Advice needed from Single Moms (or anyone who can help)

My STBX moved to PA in August so he sees DD every other weekend and the occasional day in between (but usually not). Initially, DD handled it without issues (she'll be 3 in March). But, in the last month, it has been so hard. She cries for him, whines "Daddy", asks when he is picking her up, etc. It's truly heartbreaking. When she does this, I reassure her, remind her when she'll see her, suggest we call him, empathize with her, etc. My comfort helps sometimes and sometimes she just gets distracted and moves on, but other times she is harder to console. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this? Especially with a 3 y/o? Tonight I gave her a photo of him after she called and left him the saddest message but she essentially whimpered herself to sleep. He's gonna give her a photo album of pictures of them. I was thinking of making a calendar for her wall so she can count down the days but honestly when it is so many days in between, Im not sure if that will make it worse. Please help. My heart breaks for her and I just want to kill him for being the selfish a$$ he is.

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ugh, this breaks my heart! I have an idea... How about skype?!? She can see him on the computer and he can see her!!

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Definitely SKYPE!!!

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That picture album idea sounds great

Sorry you have to deal with this

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Just wanted to send some I'm no help. XH moved to NC in July and hasn't seen her since. DD doesn't ask for him but that's because this is all she knows. He doesn't call or skype regularly either.

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I was going to say Skype as well. I have a friend whose DH is in the military, he was deployed for a few months last year and they used Skype with their 3 y/o DD.

It worked really well for them!

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Thanks for the suggestions everyone but I forgot to say we already skype! We haven't done it much in the past week or 2 because he's been travelling and not home/in hotel. The hard part is that she'll ask to talk/skype but when she does she wants to hang up in 2 seconds. She's not even 3 so it gets old quick so I think the issue is she just needs to know he is there when she wants him to be . Unfortunately, the truth is that he is not. He made a selfish choice to move (among the lifetime of selfish choices he has made) and although he would disagree, I don't think he makes enough of an effort to see her. I obviously can't let her know this, but it's the truth.

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a strange suggestion - but can you have him get a book and record his voice reading the book - they sell them at hallmark - this way she can hear his voice when she wants