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maybebaby
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A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I was actually furious listening to this mother talk.
Her 6 year old (first grade) daughter handed out invitations to her "Hannah Montana" birthday bash during recess. Only select children received invitations and when a little girl got upset that she wasn't invited, the teacher took action...took away the invitations and alerted the principal who in turn spoke to the mother and said it was school policy that either the whole class is invited, or you don't hand them out in school.
What really bothered me is how this mother thinks she did nothing wrong. She said she didn't have to invite all the kids because her daughter doesn't like all of them..some are real "losers" and "nasty" looking kids and her daughter is "popular". She didn't understand that mailing invites on her own was the best way to go, and why should SHE have to do that when its easy for her DD to pass them out at school?
I just felt really sad. I will teach my children not to judge others and to be accepting of others...this mother is doing such a disservice to her daughter by teaching her that some people count and others don't...you should have heard this lady, it was unreal.
Her theory was that kids have to learn that you can't always get what you want and they need to learn that they won't always be invited to things in life and they won't always get included. Maybe that is true as you grow up and face reality, but at 6 years old??? 
**edited to add...I forgot to mentioned that she called the station to basically b**** about the teacher and saying her actions were completley uncalled for, that she should have minded her own business. I think the teacher was 100% right!
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I agree with the school, the mother should have mailed them
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:13 AM |
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Peainapod
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
this reminds me of those super sweet 16 shows where the girl/boy goes to school and hands out ridiculous invites to select people in the class to their ridiculous party.
its a shame..really. b/c thats what the girl will grow up to be ... a bratty spoiled 16yr old.
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:14 AM |
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twicethefun
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
That's truly apalling.
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:14 AM |
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I sometimes wonder where they find these radio callers. I've heard some really doozies too. Maybe the same place they get guests for Jerry 
I don't think the teacher was wrong. Every school my son has ever been in, you invite the whole class if you want to send invites to school (and we always invite the whole class).
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:15 AM |
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staceyd
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I agree with the school as well, in fact, when I was in school, there were rules and if you werent inviting the whole class, invitations had to be sent...
that being said, I work in a middle school now, and the selective invitation handing out happens ALL THE TIME at lunch, and it is very hard to monitor and stop...
but I have heard those who are not invited talk about it, and you can tell they are upset..
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JennZ
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I agree with the school. My nephews school is like this too, all or none.
I would love to be a fly on the wall when her "popular" child does NOT get an invite to someones party. The mom sounds like a real charm and apparently raising a spoiled little witch!
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:20 AM |
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JTK
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
did she actually say that her 6 year old is POPULAR
some people have nerve! Who would want to hurt the feelings of a 6 year old kid..i always tell my kids that if they don't intend to invite the whole class then they are not to even talk about their party in school!
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:26 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by JTK
did she actually say that her 6 year old is POPULAR
some people have nerve! Who would want to hurt the feelings of a 6 year old kid..i always tell my kids that if they don't intend to invite the whole class then they are not to even talk about their party in school!
YES!! I was driving and listening to this lady and shaking my head...another mom called the station to comment and said that her daughter was left out of a party at 6 years old and came home in tears, and it was heartbreaking...so this mom goes "Your daughter sounds like she's unpopular, that is why she wasn't invited..".
UGH!!!! Makes me sick!
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lvdolphins
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I 100% agree with the school!
Its just rude!
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Stacey1403
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
What is laughable is at 6 years old kids go from friendship to friendship everyday. One day they like each other the next day they can't stand each other. Her daughter was probably only popular because she had birthday invitations
What were the DJ's saying?
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:33 AM |
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hbugal
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
My daughters' elementary school has a similar policy. It is frustrating at times...and YES it is easier for the kids to hand them out in school. But rules are rules and what kind of message are you giving your child if you break them?
Reminds me of this mother I know who called her daughter's elementary school to complain to the music director that her daughter had to share her part in the school play. (regardless of the fact that all the lead roles were "shared" )
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:35 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by Stacey1403
What is laughable is at 6 years old kids go from friendship to friendship everyday. One day they like each other the next day they can't stand each other. Her daughter was probably only popular because she had birthday invitations
What were the DJ's saying?
2 of them were upset with the mom and disagreed with her...but the one intern they have on all the time (he's 21 and kind of a jerk) was saying that the mom had every right to gave her DD hand out invites to whomever she wanted...he said that kids need to learn that life isn't all "fair". Whatever
(this is a washington DC station BTW, hot 99.5..)
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| Posted 5/27/09 9:47 AM |
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
When I was a kid we passed out invitations in school. I remember feeling bad when I wasn't invited to so and so's party, but that was life-you got over it.
I don't see the big deal about her passing them out-but her ATTITUDE is totally disgusting and it is ashame to think she will raise her daughter like that.
ETA: If it was a school rule to not pass them out-then she should have follwed it. Again-she is raising her daughter to not follow the rules and that is just wonderful...
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MelToddJulia
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Horrible! I agree with the school.
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by Stacey1403
What is laughable is at 6 years old kids go from friendship to friendship everyday. One day they like each other the next day they can't stand each other. Her daughter was probably only popular because she had birthday invitations
What were the DJ's saying?
I was thinking the same thing. That mother is whacked.
We mailed Maddie's invites (per school policy) and could only have 10 girls too. Luckily we have 10 girls in her kindergarten class. In the before school program, we couldn't invite anyone. Maddie told me that she is not going to talk about her party because she didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I thought "WTG Maddie!"
These girls are vicious. You should hear them talk about the boy they are all in love with.
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kerrycec03
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by lvdolphins
I 100% agree with the school!
Its just rude!
ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I actually don't agree with the school at all. What is the big deal? So each kid wasn't invited, that's life. Andrew doesn't like all the kids in his class and honestly, I probably would have had him do the same thing. I don't think it is rude.
It was during recess not in class. I think the schools policy is ridiculous.
Kids should be exposed to different situations and learn how to handle them. I feel like now we try and shield our kids from everything and they can't learn how to deal with disapointment etc. That is life.
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Posted by Mikismom
I agree with the school, the mother should have mailed them
ITA!
In my DD's school you are NOT alowed t hand out invitations unless EVERY single kid in the class in invited. If you aren't inviting all the children you simply mail it- that way no one's feelings get hurt.
I agree with the way they do things.
It crushes self esteem and many feelings get hurt.
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PrincessP
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
God Forbid the child should learn etiquette at an early age. I mean would we walk into a room full of people and start dropping invitation cards to somewhile others watched? I am not buying the "easier" factor...get some stamps and call it a day.
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Waste06
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by maybebaby
Her theory was that kids have to learn that you can't always get what you want and they need to learn that they won't always be invited to things in life and they won't always get included....
Maybe she should follow her own theories and learn that the school's rules are the school's rules. Just because she thinks it's easier for her daughter to hand out the invites at recess, doesn't make it right. Why should the Mom get her way? Life doesn't work that way, as she clearly stated in her own words!!
The mom was wrong.
Popular at age 6??
Tomorrow some kid will invite the whole class to a Jonas Brothers party, and THAT kid will be the popular one.
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browneyedgirl
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Posted by cpanyc
I don't see the big deal about her passing them out-but her ATTITUDE is totally disgusting and it is ashame to think she will raise her daughter like that.
the big deal is that it's usually only one or 2 kids that don't get invites out of 20. that is HORRIBLE for a child to deal with.
just because "we" dealt with it as kids doesn't mean it's right. i remember being hurt when i wasn't invited to things and others were. and parties today are HUGE deals--not the home parties we had with cake and pizza.
i will not let my students hand out invites unless all the kids get one OR all the girls/boys get it. it's school and MY policy. i've seen them try to sneak it--and it's always one or 2 that they're not inviting.
that mother is horrible. how can she even think her daughter is "popular" at the age of 6? she's practically still a baby!
parents do not have to invite all the kids, but then they have to mail the invites. how cheap can you be to throw a huge party but not want to pay 47 cents for a stamp?
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KellyDance
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
That's horrible...more importantly, what is this mother teaching her child!
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| Posted 5/27/09 10:57 AM |
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dpli
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
I agree with the school for a few reasons. First, I don't think at 6 y.o. the kids need to "deal with" not getting invited to an event. At an older age perhaps this is appropriate, but not at 6.
Second, it's not a school function. It has no place in the classroom. As a teacher, I had a difficult time curtailing conversation about upcoming social events in order to focus on academics. Handing out invitations in school just makes it tougher for a teacher to actually teach.
Third, I think it's good manners to mail invitations anyway. I would want my DS to learn proper etiquette and start mailing them out as soon as he is old enough to know that there are invitations. Same with thank you notes. Aside from that, do you know that the parents always get the invitation? Does it even make it home from school all the time?
Secretly, I would probably be glad though, that this kid doesn't want to invite my child. It means then that I don't have to deal with the mom.
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rojerono
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Re: A caller on the radio this am: Furious at teacher for taking away daughters bday invitations...thoughts??
Ugh.
This is the nightmare come to life. It's THOSE parents who perpetuate the myth that some kids are 'worthy' and others are not. It sickens me.
Our school doesn't allow invitations to be distributed in school - regardless of whether the whole class is invited or not.
Robbie has always invited EVERYONE in his class. Last year he said something about not inviting one particular child and I told him the party would be OFF if he pulled that kind of cr*p.
I feel so bad for that little girl who wasn't invited. You KNOW that the mother is encouraging her daughter to be an insensitive little snot. God.. I really hope my kid never encounters her or her mother.
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