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Posted by MetsGirl07


i got the green light to TTC after my first period.. so hopefully that will come within the next few weeks


Deanna -
I'm so happy to hear you can start TTC again right away! I know you wanted that and I was for you!!!!

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Posted by WhitneyL

Posted by MetsGirl07


i got the green light to TTC after my first period.. so hopefully that will come within the next few weeks


Deanna -
I'm so happy to hear you can start TTC again right away! I know you wanted that and I was for you!!!!

thanks Whitney!
yea its the ONLY good news i got from the doctor.. so im happy about that at least..

how you holding up?

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hey to all my beautiful future mothers....

my name is kate, i just lost my daughter at 20w. My water broke, and i went into labor, and they couldnt stop it. I am soo heartbroken, i just was soo excited, and i feel empty like something is missing, and i have felt very alone.

I am going to switch doctors, b/c my previous doctors dropped the ball. Any suggestions. i am going to start trying the end of the summer.

Love and prayers to you all.

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by WhitneyL

Posted by MetsGirl07


thanks Whitney!
yea its the ONLY good news i got from the doctor.. so im happy about that at least..

how you holding up?

Thinking good thoughts, my dear. Just thinking good thoughts.

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to everyone on this board.

I am TTC'ing again after a MC in February at 9 weeks. It is my second month and I am not trying to make myself too crazy but it's hard. Part of me just wants to be pregnant again, but part of me wants to take a break from all of this.

My DH is in the reserves and is going away in October, so that is putting the pressure on me also.

and for everyone on this board.

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I'm so sad that there are so many of us in this thread .

We conceived on our second month of trying. I think I knew almost the whole pregnancy that something wasn't right. I just didn't feel right. I was obsessed he whole time with the possibility of miscarriage. The day it happened, I called my mom from work all upset because I just knew something was wrong. I stared spotting a couple of hours after I hung up with her. Going by when I know I ovulated (cd18), I was about 5w2d. I left work & went to he ER with DH since it was a Saurday afternoon. We left shortly after getting there. I fel like deep inside I knew tha the spotting would ge heavier & I wanted to miscarry at home. I started bleeding heavily about an hour afer we got home. I think my miscarriage was probably the most emotionally difficult thing I've ever experienced.

We started trying right away (didn't wait for AF) & we're now in the 3rd cycle since the m/c. It really hurts. DD was a surprise, he m/c took only 2 months, & now it's taking the longest to conceive again this time. I'm starting to get so frustrated (I'm 8DPO & probably out again). I feel like the longer it takes to get pregnant again, the more salt tha is being added to the wound of the miscarriage. I'm terrified to get pregnant again though because I don't think I could handle another m/c.

to everyone.

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so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

i feel so strongly about this .. in my case with the incompetent cervix.. they still sometimes cant diagnose you so they play the "wait and see what happens" game.. and im NOT doing it.
i am not sure if there is anyone else that is in my situation..

i just pray for all of us and hope to get a BFP soon! and carry a baby to full term

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Hi Ladies - can I join you? I MC @ 12 weeks back in december.

I had a disaster of a situation after my D and C and had to switch drs. as well. In addition here we are about 5 months later and I am still not 100% sure I am ovulating again.

Dh and I have been ttc but not getting crazy about it - now that 5 months has passed I am starting to get a little more on top of it...if I am not preggo by July my dr. wants to run tests which I really don't want to do.

Not to mention as my original due date approaches I am sad, I really thought I would be preggo again by now.

Here is some baby dust for everyone (and some for me too )

And for those who just recently MC - I promise you it does get easier as time goes on. And for the first time moms - I promise its worth all the effort!!!!!

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Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07

so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

Metsgirl - I know your mc was quite late, but I don't think a high risk doctor will see anyone who has had an early first tri mc unless they've had karotyping done - which is unusual.

I know the prospect of this all happening again is absolutely devastating, but I think we do need to try to be positive and calm about subsequent pregnancies - for our own health and the health of future babies. The very sad reality of it, is that miscarriages DO happen quite often and most of the CANNOT be prevented. But hopefully we'll all go on to have beautiful little ones sometime soon!!!

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07

so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

Metsgirl - I know your mc was quite late, but I don't think a high risk doctor will see anyone who has had an early first tri mc unless they've had karotyping done - which is unusual.

I know the prospect of this all happening again is absolutely devastating, but I think we do need to try to be positive and calm about subsequent pregnancies - for our own health and the health of future babies. The very sad reality of it, is that miscarriages DO happen quite often and most of the CANNOT be prevented. But hopefully we'll all go on to have beautiful little ones sometime soon!!!

2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

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Posted by secretbabymaker

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07

so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

Metsgirl - I know your mc was quite late, but I don't think a high risk doctor will see anyone who has had an early first tri mc unless they've had karotyping done - which is unusual.

I know the prospect of this all happening again is absolutely devastating, but I think we do need to try to be positive and calm about subsequent pregnancies - for our own health and the health of future babies. The very sad reality of it, is that miscarriages DO happen quite often and most of the CANNOT be prevented. But hopefully we'll all go on to have beautiful little ones sometime soon!!!

2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

as far as im concerned...you can vent all you want...

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by secretbabymaker

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07

so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

Metsgirl - I know your mc was quite late, but I don't think a high risk doctor will see anyone who has had an early first tri mc unless they've had karotyping done - which is unusual.

I know the prospect of this all happening again is absolutely devastating, but I think we do need to try to be positive and calm about subsequent pregnancies - for our own health and the health of future babies. The very sad reality of it, is that miscarriages DO happen quite often and most of the CANNOT be prevented. But hopefully we'll all go on to have beautiful little ones sometime soon!!!

2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

as far as im concerned...you can vent all you want...

thank you
i feel bad now if i am being too much ..
i guess it all just came out and its so nice to have other girls on here that went through the same as me
i dont feel so alone anymore

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Posted by MetsGirl07
2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

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Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07
2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

Oh, no, please don't take it that way. I didn't think you were being negative - and I started this thread so we would all have a place to vent.

I just think that with most miscarriages - especially first trimester ones - there really isn't anything that can be done and that we'll drive ourselves crazy trying to find a doctor or a even a way we think might prevent something that can't actually be prevented no matter how many doctors we see.

I understand that it's so fresh for you as well. Right after my miscarriage I spent days on google trying to find a reason why it happened. But there's really no way for any of us to know, unless there have been tests done on the fetus - and for the most part tests will not be done on a miscarried first trimester fetus. I guess I just worry that others might think that they'll find more answers or the answers they're looking for by seeing a high risk specialist when for the most part our losses can't really be explained.

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Posted by MetsGirl07

hi ladies... this thread is great.. we can all come on here and just chat about how we feel or anything for that matter.

its been 2 weeks for me and still feels so fresh like it happened yesterday..
i got the green light to TTC after my first period.. so hopefully that will come within the next few weeks

but i am going to be TERRIFIED of being PG after a MC.. how can you just sit back and enjoy it.. its just terrible especially since it was 16 weeks for me

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by secretbabymaker

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by MetsGirl07

so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?

Metsgirl - I know your mc was quite late, but I don't think a high risk doctor will see anyone who has had an early first tri mc unless they've had karotyping done - which is unusual.

I know the prospect of this all happening again is absolutely devastating, but I think we do need to try to be positive and calm about subsequent pregnancies - for our own health and the health of future babies. The very sad reality of it, is that miscarriages DO happen quite often and most of the CANNOT be prevented. But hopefully we'll all go on to have beautiful little ones sometime soon!!!

2nd trimester miscarriages are not as common as 1st trimester.. that was my point.. but either way they are terrible . i am in another forum about all this and the unbelievable stories i heard.. some of these misciarriages can be prevented.. most from Incompetent cervix.. thats what my whole point was...
i am trying to stay positive about the whole thing.. but it only happened 2 weeks ago.. and its still so fresh.. so i need a little time and just vent or let it out! sorry if i offended you or anyone else about being negative

as far as im concerned...you can vent all you want...

thank you
i feel bad now if i am being too much ..
i guess it all just came out and its so nice to have other girls on here that went through the same as me
i dont feel so alone anymore

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Posted by k-bam

i know how you feel, i lost a baby at 17w2d before i had my DD.. they have no idea why it happened, but the baby stopped growing and had some major anomalies. when i got pregnant with DD i was TERRIFIED for the 1st 17 weeks.. but by that time i had a sonogram and everything showed she was perfect! i was SOO relieved... there is no way to know that everything is going to be alright, all you can do is pray and keep yourself healthy. i just wanted to let you girls know that there IS hope after a miscarriage/loss.. my almost 5 year old DD is living proof. still to this day i believe DC#1 is her angel who watched over her from conception and still to this day to make her as perfect and healthy as she is.

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I too agree that the babies we lose are now angels that watch over us. I sometimes find myself talking to the sky and asking for DC to watch over myself and DH. I also ask for help to conceive again and to make sure everything goes OK. I find it comforting in a way.

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Posted by futuremommy

Posted by k-bam

i know how you feel, i lost a baby at 17w2d before i had my DD.. they have no idea why it happened, but the baby stopped growing and had some major anomalies. when i got pregnant with DD i was TERRIFIED for the 1st 17 weeks.. but by that time i had a sonogram and everything showed she was perfect! i was SOO relieved... there is no way to know that everything is going to be alright, all you can do is pray and keep yourself healthy. i just wanted to let you girls know that there IS hope after a miscarriage/loss.. my almost 5 year old DD is living proof. still to this day i believe DC#1 is her angel who watched over her from conception and still to this day to make her as perfect and healthy as she is.

Thank you for this. It is really helpful to hear post-mc success stories. I'm so sorry for your loss.

MetsGirl - I think it's partly donw to the fact that we're all at different stages of grief as well. I'm at the point now where we're TTCing again and I look at every month as a clean slate. I know I won't be completely 'innocent' the next time I get pregnant, but I really do want to put what happened behind me and be optimistic. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but having a baby is the most natural thing in the world. It's something our bodies WANT to do and want to do right - I hope we can all help each other to not be so scared next time around.

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Posted by Dani922

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Sure I'm in.

Here's my problem...

I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.

That's exactly how I feel.