TTC after MC support thread

Hi All:

Not sure if everyone's up for it, but thought I'd start a thread for those of us who are TTCing after a miscarriage(s).

Feel free to rant, rave and just let loose here. Anyone else with me?

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Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

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I am in! This has been such a rollercoaster of emotions for DH and I over the past several weeks, and I am trying to just stay positive and focus on trying again. I had a DNC about 2 weeks ago, so I can't officially ttc until I get my next period......Thanks for starting this

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Posted by sfp0701

Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

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I just wanted to offer all of you lots of and . I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but then was pregnant after one cycle again. I now have a beautiful 9 month old son, who is perfect in everyway. Please know that you will get pregnant again...FM if you ever want to talk

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Posted by zeta1996

I just wanted to offer all of you lots of and . I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks but then was pregnant after one cycle again. I now have a beautiful 9 month old son, who is perfect in everyway. Please know that you will get pregnant again...FM if you ever want to talk

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Posted by hmm12

Posted by sfp0701

Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

I am so with you on this.....I feel as if I won't be able to truely enjoy the first few months b/c I will be replaying my horrible experience the first time around....Hopefully we can get each other through this!

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Posted by sfp0701

Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by sfp0701

Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

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hi ladies... this thread is great.. we can all come on here and just chat about how we feel or anything for that matter.

its been 2 weeks for me and still feels so fresh like it happened yesterday..
i got the green light to TTC after my first period.. so hopefully that will come within the next few weeks

but i am going to be TERRIFIED of being PG after a MC.. how can you just sit back and enjoy it.. its just terrible especially since it was 16 weeks for me

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this is a great idea of a thread...count me in...

i had a mc this past january when i was 5 months....everything was goin well till one day i had spotting and then cramps (which turned out to be contractions) by the time i went to the hopsital 1 hour later...i was already 4 cm and they had to deliver me....since his lungs werent developed yet. and even if they turned me upside , my cerivx was was too open....everything was natural , just had epidural...i still cry...i dont think i'll ever stop...but i'm getting better

i got back my period (with a vengence!!) in march and my doc said we can start trying after 3 cycles...so here we are BDing away!

the doc said this the mc looks due to a incompentant cervix..and the next time around they'll do a cerclage...which i hope works...

its just hard now...bc since this was my 1 pg....this is how i think pg is...scary...

ps our son's name was Jonah Devin

thanks for letting me vent!! see you girls!

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Posted by jennyal

this is a great idea of a thread...count me in...

i had a mc this past january when i was 5 months....everything was goin well till one day i had spotting and then cramps (which turned out to be contractions) by the time i went to the hopsital 1 hour later...i was already 4 cm and they had to deliver me....since his lungs werent developed yet. and even if they turned me upside , my cerivx was was too open....everything was natural , just had epidural...i still cry...i dont think i'll ever stop...but i'm getting better

i got back my period (with a vengence!!) in march and my doc said we can start trying after 3 cycles...so here we are BDing away!

the doc said this the mc looks due to a incompentant cervix..and the next time around they'll do a cerclage...which i hope works...

its just hard now...bc since this was my 1 pg....this is how i think pg is...scary...

ps our son's name was Jonah Devin

thanks for letting me vent!! see you girls!

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I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

Message edited 5/20/2008 10:06:42 AM.

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I just wanted to give you ladies hope. After DH and I got married we wanted a baby very much. I got Preg in October, MC at 7 weeks. Got PG in December again...MC at 7 weeks. Dr found out my hormone levels were dropping and shooting right back up...causing me to lose the baby. Fast forward to Sept of the next year...Preg again...so excited. Doctor told me everything was great, in December at almost 17 weeks, I lost it. Really because the doc was not listeningto my symptoms, I knew I was losing the baby, hetold me to go home and put my feet up and bed rest. BUt in my gut I knew something was wrong. I was so devastated, I thought I would never be able to pull myself together.

That was when I found a new doc and SHE WAS AMAZING!!!! She paid all the attention I wanted and I was able to conceive in March (that doc, I must have drove her nuts, she should have just come and moved in with me, trully my BFF, this woman was a godsend to me) and I have a beautiful four year old driving me insane to prove it. I really think that if your doc is not paying attention to your needs then what good is that doc. Ladies do not give up hope, I know it is so easy to get discouraged and month after month getting your heart broke makes it that much easier. A soon as my hubby and I got our minds clear and started trying again it was so wonderful, the whole process was amazing. In the end when you hold that little it really does make all the trouble just melt away.

I am praying that each of us gets what we want and have been praying for. Just do not lose that hope. It will happen for all of us.

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Posted by Mommyof3

I just wanted to give you ladies hope. After DH and I got married we wanted a baby very much. I got Preg in October, MC at 7 weeks. Got PG in December again...MC at 7 weeks. Dr found out my hormone levels were dropping and shooting right back up...causing me to lose the baby. Fast forward to Sept of the next year...Preg again...so excited. Doctor told me everything was great, in December at almost 17 weeks, I lost it. Really because the doc was not listeningto my symptoms, I knew I was losing the baby, hetold me to go home and put my feet up and bed rest. BUt in my gut I knew something was wrong. I was so devastated, I thought I would never be able to pull myself together.

That was when I found a new doc and SHE WAS AMAZING!!!! She paid all the attention I wanted and I was able to conceive in March (that doc, I must have drove her nuts, she should have just come and moved in with me, trully my BFF, this woman was a godsend to me) and I have a beautiful four year old driving me insane to prove it. I really think that if your doc is not paying attention to your needs then what good is that doc. Ladies do not give up hope, I know it is so easy to get discouraged and month after month getting your heart broke makes it that much easier. A soon as my hubby and I got our minds clear and started trying again it was so wonderful, the whole process was amazing. In the end when you hold that little it really does make all the trouble just melt away.

I am praying that each of us gets what we want and have been praying for. Just do not lose that hope. It will happen for all of us.

Message edited 5/20/2008 10:13:43 AM.

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Posted by Mommyof3

I just wanted to give you ladies hope. After DH and I got married we wanted a baby very much. I got Preg in October, MC at 7 weeks. Got PG in December again...MC at 7 weeks. Dr found out my hormone levels were dropping and shooting right back up...causing me to lose the baby. Fast forward to Sept of the next year...Preg again...so excited. Doctor told me everything was great, in December at almost 17 weeks, I lost it. Really because the doc was not listeningto my symptoms, I knew I was losing the baby, hetold me to go home and put my feet up and bed rest. BUt in my gut I knew something was wrong. I was so devastated, I thought I would never be able to pull myself together.

That was when I found a new doc and SHE WAS AMAZING!!!! She paid all the attention I wanted and I was able to conceive in March (that doc, I must have drove her nuts, she should have just come and moved in with me, trully my BFF, this woman was a godsend to me) and I have a beautiful four year old driving me insane to prove it. I really think that if your doc is not paying attention to your needs then what good is that doc. Ladies do not give up hope, I know it is so easy to get discouraged and month after month getting your heart broke makes it that much easier. A soon as my hubby and I got our minds clear and started trying again it was so wonderful, the whole process was amazing. In the end when you hold that little it really does make all the trouble just melt away.

I am praying that each of us gets what we want and have been praying for. Just do not lose that hope. It will happen for all of us.

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Posted by hmm12

I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

i have been doing the same thing as you.. all i do is research on the internet as to what happened ... and its making me more crazy.. i need to stop!!!

what makes me even more crazy is that some of these doctors dont take miscarriages seriously.. and i really feel that some of them can be prevented when you are further along! and i cant let this happen to me again!!

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

i have been doing the same thing as you.. all i do is research on the internet as to what happened ... and its making me more crazy.. i need to stop!!!

what makes me even more crazy is that some of these doctors dont take miscarriages seriously.. and i really feel that some of them can be prevented when you are further along! and i cant let this happen to me again!!

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Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

i have been doing the same thing as you.. all i do is research on the internet as to what happened ... and its making me more crazy.. i need to stop!!!

what makes me even more crazy is that some of these doctors dont take miscarriages seriously.. and i really feel that some of them can be prevented when you are further along! and i cant let this happen to me again!!

I am so sorry for your loss. I do agree that doctors don't take them seriously. I actually am switching doctors b/c of the whole experience, they were very cold and it just gave me such a bad taste. I can't think about being pregnant again and having to enter the same office that was only the bearer of bad news...Especially b/c my doctor didn't go to great lengths to explain things or even feel bad about it...They basically kept reminding me that it is so common and a lot of womwn go through this...That never made me feel better leaving the office...I am wishing all the best for all of us...I am in your boat with ttc...Waiting for that AF to arrive and getting busy!

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Posted by jennyal

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

I have driven myself to insanity RESEARCHING everything....I have to stop doing this b/c I will never know the reason for my miscarriage and the more I read about the more I question things I did or didn't do...

BTW I was 9weeks and the baby was measuring 6w2d....I am so sorry for all of us going through this...It seems like the pain just doesn't go away, the worst for me right now is not having any symptoms and my hormones all out of tune....It is making me an emotional basketcase

i have been doing the same thing as you.. all i do is research on the internet as to what happened ... and its making me more crazy.. i need to stop!!!

what makes me even more crazy is that some of these doctors dont take miscarriages seriously.. and i really feel that some of them can be prevented when you are further along! and i cant let this happen to me again!!

EXACTLY! i feel that they shouldve checked my cervix as part of their routing to make sure i wasnt dilating....if they had done that at me exam which i had a week before...i was sure they wouldve helped me...when i hear them say mc are normal...i say...it aint normal to me!

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I love this thread and I think I need it. I had a miscarriage almost 3 weeks ago. I was only 5 weeks. It was certainly the worst thing I have ever gone through, but after reading this thread - I cannot even imagine how you ladies survived your ordeals. I give you so much credit as you are amazingly strong women. I think the thing that keeps us all floating is hope and belief that we will one day each have babies. I too have researched miscarriages to death and feel that my research got me nowhere but even more frightened about becoming pregnant again. I agree that I am going to be totally petrified, to say they least, when I get pregnant again. I also kind of feel like I don't even want to know right away. The fact that we can find out we are pregnant, almost the moment it happens is almost torture - several years ago, you would even know you were pregnant until your first trimester was well on it's way to being over!

I am here with the rest of you ladies, just hoping and praying - and actually enjoying BDing again!!

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Replying a little late...what else is new with me. i'm late for everything!

I had a chemical in December and a missed mc a few months later at 8 wks. I am very nervous/anxious about it happening again, but i keep thinking about what my doctor said (MY doctor...not the idiot in the practice who was taking the word of a nurse, who heard from the receptionist at the radiology place...erg that still makes me )
Anyway, my doctor told me that after analysis of the D&C, there was an extra #4 chromosome, which is rare. He said it was a fluke thing, and it is very unlikely it will happen again.

here's hoping!

Think good thoughts, everyone.