I just have a dinner each and friends have an appetizer, dinner, dessert, and drinks, they ALWAYS want to split down the middle and I think that's unfair. Likewise, I have another friend who ONLY ever orders a soup and salad while I have a dinner and desert when we have a girls night - I would never ask her to split it if her meal cost $15 and mine cost $40. If we all had more or less the same stuff with just a few dollars difference then cool, split it and let it be.

Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll

Posted by LaurenExp

Most of the time even unless DH and I are drinking and the other couple isn't

This happened last Saturday. I had a couple of glasses of wine and DH had some beers, the other couple didn't drink. We paid $40 more than they did.