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2BEANS
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Friends and i always split evenly.. Some days we pay more than we ate and other times they do.. it all works out ..
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Whamtastic
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ginger123
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
So if I don't have/want to spend an extra $20/$40/$60+, I shouldn't get to go out to dinner with friends? I whole-heartedly disagree. If I'm on a budget, I should be able to enjoy time with my friends and order an entree that is in my price range and not have to worry about what the rest of my party is ordering.
ETA: I also have no problem doing the math in my head.
Message edited 12/6/2007 3:17:41 PM.
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:17 PM |
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ml110
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ginger123
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
DISGUSTING?!?! i really resent this comment... what is so
"disgusting" about making sure you and friends pay a fair price for what you/they ate?? and helping out friends who are on a budget by making sure they don't pay more than they planned on??
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:20 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I always split it in half except if I or DH had more than I feel I should offer to throw in extra. On the other hand, if another couple had more, I would never expect them to chip in. I feel that's part of going out.
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:23 PM |
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Ali1
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Ali1
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
What's so uncomfortable?
The bill comes, we pick it up, do a little mental calculation, put our money down, hand the bill to the next couple.
Doing a little math doesn't exactly ruin a nice meal.... being upset that I really overpaid for my relatively inexpensive meal, however could leave a sour taste in my mouth... and ruin the good meal.
I'm just not comfortable with it. I personally do not dine out with friends who in any way do this. In fact we sometimes go out with couples and we each split paying the entire bill each time.
If you want to go out and have one course and no drinks and you feel others have had a lot more to drink/eat and should pay more, more power to you. I am just saying that if that happend wtih me I would be incredibly uncomfortable with that couple and would probably choose to not go out to dinner with them again.
Again JMO. I am sure there are plenty of people who don't agree with me.
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:26 PM |
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bird382
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by nrthshgrl
I always split it in half except if I or DH had more than I feel I should offer to throw in extra. On the other hand, if another couple had more, I would never expect them to chip in. I feel that's part of going out.
Yes. Exactly.
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:27 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ali1
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Ali1
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
What's so uncomfortable?
The bill comes, we pick it up, do a little mental calculation, put our money down, hand the bill to the next couple.
Doing a little math doesn't exactly ruin a nice meal.... being upset that I really overpaid for my relatively inexpensive meal, however could leave a sour taste in my mouth... and ruin the good meal.
I'm just not comfortable with it. I personally do not dine out with friends who in any way do this. In fact we sometimes go out with couples and we each split paying the entire bill each time.
If you want to go out and have one course and no drinks and you feel others have had a lot more to drink/eat and should pay more, more power to you. I am just saying that if that happend wtih me I would be incredibly uncomfortable with that couple and would probably choose to not go out to dinner with them again.
Again JMO. I am sure there are plenty of people who don't agree with me.
I totally feel the same way about "bill splitters". If they were adamant about it, and I felt like I was overpaying, Id probably avoid going out to dinner with them too.
Guess we won't have dinner dates together   
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:02 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ginger123
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
A bit harsh no? 
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:02 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Ginger123
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
A bit harsh no?
actually once that I went out to dinner with a group, the gal that was pulling out the calculator was one of the ones that had rounds of drinks for over an hour before dinner, so half of the bill was HERS ALONE, but boy was she quick to pull out the calculator to split her tab with all of us
I agree, disgusting!
melba- HARSH? This is LIF, nothing is too harsh here, toughen up girl
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:15 PM |
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Ginger123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by ml110
Posted by Ginger123
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
DISGUSTING?!?! i really resent this comment... what is so
"disgusting" about making sure you and friends pay a fair price for what you/they ate?? and helping out friends who are on a budget by making sure they don't pay more than they planned on??
I personally think its disgusting and so do my friends ...if you have freinds that are cool with it ..rock on with your calculators.. i dont see why you resent it .. someone asked for opinions and i gave mine.. i dont see why people like yourself are offended , we would not be friends, thats all...whats the big deal ?
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:34 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by ChrissynRicky
this is me....I actually have had fights in restaurants where I paid the bill on the sneak (using the bathroom technique) and the guests I was with would ask the manager to void it!
Your DH is a great man, and you are lucky!
this IS you. it's why I love/hate you.
this whole convo is actually kinda lame.
I mean, assuming we are talking about dinner with FRIENDS....has honesty gone out the window.
I have ZERO problem teling my friends...hey, let's keep it cheap tonight...
I also have ZERO problem covering for a friend if we don't want to go cheap, but want to ENJOY their COMPANY.
and my friends would do the same for me.
b/c we are friends. FRIENDS.
I have been stiffed before when there have been larger groups....with people we dont know.
so now, we hash it out before everyone orders...if I don't know you, we WILL be discussing bill payment beforehand.
and if someone goes apeshit with their ordering, I have ZERO problem saying "um, Jane...you owe half the bar bill."
but I don't have to do that with my FRIENDS. b/c again...ad nauseum...they are my FRIENDS.
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:35 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Split it evenly. If I have more than everyone else, I will offer to put a little more in.
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:38 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
never really thought about it
we just take out that tip calculator thing on the phone and just divy it up equally
it just calculates how much everyone owes
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| Posted 12/6/07 4:38 PM |
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Ginger123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Whamtastic
Posted by Ginger123
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YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
So if I don't have/want to spend an extra $20/$40/$60+, I shouldn't get to go out to dinner with friends? I whole-heartedly disagree. If I'm on a budget, I should be able to enjoy time with my friends and order an entree that is in my price range and not have to worry about what the rest of my party is ordering.
ETA: I also have no problem doing the math in my head.
to answer your question
So if I don't have/want to spend an extra $20/$40/$60+, I shouldn't get to go out to dinner with friends?
no if i was your friend I wouldnt want to go to dinner with you if you are on a budget for the meal.. we are not just paying for the meal... I believe you pay for the expierence and my expierence would be ruined if i knew i had to get a calculator out at the end of the night ... when i am on budget i invite people to my house ... once again if your friends are cool with it rock on ... but dont be suprised if other people think its gross.
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melbalalala
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ginger123
To answer your question
So if I don't have/want to spend an extra $20/$40/$60+, I shouldn't get to go out to dinner with friends?
no if i was your friend I wouldnt want to go to dinner with you if you are on a budget for the meal.. we are not just paying for the meal... I believe you pay for the expierence and my expierence would be ruined if i knew i had to get a calculator out at the end of the night ... when i am on budget i invite people to my house ... once again if your friends are cool with it rock on ... but dont be suprised if other people think its gross.
For the record, I dont think she said anything about whipping out a calculator. That would surely make the evening feel a bit strange.
Simply putting "in the pot" what you owe based on what you ate/drank seems so simple, and doesn't seem like it should be "gross" or a friendship deal-breaker.
And why does everyone on this board say "Rock on" when they really mean "I dont understand how you/your Dh/your friends/etc. can do the things you do and never will". 
Message edited 12/6/2007 4:46:02 PM.
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Ginger123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
For the record, I dont think she said anything about whipping out a calculator. That would surely make the evening feel a bit strange.
Simply putting "in the pot" what you owe based on what you ate/drank seems so simple, and doesn't seem like it should be "gross" or a friendship deal-breaker.
And why does everyone on this board say "Rock on" when they really mean "I dont understand how you/your Dh/your friends/etc. can do the things you do and never will".
its gross to me and my friends. its not gross to you.. .. you are clearly the minority.. and if you can find other people that agree with you .. ROCK ON .. which means to me ..to each its own
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melbalalala
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ginger123
For the record, I dont think she said anything about whipping out a calculator. That would surely make the evening feel a bit strange.
Simply putting "in the pot" what you owe based on what you ate/drank seems so simple, and doesn't seem like it should be "gross" or a friendship deal-breaker.
And why does everyone on this board say "Rock on" when they really mean "I dont understand how you/your Dh/your friends/etc. can do the things you do and never will".
its gross to me and my friends. its not gross to you.. .. you are clearly the minority.. and if you can find other people that agree with you .. ROCK ON .. which means to me ..to each its own
Im not sure if Im necessarily in the minority.. while the poll results lean towards "even split"....about 99% of people in their posts "split unless someone gets a disproportionate amount of food/drink/etc." which is pretty much what I am saying.
I don't think that anyone is opposed to a split when really we are talking someone got a salad and someone got a sandwich and its like $2 difference.
Everyone seems to agree (and "rock on" together) that it common sense and the tactful thing to do to pay more when you are ordering noticeably more drinks/appetizers/desserts.
Maybe this is the twist Im thinking more about.. if you are with your friends, and you have an unspoken arrangement of a split, then go with it. But, if you are going out with a group of people for the first time, I don't think its right to assume an even split.
Message edited 12/6/2007 4:56:56 PM.
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Preguntas
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Ophelia is right- aren't we talking about friends? If you're on a budget, why are you eating a side salad at a steak house? Why didn't you all agree on a different place?
the whole "extra $40" thing confuses me. Sure I have had to pay more than my share before, but other times I'm sure I have made out. It evens out. Give a little take a little.
I just find it easier to divide evenly- but if someone spoke up and said- "friends, I only got a $7 dessert and a water", we would not bat an eye- ask that person for $10, then redivide the bill.
No big deal.
We can all dine together in harmony.
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| Posted 12/6/07 5:02 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by GoldenRod
Depends on how many people, and who the people are. DW and I never have alcohol, and usually a cheap entree, and almost never have appetizers or desserts. BIL and his GF, however, have all of the above. In cases like that, we split it based on what we ordered.
When a bunch of us from work go out to lunch, everyone is eating pretty much the same $$, so we split it evenly.
I don't mind paying a few dollars more, but I'm not spending $50 when I only ordered $25 worth of dinner...
Agree...I am also not a drinker, so if I go out and a couple orders tons of liquor, I don't want to pay for that. But again, it depends on what and who.
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| Posted 12/6/07 5:14 PM |
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Superkat
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I can't believe this has become such a heated debate. Personally, my friends are my FRIENDS and they are too considerate to try to "stick it to me" by splitting an uneven bill. However, since they are also my FRIENDS, I can talk to them before dinner and say "hey, we have a baby on the way and want to go to dinner on a budget. Is xxx restaurant ok with you?" If you aren't comfortable enough with your FRIENDS to say something to them, maybe you should get better friends.
And one last point. The only DISGUSTING thing I have seen on this topic so far is the judgemental attitudes instead of just voicing opinions. 
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Ginger123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Superkat
I can't believe this has become such a heated debate. Personally, my friends are my FRIENDS and they are too considerate to try to "stick it to me" by splitting an uneven bill. However, since they are also my FRIENDS, I can talk to them before dinner and say "hey, we have a baby on the way and want to go to dinner on a budget. Is xxx restaurant ok with you?" If you aren't comfortable enough with your FRIENDS to say something to them, maybe you should get better friends.
And one last point. The only DISGUSTING thing I have seen on this topic so far is the judgemental attitudes instead of just voicing opinions.
how is me saying something i believe is disgusting ... judging ??? i dont think less of someone... i just think its gross.... if I put a poll up asking people who liked sushi and someone said it was disgusting ..its not judgemental...its just thier likes..
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itkocak
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
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| Posted 12/6/07 5:22 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We always split the bill evenly! I think it is tacky and annoying to nickle and dime everything on the check. Dh and I don't go out that often with a group, so we have no problem splitting the bill. We only have one friend that gives us a problem, and we usually try to avoid going out with that person.
This is JMO!!
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| Posted 12/6/07 5:27 PM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
It really depends. Most of the time we try to get separate checks. We are usually not adverse to splitting evenly, but if we at significantly more/had a more expensive meal we'll throw in more money
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| Posted 12/6/07 6:09 PM |
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Kristin616
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
When we go out with friends we usually split the bill.
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