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headoverheels
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by headoverheels
i chose option #1. IMO, dividing up the bill based on who had what is very high school. so this time you spent more than you ate. so what? next time you go out, maybe someone else will eat less than you. it all evens out in the end and it is SO not worth arguing about.
That's why it depends.... using the example I posted above, our BIL ALWAYS spends 2x what we spend.... EVERY time! It will NEVER even out. We're not broke, and we used to split it evenly, but it gets annoying when every time we go out, we end up paying for most of their meal. We just don't eat that much, or alcohol, so we can't even try to order more to balance it out. In these cases, it definitely makes sense to pay for what you ordered.
With other groups, when it is more balanced, we do split evenly, though. I agree in theory with the balancing out in the end idea, but when you know it won't, sometimes you need to change tactics.
you're right - if it is ALWAYS that way, then i would expect him to pay to cover the extra amount he eats or drinks. however, if it was a one time thing, i don't think i'd make a big deal out of it, unless it was a significant amount of money.
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Merf99
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We always split it evenly but DH and I don't drink. It pisses me off when people do drink and don't even offer to kick in a few extra dollars. We probably wouldn't even accept it, but it's the right thing to do.
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| Posted 12/6/07 10:58 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Reese32
It drives me up the wall when people sit there and argue over who had coffee, or who had 2 drinks, or who just had a salad or whatever. If you're going out to dinner with another couple, or a group of people, you're treating yourself. If a couple of extra dollars saves some tension at the table, it's worth it IMO.
So I chose #1 
see... i'm the total opposite. it drives me nuts to be paying for part of what other people get. if i didn't get drinks or an appetizer, why should i pay for part of somebodys elses?
when we go out as a department for work, we split it evenly. last time we went, i ended up paying like $25 for a $10 ravioli dish!
now, when we got out with friends ( which happens a lot) we take the extra minute to split up the bill according to what people got. maybe its "petty", but we're all newly married or engaged, paying student loans, buying houses and budgeting for that... every dollar counts, so its not fair to any of us to have to pay even part of what we didn't get. theres friends who order the cheapest thing on the menu because they have a set "budget" of what they want to spend when they go out to eat... so to me its not fair to make them pay for part of the appetizer i got...
Message edited 12/6/2007 11:02:52 AM.
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| Posted 12/6/07 11:02 AM |
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NoStressMom
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by lvdolphins
I would have voted for other..
Most of the time, now what we do is simply ask for seperate checks. Sometimes the servers get annoyed, sometimes it's no problem.
If it's a HUGE problem, then, we split it evenly. If someone had alcohol, they throw in a little extra.
Same Here but most of the time we split it!! It also depends on the couple we are going out with.One couple we go with always orders sep. checks which is fine with me too
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| Posted 12/6/07 11:03 AM |
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PattyK
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We usually spilt the bill evenly among everyone.
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| Posted 12/6/07 11:12 AM |
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eroxgirl
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I usually have no problem splitting evenly but I have a few friends that I won't go out to dinner with anymore because they always always always over order and we usually wind up spending $150 per couple when DH and I had maybe a total of $75 worth of food and drinks between us.
The last time we all went out it cost us that much. The crew who always over eats and over drinks ordered 3 bottles of wine...there were 3 pregnant women at the table and 2 designated drivers so 5 people who weren't drinking paid for 4 people who were. Totally not fair that we all split it evenly but I'd be too embarrased to say something.
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| Posted 12/6/07 11:20 AM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We'll normally just split the bill down the middle. However, if we wind up ordering more expensive dishes or have some drinks and others don't we always throw in more money.
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| Posted 12/6/07 11:57 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
split it evenly
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| Posted 12/6/07 12:06 PM |
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AimeeE2006
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I sad pay individually - but it all depends on if someone had a cocktail...I really don't want to be paying for someone else's drinks. But typically - we just split the bill.
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| Posted 12/6/07 12:09 PM |
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Jax430
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We will usually split the bill. If one person ordered a lot more, he or she will usually offer to contribute extra.
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| Posted 12/6/07 12:54 PM |
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LInative
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by cpanyc
We always split evenly.
When I visit my friends down south they either ask the waitress for separate bills for Everyone or want to spilt it based on who had what.
I noticed separate checks is extremely common down south. I was weirded out by it at first bc I'm used to splitting things evenly.
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| Posted 12/6/07 12:57 PM |
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Ali1
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Always equal.
When I was preggo and could not drink it never even occurred to me that I should pay less the amount since I was not drinking.
And as for the others who posted on here about couples who always drink/eat way more then them, I just would not go out to dinner with them.
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
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| Posted 12/6/07 1:01 PM |
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Whamtastic
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I HATE splitting the bill evenly among everyone, because most of the time my order costs WAY less than most of the people I'm with. I usually order a reasonably priced entree and I drink water. If I'm with someone who orders something expensive and has two glasses of wine, I don't want to pay for it. I don't care if it makes me look cheap.
ETA: If the difference is only a few bucks, I don't mind splitting, but I don't want to pay huge amount more than I spent - it's happened to me before where I've eaten a $20 entree and had to spend $45 because we were splitting the bill evenly. Uncool.
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| Posted 12/6/07 1:02 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by MelToddJulia
Posted by melbalalala
NOOOOOOOO way. You are talking my #1 pet peev in the entire world.
My motto, hands down...
PAY FOR WHAT YOU EAT AND DO NOT SPLIT EVENLY
Nothing drives me crazier than this topic. If I go out with a group and get a diet coke and a sandwich, there's no WAY im paying $30 because people had wine, appetizers, etc. How is that ever ever fair?
If people can't do the math, I'll gladly tell them what they owe.
If figuring out who ate/drank what and what they owe causes "tension" among you and your friends, you need new friends.
It works with us, no one complains, and everyone pays for what they enjoyed that night.
ITA!!!
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ahhh this debate again....
and what kills me is that it doesnt bother the "big order" person, that someone who had a salad is now chipping in $50 because they had 5 drinks and sushi appetizers 
this happened at a huge coworker function. and many people felt uncomfortable (and mortified) that they had to chip in so much (more than they even budgeted for)...
and on the flipside, we've gone out with friends where we were the ones that had MUCH pricier meals, and we ABSOLUTELY put in twice as much money. I could not just sit there and let them pay for what I decided to splurge on.
in MOST cases, with a few friends/relatives, yes we usually split it evenly. but in cases where its way off. what's right is right.
IMO It's called common courtesy.
pretty simple.
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mycrayon1
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
It makes me insane when our one of couple friends feel the need to nickel and dime the tab. 
If you know that one person/couple is going to spend a lot more on lets say drinks, then get a seperate bill beforehand or agree to split it either way.
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| Posted 12/6/07 1:22 PM |
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oops123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I would say "other". My DH will pick up the bill, unless the other DH does it 1st.
Usually my DH will pretend to go to the bathroom and pay it on the sneak. He would NEVER sit there at the table with a calculator and tally up who owes what.
Once in a while, we'll just split it evenly if were w/a bunch of people.
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| Posted 12/6/07 1:39 PM |
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MrsMerlot
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by oops123
I would say "other". My DH will pick up the bill, unless the other DH does it 1st.
Usually my DH will pretend to go to the bathroom and pay it on the sneak. He would NEVER sit there at the table with a calculator and tally up who owes what.
Once in a while, we'll just split it evenly if were w/a bunch of people.
this is me....I actually have had fights in restaurants where I paid the bill on the sneak (using the bathroom technique) and the guests I was with would ask the manager to void it!
Your DH is a great man, and you are lucky! 
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:07 PM |
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MrsMerlot
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ali1
Always equal.
When I was preggo and could not drink it never even occurred to me that I should pay less the amount since I was not drinking.
And as for the others who posted on here about couples who always drink/eat way more then them, I just would not go out to dinner with them.
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
stated perfectly. Thank You very much!
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:08 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Ali1
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
What's so uncomfortable?
The bill comes, we pick it up, do a little mental calculation, put our money down, hand the bill to the next couple.
Doing a little math doesn't exactly ruin a nice meal.... being upset that I really overpaid for my relatively inexpensive meal, however could leave a sour taste in my mouth... and ruin the good meal.
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:11 PM |
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Preguntas
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
I make you pay, Christine.
Seriously- either we pick up the bill or it gets split evenly. If someone else ordered like a soup and a water, I like ot up everyone esle's share so they pay less, but whatevs.
I don't even like trying to divide the bill evenly. I feel uncomfortable.
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:14 PM |
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Dani922
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
We just split the bill evenly. It's a PITA to try to calculate who owes what. Usually, if one person ordered alcohol or dessert or something that person pays for the extra thing they ordered, but other than that, it's split evenly.
When we went out for my bach party, I had one friend freak out over the concept of splitting the bill evenly because "what if someone ordered a more expensive meal?!" We went to Applebees. What could you end up paying? An extra $2? 
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:22 PM |
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MrsMerlot
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by Preguntas
I make you pay, Christine.
I will get you back in other ways. 
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:26 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by ChrissynRicky
Posted by oops123
I would say "other". My DH will pick up the bill, unless the other DH does it 1st.
Usually my DH will pretend to go to the bathroom and pay it on the sneak. He would NEVER sit there at the table with a calculator and tally up who owes what.
Once in a while, we'll just split it evenly if were w/a bunch of people.
this is me....I actually have had fights in restaurants where I paid the bill on the sneak (using the bathroom technique) and the guests I was with would ask the manager to void it!
Your DH is a great man, and you are lucky!
DH and I have done this often as well.
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| Posted 12/6/07 2:55 PM |
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ml110
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Ali1
I think it's incredibly uncomfortable to start breaking down a bill at a table, especially after a nice meal.
Thats JMO.
What's so uncomfortable?
The bill comes, we pick it up, do a little mental calculation, put our money down, hand the bill to the next couple.
ITA!!! its not that uncomfortable! we usually sit there and talk for a few minutes after we eat anyway, so we each just do our quick calculations while we're talking... not as big a deal as it seems, and everybody goes home happier knowing they didn't overpay 
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:08 PM |
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Ginger123
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Re: Going out to dinner with others (or a group) - with Poll
EVENLY
YOU SHOULD NOT BE GOING OUT TO DINNER IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THIS.. PULLING OUT A CALCLUATOR FOR DINNER IS DISGUSTING!!!
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| Posted 12/6/07 3:12 PM |
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