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Janice
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Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
DH thinks 1 kid sounds perfect. My best friend was an only child and I lived vicariously through her. It definitely has its perks.
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I am an only child and I am making a conscious effort to ensure that I have more than one child, although I am thinking one would be very easy. I missed not having siblings as a child, all of my friends had siblings and I lived vicariously through them.
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
This is something I am having a tough time with. DH and I ahve gotten into some serious argumets over this. We have Marissa and she's going to be 6. I don't want or feel like I don't wsnt anymore children and he says he wants just one more. I feel like she will be ahppy child, and feel that she can't miss out on somethng she doesn't know about. Am I being selfish....I don't know. But I think only time will tell. 
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:11 PM |
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Me! I am really considering it but DH wants like 3 
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Stefanie
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I am an only child and I'm not sure I want any more. My DH always says...I can't do that to Jared but I'd like to see him carry around that big belly...
Ask me again in 2-3 years...maybe I'll have a difference in opinion.
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:12 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by mommy2Alex
, all of my friends had siblings and I lived vicariously through them.
Isn't that weird? I had 6 siblings and loved the fact my friend had her own room, and she had the run of the house.
I would love 3 or 4, but DH is struggling with the thought.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
We are certainly considering it. Having just one is so nice. You can shower them with attention. I don't know what having two is like, but I could definitely be happy with having just one.
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Janice
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by LadyLainez
This is something I am having a tough time with. DH and I ahve gotten into some serious argumets over this. We have Marissa and she's going to be 6. I don't want or feel like I don't wsnt anymore children and he says he wants just one more. I feel like she will be ahppy child, and feel that she can't miss out on somethng she doesn't know about. Am I being selfish....I don't know. But I think only time will tell.
my cousin is going through that too. She has a 9 year old. Her husband wants another. But she said she is so past the baby stage and would hate to start it all over again, especially with daycare costs. she is finally in the clear.
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
my cousin is going through that too. She has a 9 year old. Her husband wants another. But she said she is so past the baby stage and would hate to start it all over again, especially with daycare costs. she is finally in the clear.
Everything in general is much easier. I think about the long term issues. DH promised to let me think about it and in the long run it's my choice, but he always gets annoyed when our friends ask about having another child and I say...nope we're done.
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Diana1215
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I am an only child. I think I would like to have two kids though. I think when you have three you are outnumbered so I'd like to try for two.
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. We don't have any yet but will soon, hopefully. But who knows? I am almost 34 and I don't know how easy it will be to have one (in terms of ttc, it might happen right away, or it may take a while). I guess I would worry about my kid being lonely. Then again, most of the onlies I knew were very happy and well-adjusted. I have been thinking about having one and adopting one, though I know that's very expensive.
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
My BF is an only child. The reason why her parents only had her was because her mom had a brother with Down Syndrome and she knew that when her parents passed she would also have to take care of Kevin. Well, the grandfather lived to be 94 and my friend was 27 before her mom and dad had to care for Kevin. She thinks her mom regretted the decision to have one.
My BF and her husband are only children and for various reasons she said if they could only have one they would definitely adopt. One reason being the two of them will have 6 elderly parents to possibly take care of and they would never want to do the same to their kids.
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:22 PM |
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wilandnet
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
We definitely want to try to have at least two. We understand how there are just somethings that it is easier to talk to a sibling over than a parent, relative, or even a friend.
We also would like to try for a boy and a girl. If the first two are the different sexes, we will stop there. If not, then we plan on trying for a third, and without a doubt, stopping there!
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Kathy116
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
If we decide to have a child we are leaning towards having 1.
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:35 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Kathy116
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
wow never considered that. always think in lines of playmates.
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ChristineR
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I have a relative that is an only child and she was very selfish and spoiled when growing up. It could be how her parents raised her but
I'm very glad my mother decided to have two.
If and when I do have my first, you might have to ask me this question again
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saraH
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
we are both one of 3 - so we both want 3 kids. we say this now, but we have to see how the 1st one goes.
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DjPiLL
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Janice
Posted by Kathy116
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
wow never considered that. always think in lines of playmates.
I don't know about that. I have a sister and I hardly talk to her. I don't think I would be any more "lonely" if I was an only child.
Me and my wife have discussed this... and if we have a say in the matter... one child for us.
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Leeners
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
God willing, I would not want an only child. DH is an only child (well, by his mom - he has 2 half siblings from his dad but they never lived together, etc). I see how tough it is, there's never anyone to call on to do things with/for his mom but him. And, when she's older and in need of care, the burden falls squarely on his shoulders. I have 4 siblings and I love having a big family. I'd be cool with 2-3, definitely don't want the 5 that my mom had, but I personally wouldn't ever want to have an only child.
ETS: there are also the 'only child' syndromes that, while not all only children have, a lot do. When you're the youngest of 5, you learn things that I don't think an only child would, at least not as easily.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I was an only child for 8 years before my sister was born....and all I wanted was a sibling. Before she was born it was very lonely. So if I can have more than one, I would like to.
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
We are definitely considering it.
We are going to see how one goes and decide from there!
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bklyngirl
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
we'll take whatever god gives us. i think i would want 2
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:49 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Leeners
ETS: there are also the 'only child' syndromes that, while not all only children have, a lot do. When you're the youngest of 5, you learn things that I don't think an only child would, at least not as easily.
there is a syndrome for everything....which all has an impact on the person....None of which is better than the other...
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Kathy116
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Leeners
DH is an only child (well, by his mom - he has 2 half siblings from his dad but they never lived together, etc). I see how tough it is, there's never anyone to call on to do things with/for his mom but him. And, when she's older and in need of care, the burden falls squarely on his shoulders.
Agreed!
My DH has been having some issues with his father, and it's nice that his father has been dealing with his issues with all the children, my DH, brother and step-brother. My DH's father may have to go into assisted living (he's elderly), and it's great that my DH doesn't have to make ALL the decisions, or do all the investigation on his own, he's sharing the responsibilities with his siblings.
WHenever there is something going on with my parents, I'm the only one to deal with it...there are no other siblings to take some of the load off my shoulders.
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