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btrflygrl
me and baby #3!
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Shana
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A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
one of my best friends is losing her first pregnancy....
what do I say to make her feel comforted?
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Posted 2/26/09 10:27 PM  |
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Briannasmommy
Love her so much <3
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Christina
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
  
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hbugal
Lesigh
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Just be there for her....
And remember the little "dates"....
Like what would have been her due date...
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| Posted 2/26/09 10:35 PM |
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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
There is nothing you can say, just listen and hug her
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| Posted 2/26/09 10:36 PM |
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Heather617
My Babies
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Heather
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Just be there for her!!! That is what she needs most
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| Posted 2/26/09 11:17 PM |
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Jillysmom
We made it to 8 years
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Jenn
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Been through it with close friends.. just be there....and call to see how they are doing once a day
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| Posted 2/27/09 8:23 AM |
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ReiRei13
Life is Good!!
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
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ASJ2008
It's a boy!
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
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| Posted 2/27/09 8:24 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
i don't think there is much that you can say. Just listen when she wants to talk about it and be there for support.
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| Posted 2/27/09 8:57 AM |
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ChrisDee
My Girls
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Christine
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
I have beem there quite a few times and I can tell you there are no words. Just help her by being there for her when she is ready to talk and remember that most likely she thinks NOBODY understands her pain.
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| Posted 2/27/09 9:03 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
After what I went through I can tell you this...
There is little you can do to make this better but there is a lot you can do to be a good friend. Don't give up on her...there will be times where she doesn't want to talk, doesn't return calls...but fight tooth and nail to make sure that she knows you are there for her. Don't hold her absence against her but instead put anything she says and does behind you and just be there for her.
I had some wonderful people by my side the whole time. Never got upset that I didn't contact them but instead went out of their way to let me know they were there...text message, calls, e-mails. I could feel their sincere concern for me and I could tell they were scrambling to find ways to help me. I will always remember that.
Don't stalk her but don't only call once and then feel like she is ignoring you....be a friend...be there for her and along the way find things to help out. Ask her what she needs but don't expect her to have an answer...meals are a nice offer but who wants to eat at time like this.
I am so very sorry for your friend's loss.  
Message edited 2/27/2009 9:47:56 AM.
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| Posted 2/27/09 9:10 AM |
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annie
This is how I play basketball!
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
I'm so sorry to hear that. Make sure you call often and ask if there is anything you can do to help, and offer her your ear to listen to anything she wants to say, but in my experience, saying less is more because while everyone always has good intentions, comments in this situation can be more hurtful than helpful. You are a sweet friend to be so concerned about her.
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| Posted 2/27/09 9:10 AM |
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JP826
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Posted by CrankyPants
There is nothing you can say, just listen and hug her
My thoughts exactly.
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| Posted 2/27/09 1:02 PM |
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cgdg61606
Little Brother Christopher
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Christine
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
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curliegirl
He's here!!!!
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
I really can't tell you what you CAN do, but I can offer you things NOT to do...
-Don't say that 'everything happens for a reason'
-Don't tell her that she'll get pregnant again before she knows it
-Don't ask her how she feels all the time
-DON'T talk about babies or make silly comments about other's pregnancies for a bit (I say this because my MIL made an insanely STUPID comment right after I m/c and proceeded to update me on all the people who had gotten pregnant) You may not think it's much, but discussing other pregnancies and babies can be viewed as insensitive to her.
Just send her a card letting her know she is in your thoughts and prayers and that you are there for her.
Maybe give her a flower on her due date to remind her that you remembered. THis one is tough though,only you know how she would react to that.
I honeslty was so wrapped up in my new pregnancy when my original due date came, it didn't affect me so much, I was trying not to worry about the baby I was carrying....
Good luck!
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
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Dina
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Posted by CrankyPants
There is nothing you can say, just listen and hug her
ITA.
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| Posted 2/27/09 1:17 PM |
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Chicken92305
LIF Adolescent
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
its hard to find the right words for a sitation like this, just be there for her, call her once in a while to see how she is and maybe even send her an edible arrangment with the card that says something like: "sorry for your loss, just know I will always be here for you during this difficult time"
im so sorry your friend is going through this my heart goes out to her
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| Posted 2/27/09 1:22 PM |
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08BabySurprise
My Life. My Everything.
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Posted by Ang-Rich
After what I went through I can tell you this...
There is little you can do to make this better but there is a lot you can do to be a good friend. Don't give up on her...there will be times where she doesn't want to talk, doesn't return calls...but fight tooth and nail to make sure that she knows you are there for her. Don't hold her absence against her but instead put anything she says and does behind you and just be there for her.
I had some wonderful people by my side the whole time. Never got upset that I didn't contact them but instead went out of their way to let me know they were there...text message, calls, e-mails. I could feel their sincere concern for me and I could tell they were scrambling to find ways to help me. I will always remember that.
Don't stalk her but don't only call once and then feel like she is ignoring you....be a friend...be there for her and along the way find things to help out. Ask her what she needs but don't expect her to have an answer...meals are a nice offer but who wants to eat at time like this.
I am so very sorry for your friend's loss.
I think this is absolutey perfect - be there for her when she is ready. I am so so sorry for her loss
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Lizzy
Carson's Mama
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
Just let her talk and cry -- you're a good friend 
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| Posted 2/27/09 5:50 PM |
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SpencersMommy
I'm one lucky girl
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Re: A good friend just found out she's losing her baby...
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