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babyfaith
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
so in anyone going to see a high risk doctor now ?? after having your MC?
i feel so strongly about this .. in my case with the incompetent cervix.. they still sometimes cant diagnose you so they play the "wait and see what happens" game.. and im NOT doing it.
i am not sure if there is anyone else that is in my situation..
i just pray for all of us and hope to get a BFP soon! and carry a baby to full term 
I 100% agree with your insisting on a high risk doctor for your next pregnancy.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
i dont mean to sound dumb but what are chemicals??
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:14 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sfp0701
Sure I'm in.
Here's my problem...
I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.  
I will be honest- you don't The first trimester with my DD was horrible- I was so scared and refused to even get excited until after my CVS told me she was ok. It does ruin your innocence a lot. You get that BFP the second time and you aren't even excited.
But then it starts to fade and you are getting closer to the end and the excitment returns- but innocence is definately gone.
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:27 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MikesGirl323
i dont mean to sound dumb but what are chemicals??
You get a BFP but the baby never forms- no sack or fetal pole.
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:32 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Hi Ladies, I wanted to post on here because I know what you are all going through. I had a m/c early last summer and it was the worst thing I could ever go through. I felt as if all I saw were pregnant women and babies and reminders everywhere. I just wanted to be left alone and was so sad. I shut everyone out. We started ttc-ing about 2 months later and did get pg again about 4 months after that (I am 36, so it probably took me longer than many after a m/c). We are having twins. Yes, the first tri is very scary; in fact, the whole pregnancy is scary because even under perfect circumstances, you still worry. From what I hear, you will always worry, even when your children are grown up. You just do what you need to do to feel comfortable; if that means more sonos or a high-risk doctor, so be it.
If I can offer any hope, I will just say that you all were able to get pregnant, so that is positive. I am confident that you all will be again and will go on to have healthy babies. Best of luck and baby dust to you all. 
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| Posted 5/20/08 6:36 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Great thread!
Count me in.
I had two miscarriages
1st in september @ 8 weeks. saw a heartbeat, started bleeding a few days later
2nd in December @10 weeks. no heartbeat
We only tried twice to get pregnant & both times ended in miscarriage.
I've been on a break from ttc, emotionally not ready for another m/c.
I think I've got the nerve now though
I'm going to try again this month or next...hoping 3's a charm
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| Posted 5/20/08 7:26 PM |
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jennyal
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MikesGirl323
Posted by nicknmb
I too agree that the babies we lose are now angels that watch over us. I sometimes find myself talking to the sky and asking for DC to watch over myself and DH. I also ask for help to conceive again and to make sure everything goes OK. I find it comforting in a way.
i agree, i named my daughter angel. I am sorry for all of your loss. It is so difficult to go through this b/c of the unknown factors. My story is not as common. i lost my baby at 20w2d, the doctor says this will most likely not happen again. but who knows. i feel in my heart that is wont. We all just have to try and stay positive, i carried for that long i dont know why i shouldnt be able to carry Full term. I am just soo angry still.
can i ask how you lost your angel?
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:12 PM |
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jennyal
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
i think its hard to have a mc at at anytime, but for me...its just harder as ai moved along into the 9 months....i thought i was in the clear at the 2nd trim....since i heard about mc more common in the 1st trim......i guess having a baby is TRULLY A BLESSING!!!!!!
to everyone!!
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| Posted 5/20/08 9:20 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
After 1 M/C I had my son
<------------------------- in 2005
After 4 M/C in 2006 we finally sustained our 7th pregnancy in 2007 and had my DD
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I had to fight my health insurance to see a RE after my problems in 2006. Even though my RE couldn't find any problems with Dh or myself he shared some ideas and rememdies (baby asprin, progesterone, getting off prenatal and just taking women's one a day) and also followed my first trimester very closely.
Don't give up hope. I was on my last rope and then my 7th pregnancy stayed.
It's horrible to have recurrent miscarriages your supposed to be excitied when you see a BFP not fear that it will fade or their won't be a heartbeat.
Prayers! 
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| Posted 5/20/08 10:05 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by -Laurie-
After 1 M/C I had my son
<------------------------- in 2005
After 4 M/C in 2006 we finally sustained our 7th pregnancy in 2007 and had my DD
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I had to fight my health insurance to see a RE after my problems in 2006. Even though my RE couldn't find any problems with Dh or myself he shared some ideas and rememdies (baby asprin, progesterone, getting off prenatal and just taking women's one a day) and also followed my first trimester very closely.
Don't give up hope. I was on my last rope and then my 7th pregnancy stayed.
It's horrible to have recurrent miscarriages your supposed to be excitied when you see a BFP not fear that it will fade or their won't be a heartbeat.
Prayers!
what does the "(baby asprin, progesterone, getting off prenatal and just taking women's one a day)" do?....should i be worried about the prenatals
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| Posted 5/20/08 10:46 PM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by jennyal
Posted by MikesGirl323
Posted by nicknmb
I too agree that the babies we lose are now angels that watch over us. I sometimes find myself talking to the sky and asking for DC to watch over myself and DH. I also ask for help to conceive again and to make sure everything goes OK. I find it comforting in a way.
i agree, i named my daughter angel. I am sorry for all of your loss. It is so difficult to go through this b/c of the unknown factors. My story is not as common. i lost my baby at 20w2d, the doctor says this will most likely not happen again. but who knows. i feel in my heart that is wont. We all just have to try and stay positive, i carried for that long i dont know why i shouldnt be able to carry Full term. I am just soo angry still.
can i ask how you lost your angel?
sure, well they arent 100% sure they think that i had a infection, and that weakened the sac and caused my water to break. i had tested positive for group beta strep. but i thought it wasnt something to worry about thats what my doctor said, and now they say it could be the cause,but that it would never happen again.So i think they dropped the ball and i am never going back to them again. i have a high risk doctor now. i dont go to see her until i get a BFP, keep ur fingers crossed that it happens soon!!
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sfp0701
Sure I'm in.
Here's my problem...
I have lost the innocence of pregnancy and I feel like I won't be able to enjoy a pregnancy like I want to be able to, at least for the first trimester. I will be so scared.
It took me a while to enjoy this pregnancy after my first loss, but it did get better, with time, with each sonogram, with each tests.
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| Posted 5/21/08 6:58 AM |
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hmm12
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Just wanted to say I am so happy for this thread, even it is just venting. I have been in a cloud for the past 2 weeks since my D&C and I am so happy to just have a group of girls to share stories with....Thank you ..
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by hmm12
Just wanted to say I am so happy for this thread, even it is just venting. I have been in a cloud for the past 2 weeks since my D&C and I am so happy to just have a group of girls to share stories with....Thank you ..
i agree!
i am in so much pain still , and just still cant believe this is happening to me .. everyday i think about it and tear up. i am glad to talk on here with you girls to help heal
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| Posted 5/21/08 8:53 AM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Message edited 11/22/2010 11:24:53 AM.
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by JennyPenny
I just wanted to say that I miscarried at around 8 weeks, and my ob/gyn told me that she will be referring me to a high risk doctor when I get pregnant again. It doesn't matter how far along you were, it depends on the circumstance. If you feel something went wrong ,or it could have been prevented instead of a natural mc, then make an appointment!!!!!!! The worst that can happen is they tell you you don't need them!
i feel the same way as you!
glad you are going to see a high risk doctor next time around... do you mind telling me who your regular OB is??
im still looking and seems like yours is very serious with this !
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
It's been 3 weeks since my D & C. I was supposed to be 8 weeks but I bled and the sono measured the baby at 6 weeks. I thought I was doing really well with the whole thing... then I read this thread. I'm bawling. It really brings it home. I used to get so excited when I would see a little baby, now I look away. My BF is pregnant and we were going to be due within a week or so of each other. It's hard to hear about her appointments and her baby growing when mine is gone. I hope it gets easier. I'm anxious to get AF so we can start trying again soon. I guess we all have similar feelings.
I have a DD who is almost 2. She is the sweetest little girl in the world. But it hurts when people say "well you have one already." It's not comforting and it's hurts. It actually makes me pretty angry, but I try to remember that people don't know what to say in this situation and are just trying to be reassuring.
There are so many emotions with a MC and then TTC again.
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| Posted 5/21/08 10:47 PM |
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sfp0701
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by annie
It's been 3 weeks since my D & C. I was supposed to be 8 weeks but I bled and the sono measured the baby at 6 weeks. I thought I was doing really well with the whole thing... then I read this thread. I'm bawling. It really brings it home. I used to get so excited when I would see a little baby, now I look away. My BF is pregnant and we were going to be due within a week or so of each other. It's hard to hear about her appointments and her baby growing when mine is gone. I hope it gets easier. I'm anxious to get AF so we can start trying again soon. I guess we all have similar feelings.
I have a DD who is almost 2. She is the sweetest little girl in the world. But it hurts when people say "well you have one already." It's not comforting and it's hurts. It actually makes me pretty angry, but I try to remember that people don't know what to say in this situation and are just trying to be reassuring.
There are so many emotions with a MC and then TTC again.
 People can say the dumbest things.
"you are young" "This wasn't meant to be" "it's for the best".
The only thing that didn't make me angry was "i'm so sorry for you loss" That is really only appropriate thing to say.
I am so sorry that people say such ignorant things to you!!
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| Posted 5/22/08 7:28 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by annie
It's been 3 weeks since my D & C. I was supposed to be 8 weeks but I bled and the sono measured the baby at 6 weeks. I thought I was doing really well with the whole thing... then I read this thread. I'm bawling. It really brings it home. I used to get so excited when I would see a little baby, now I look away. My BF is pregnant and we were going to be due within a week or so of each other. It's hard to hear about her appointments and her baby growing when mine is gone. I hope it gets easier. I'm anxious to get AF so we can start trying again soon. I guess we all have similar feelings.
I have a DD who is almost 2. She is the sweetest little girl in the world. But it hurts when people say "well you have one already." It's not comforting and it's hurts. It actually makes me pretty angry, but I try to remember that people don't know what to say in this situation and are just trying to be reassuring.
There are so many emotions with a MC and then TTC again.
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here! 
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| Posted 5/22/08 9:32 AM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by annie
It's been 3 weeks since my D & C. I was supposed to be 8 weeks but I bled and the sono measured the baby at 6 weeks. I thought I was doing really well with the whole thing... then I read this thread. I'm bawling. It really brings it home. I used to get so excited when I would see a little baby, now I look away. My BF is pregnant and we were going to be due within a week or so of each other. It's hard to hear about her appointments and her baby growing when mine is gone. I hope it gets easier. I'm anxious to get AF so we can start trying again soon. I guess we all have similar feelings.
I have a DD who is almost 2. She is the sweetest little girl in the world. But it hurts when people say "well you have one already." It's not comforting and it's hurts. It actually makes me pretty angry, but I try to remember that people don't know what to say in this situation and are just trying to be reassuring.
There are so many emotions with a MC and then TTC again.
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!
i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...
it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by jennyal
Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!
i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...
it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....
DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.
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hmm12
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by futuremommy
Posted by jennyal
Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!
i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...
it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....
DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.
That always seems to happen...Also we are noticing pregnancies even MORE now b/c we had a loss.... I just keep thinking that it will be me soon.... For all of us
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| Posted 5/22/08 3:25 PM |
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jennyal
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by futuremommy
Posted by jennyal
Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!
i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...
it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....
DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.
it just s u c k s....yes, we'all all happy for other people....but its like why cant that be me...what did i do, to deserve SUCH pain! like can be so unfair sometimes....i still get depressed....
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
it just s u c k s....yes, we'all all happy for other people....but its like why cant that be me...what did i do, to deserve SUCH pain! like can be so unfair sometimes....i still get depressed....
i totally agree with you!
i feel like WHY ME?? it gets me so depressed... i see everyone else around me PG.. so why did this have to happen. i just cant get that out of my head
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by jennyal
Posted by futuremommy
Posted by jennyal
Posted by MetsGirl07
im so sorry you are going through this as well.. my best friend was pregnant with me as well.. we were due a month apart.. i was 16 Weeks and she was 12.. and now i have nothing
it does hurt to hear about her baby and appts.. etc.. and trust me , its not easy, and i hope i get through it also..
and that is just horrible that people say "well you have one already" that has NOTHING to do with what happened to you..
i cant wait to get AF too.. so we are in this together! hang in there.. if you ever need to talk .. im always here!
i TOTALLY know how you feel, my co-worker and i were a week apart...she had her baby boy 2 weeks ago...
it was hard for me when i came back..i never asked her about her pregnancy...or looked directly at her stomach...it was hard for me...it was a constant reminder of what i didnt have....i have nothing against her....but it was hard...but in time it DOES get better.....
DH and I each have one sibling - one brother each - both of their wives are expecting within a month of our due date I'm trying to get excited about new neices and nephews, but it's so hard. On top of that, there's a girl in the office right next to mine who's due just before I would've been and the guy who shares an office with me as well just told us that he and his wife are expecting.
it just s u c k s....yes, we'all all happy for other people....but its like why cant that be me...what did i do, to deserve SUCH pain! like can be so unfair sometimes....i still get depressed....
I've been thinking that all d@mn day. I'm 10DPO of my 3rd cycle since the m/c & this morning was a BFN, so I'm out again. DD was a surprise & the m/c only took 2 months... WHY is it taking longer now to conceive a sticky baby? I keep thinking I must somehow not deserve a second child. I lost the pregnancy I had & now I can't seem to get pregnant again. I'm starting to think it's a sign. I really feel like I'll never see another BFP
I think with every BFN, the miscarriage gets more painful.
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