Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by jennyal

Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..

and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..

i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!

i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...

it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....

DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.

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Posted by Dani922

Posted by jennyal

Posted by futuremommy

Posted by jennyal

Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..

and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..

i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!

i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...

it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....

DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.

it just s u c k s....yes, we'all all happy for other people....but its like why cant that be me...what did i do, to deserve SUCH pain! like can be so unfair sometimes....i still get depressed....

I've been thinking that all d@mn day. I'm 10DPO of my 3rd cycle since the m/c & this morning was a BFN, so I'm out again. DD was a surprise & the m/c only took 2 months... WHY is it taking longer now to conceive a sticky baby? I keep thinking I must somehow not deserve a second child. I lost the pregnancy I had & now I can't seem to get pregnant again. I'm starting to think it's a sign. I really feel like I'll never see another BFP

I think with every BFN, the miscarriage gets more painful.

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Thank you for sharing all your stories. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. I had two very early miscarriages, one in July of 07 and one in December of 07. Nobody could know what it is like unless they go through it themselves.

to all of you!

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Posted by CAH127

Thank you for sharing all your stories. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. I had two very early miscarriages, one in July of 07 and one in December of 07. Nobody could know what it is like unless they go through it themselves.

to all of you!

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how is everyone doing today??
i always think about you girls, especially cause you all have been through this like i have..

we have to make sure we keep this thread bumped.. it really helps me get through this a little bit easier

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Posted by MetsGirl07

how is everyone doing today??
i always think about you girls, especially cause you all have been through this like i have..

we have to make sure we keep this thread bumped.. it really helps me get through this a little bit easier

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Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

how is everyone doing today??
i always think about you girls, especially cause you all have been through this like i have..

we have to make sure we keep this thread bumped.. it really helps me get through this a little bit easier

I was telling my husband that this is the best thing for me right now b/c it does help me....I love being able to go to this thread and feel a part of a group that GETS IT! Today I am doing OK, I guess b/c it is Friday and I have off Monday, so I feel good about that! How are you doing?

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

how is everyone doing today??
i always think about you girls, especially cause you all have been through this like i have..

we have to make sure we keep this thread bumped.. it really helps me get through this a little bit easier

I was telling my husband that this is the best thing for me right now b/c it does help me....I love being able to go to this thread and feel a part of a group that GETS IT! Today I am doing OK, I guess b/c it is Friday and I have off Monday, so I feel good about that! How are you doing?

yup, i was telling my husband about this group as well .. he kind of understands..but is worried for me that im on here too much and getting more upset by it.. but i told him it really does help!! of course the researching DOES NOT!!

i am doing ok.. i am looking foward to the 3 day weekend as well.. i need it!!
i have good and bad days.. its all so fresh still

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i have an idea ladies...

what if we had a GTG!
i think it would be wonderful to meet you all and maybe get to know each other ,share stories perhaps!

what do you think??

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Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

how is everyone doing today??
i always think about you girls, especially cause you all have been through this like i have..

we have to make sure we keep this thread bumped.. it really helps me get through this a little bit easier

I was telling my husband that this is the best thing for me right now b/c it does help me....I love being able to go to this thread and feel a part of a group that GETS IT! Today I am doing OK, I guess b/c it is Friday and I have off Monday, so I feel good about that! How are you doing?

yup, i was telling my husband about this group as well .. he kind of understands..but is worried for me that im on here too much and getting more upset by it.. but i told him it really does help!! of course the researching DOES NOT!!

i am doing ok.. i am looking foward to the 3 day weekend as well.. i need it!!
i have good and bad days.. its all so fresh still

It is definately still fresh, we need to just take the time to mourn, get AF asap, and try again! Hope you have a good weekend!

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Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

i have an idea ladies...

what if we had a GTG!
i think it would be wonderful to meet you all and maybe get to know each other ,share stories perhaps!

what do you think??

I would definately do it! I really am considering this a support group, that is what I feel like this is. It is so comforting to know I have somewhere to share my story where others understand it with their own to share. I think getting together would be great! Count me in!

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Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

i have an idea ladies...

what if we had a GTG!
i think it would be wonderful to meet you all and maybe get to know each other ,share stories perhaps!

what do you think??

I would definately do it! I really am considering this a support group, that is what I feel like this is. It is so comforting to know I have somewhere to share my story where others understand it with their own to share. I think getting together would be great! Count me in!

awesome!! i definitely think it would help us all , knowing we all went through it.. maybe after this weekend we can start figuring out a date , and place!! :jump
:

Message edited 5/23/2008 10:51:47 AM.

Re: TTC after MC support thread

Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

Posted by hmm12

Posted by MetsGirl07

i have an idea ladies...

what if we had a GTG!
i think it would be wonderful to meet you all and maybe get to know each other ,share stories perhaps!

what do you think??

I would definately do it! I really am considering this a support group, that is what I feel like this is. It is so comforting to know I have somewhere to share my story where others understand it with their own to share. I think getting together would be great! Count me in!

awesome!! i definitely think it would help us all , knowing we all went through it.. maybe after this weekend we can start figuring out a date , and place!! :jump
:

Ok...Let's get through this crazy weekend and start planning...Love the idea! Thanks

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Hey girls, i saw this thread i hope you dont mind if i jump in. I MC in January at 8 weeks feturs was only measuring 5 weeks. We have have been trying for over a year and that was our first. I am currently seeing an RE and I am gonna have an IUI this weekend. Im so nervous and driving home today alone i started to think (i know not good) well i started thinking what if it happens again. I truly dont think i can make it through another devestating moment. Please pray for us. I pray for all of us on here that we are blessed with our DC very soon. No one should have to go through what we have. to all!!

PS this thread is a wonderful idea!

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Hi Ladies! I am here to offer some hope and support with what wisdom I have learned going through such a hard and confusing thing as multiple m/c and infertility.

I had a missed miscarriage in Aug. 2006. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but he baby had no heartbeat and was only measuring 9 1/2. I knew that there was something wrong and was actually at the dr the day that the baby had passed but they did no sono or doppler so I never knew until I went for my ultrascreen. I had seen the baby's heartbeat many times before that so it was quite shocking. My doctors were great but explained that it was probably a fluke. I went on to get pg again in Dec and m/c a week later. It was devastating and this time I was not taking their "it's a fluke" explanation. I must say my dr was great and told me that I would get my "take home" baby one day, I felt that she truly understood how scared and devastated I was. I made them run tests. When they came back positive for a clotting disorder they referred me to a hemotologist. I went but did not feel he was pro-active enough for me. I then went to LI-IVF and saw Dr. Kenigsberg. He was fabulous and sent my bloodwork to a lab in Tennesse and they came back positive for APS. I was told that the next time I got pg I would be on baby aspiring and lovenox. Sure enough I got pg in March and now have a wonderful little baby boy.

You are your only advocate for your health! If you feel that you are not being taken seriously then switch doctors and find someone who will! If in your gut you feel that there is a reason for your m/c make them test everything under the sun. DO NOT compromise how you feel and what you think is best! Doctors do not have all the answers! (one of my drs did not think I needed the lovenox at all and I refused to go off it, I know that it is what I needed) I also started therapy which helped me sooo much!

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Is there room for one more here?? I MC and had a D&C Feb 1st. I was almost 9w. Those of you who got your cycles back already, are your cycles regular or I should say the same as they were before you were pg? Looks like we are not alone and will hopefully get sticky vibes agian this year.

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Posted by Buttafli1277

Is there room for one more here?? I MC and had a D&C Feb 1st. I was almost 9w. Those of you who got your cycles back already, are your cycles regular or I should say the same as they were before you were pg? Looks like we are not alone and will hopefully get sticky vibes agian this year.

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:::waving hello::: I just wanted to pop my head in and say hi, even though it seems like I am way late on this thread, as usual. I have m/c twice this year (January and april) both at 5w 4d. so many of the things you ladies have said in this thread could be words right out of my mouth. I read every single reply….i, too, will be switching doctors as it just seemed like my doctor couldn’t really give a rats a$$ and that I was a huge bother…can you imagine feeling like you’re wasting someone’s time in the midst of a m/c? awful. Anyway….not to turn this thread into a rant about my dr., I just wanted you all to know I am thinking about you and I’m right there with you in this crappy club we all wish we weren’t a part of….
My H and I are not TTC right now. I just can’t deal with it. Sometimes I even feel like the m/cs were only to prove I’m not ready to be a mother and maybe don’t really want to have a baby after all, but then almost immediately, I realize that’s just fear talking. It’s so easy for me to convince myself I don’t want to be PG, don’t want a baby anyway, because if I take control that way, I can’t get hurt by another m/c…..regardless, I’m a depressed pile of gloom, I’ll tell you that much. I’m supposed to be contacting an RE, but I can’t even make myself do that…..i hope all the women who never have any problems getting or staying pregnant truly know how blessed and lucky they are…

Good luck and a ton of love to all of you <3

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I can't believe I saw this thread on here today. I haven't been on much lately, other than to lurk a bit and to see how everybody is doing. I came on to post my PSA about the PG tests and to vent a bit about what's been happening with me.

So, where should I start?
I had a baby in 2006, after our first try at TTC. It was a very uneventful PG and I went home with a beautiful little girl. Late in 2006 DH and I decided to start trying for #2. After 6 months of no luck, I went to my OB and got started on Clomid. After a while with no luck, I went to see an RE. I had some testing, everything came back fine and was told I had "unexplained infertility" and that I was going to have an IUI. I got PG in Oct. after the first IUI -- exactly a year after we started trying. I was ecstatic!! When I was about 8 weeks, my RE's office "graduated" me to my regular OB, but told me that the PG "didn't look good but either way -- if it continues, you'll now be followed by him and if it doesn't he'll be the one to do the D&C". So I saw my OB when I was 9 weeks and then again at 10 weeks and sure enough, the PG was not "good". The baby was only measuring 7 weeks, and had no heartbeat. I had the D&C 3 days before Christmas. I was devastated!!! I think the only other time I cried that much was when I thought there might be something wrong with my first baby.

So DH and I started trying again right away. We've now had 2 unsuccessful IUIs and I'm working on my 3rd IUI this month. I'm just getting very frustrated because I feel like nobody in the doctor's offices GETS how important this is to me. I know that this is (in my opinion "just") their job, and that everybody in their office is in the same boat I am, so I'm not special or don't stand out in any way to them. But I feel like I deserve to be treated like I am even just a little important.

I have to coordinate between my OB and my RE because my insurance doesn't cover any fertility treatments so my OB is doing some of the sonos and bloodwork since they can code it differently and get it through the insurance. Trying to get the 2 offices to get on the same track is nearly impossible. Why don't they understand that there is timing involved here and some things have to be a priority?

Last month, I took my Clomid for 2 days and then forgot day #3. When I remembered (on day 4) I called the RE's office to ask if I should double up, or what I should do. They told me not to take any more and to come in the next day. So I went in and the doc I saw seemed really annoyed with me! She was telling me that I'm not being followed the way I should, and that I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be doing, blah blah blah. I really wanted to say, "Well, sorry lady, I'm trying to do everything I'm supposed to be, but when nobody communicates with me or with each other, it is very difficult. I'm sorry that my insurance doesn't pay and that I don't have $1k every month to keep trying this -- I guess treatment for infertility is only for people who have $$". She basically told me to forget that month and move on to the next month (she is also the same one who was so cold when she discharged me to my regular OB back in Dec). I ended up having the IUI last month because I had 2 mature eggs and I ovulated. But it failed.

Now this month she wouldn't give me a new script for the Clomid until she got my bloodwork back from my OBs office. Well, it was the long weekend and they didn't send it. So should I just forget this month as well? Luckily I had 3 days worth of Clomid leftover from last month so I started taking it. I told the nurse that I was going to take the 100mg that the doc had prescribed, with refills because as he said "THIS is your dose -- it is what works for you." Now I'm going in this week for a day #10 sono to see what is happening. I just hope and pray that it happens this month.

My little girl is now 2 and I really wanted her to have a sibling close in age to her for them to share all the childhood memories with and I just feel like with every unsuccessful month, they are both losing that opportunity. Also, I'm in my late 30s and I'm nearing my 12th cycle of Clomid, which the RE told me is the lifetime maximum that you can take. I don't know what will happen if it doesn't happen before then because we can not afford IVF or any of the injectable medications. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed this month. Hopefully the 3rd time is a charm!

I'm so glad I was able to get that all out. Thank you if you've read this far.

ETA: I just want to send lots of to everybody on here and I truly hope we all get & very very soon!!

Message edited 5/27/2008 3:29:13 PM.

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I'm so glad I was able to get that all out. Thank you if you've read this far.

ETA: I just want to send lots of to everybody on here and I truly hope we all get & very very soon!!


i am so very sorry what you went through and are going through right now.. i cant imagine.. i just hope in the end you get a 2nd miracle!
just make sure you stand your ground and be treated like you should be! i have a jerk off doctor that is not compassionate at all.. and because of that i have to find another doctor who does care! after all WE are paying them! its a business ! unfortunately

anyways.. im glad you are on here with us.. well not really because i wish none of us had to deal with this.. but if you ever need to vent , rant, or even talk .. we are here! and everyone is SO great on this board!

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Posted by MetsGirl07



I'm so glad I was able to get that all out. Thank you if you've read this far.

ETA: I just want to send lots of to everybody on here and I truly hope we all get & very very soon!!

Message edited 5/27/2008 4:46:25 PM.

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I would love to join you girls over here. I M/C about 3 weeks ago and had a D&C. I have a beautiful little girl who is 2 1/2 and I still cant figure out what went wrong. I had the D&C and the OB who was very sympathetic said before he got the pathology report that they saw abnormal pregnacy tissue so he was 99.9 % sure it was because of a chromosomal defrct like trisomy 18 and to wait for his call to tell me for sure. Well he called on thursday and said it came back NORMAL pregnancy tissue. Now he wants to do all blood work on ME to see if theres something wrong with ME. I was on the computer ALL night last night lookng up what couldbe wrong with me. Hypothyroidism, lupus blood clotting disorders etc. So I have to wait for the results to come back before we start trying.
I am VERy lucky to be blessed with the best DD and I know I should be grateful for her, yes thats makes it a bit easier but I wanted DD to have a sibling. I dont want to sound selfish because Im not, please dont think that.
I too have a SIL who is preggo her first I am so happy for them but I cant even look at her without seeing myself. I have to go to her shower and its going to kill me.
I havent spoken to anyone really about how hurt I am just my mom aso Im gladto have you girls...