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Leeners
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Redhead
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ETS: there are also the 'only child' syndromes that, while not all only children have, a lot do. When you're the youngest of 5, you learn things that I don't think an only child would, at least not as easily.
there is a syndrome for everything....which all has an impact on the person....None of which is better than the other...
Point taken on the 'syndrome for everything', but there are some I'd rather my child have than others.
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Kathy's post also has me thinking...If God forbid something happened to you and DH, who would you leave your child with? Probably a sibling, I know I would. If I did not have any siblings, I am not sure who it would be.
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Leeners
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ETS: there are also the 'only child' syndromes that, while not all only children have, a lot do. When you're the youngest of 5, you learn things that I don't think an only child would, at least not as easily.
there is a syndrome for everything....which all has an impact on the person....None of which is better than the other...
Point taken on the 'syndrome for everything', but there are some I'd rather my child have than others.
true..that is a personal choice 
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Janice
Kathy's post also has me thinking...If God forbid something happened to you and DH, who would you leave your child with? Probably a sibling, I know I would. If I did not have any siblings, I am not sure who it would be.
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i am not understand ing that at all
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Kathy116
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Janice
Kathy's post also has me thinking...If God forbid something happened to you and DH, who would you leave your child with? Probably a sibling, I know I would. If I did not have any siblings, I am not sure who it would be.
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i am not understand ing that at all
My DH has siblings, so there's still family.
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Janice
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Kathy116
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Kathy's post also has me thinking...If God forbid something happened to you and DH, who would you leave your child with? Probably a sibling, I know I would. If I did not have any siblings, I am not sure who it would be.
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i am not understand ing that at all
My DH has siblings, so there's still family.
gotcha...I guess I don't see my inlaws raising my kids.
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I truly pray that we will be blessed with more than one chid.. (though at this point, even one child would be a blessing)
I love big families and I love the fact that Dh and I are both close to our siblings... I would prefer my children to have that experience growing up as well
OF course, ultimately it is out of my control so I will just take whatever God grants me 
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| Posted 10/13/05 12:58 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Kathy116
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Posted by Janice
Kathy's post also has me thinking...If God forbid something happened to you and DH, who would you leave your child with? Probably a sibling, I know I would. If I did not have any siblings, I am not sure who it would be.
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i am not understand ing that at all
My DH has siblings, so there's still family.
ahhh to provide a support system....
I thought what was meant that a sibling take some sort of guardianship....which was where my confusion was...
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baghag
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I can't exactly answer, since we're undecided about having any children.
BUT, I can't imagine life without my brother and sister. They are my closest friends and the best support system when it comes to family issues. I'm really grateful that my parents didn't stop after me- I am the oldest.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
For us we never considered it - mainly because I want my child to be able to turn to their brother/sister and say "You know how mom is..." and have someone that gets it completely. I loved having one for the time I did and was a little sad realizing that Joseph would never get the attention he once had and Maddie would not get the same amount of attention that Joseph had. I just had to keep reminding myself that I had another one so they could have each other.
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MissJones
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Kathy116
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
I'm technically an only child and I totally agree with this. My mom and I were super close, but now that I'm in my 20's, I wish I had someone to talk with, to vent with, to share the pressure with. My mom regrets having just one. Parents got divorced. And although my step dad has older daughters, it isn't the same. My dad recently had two little kids, and thinks "hey, you got your siblings" but it doesn't feel like I have siblings.
Anyway, I wish there was someone else besides me.
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Diane
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
DH wants only one, but I want 2. He is an only child, and I have 2 sisters and a brother, and I told him it was so much fun having siblings.
That is why I was hoping for twins.
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Sassyz75
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I am my mother's only child.
I have a half brother & half sister from when my dad remarried- but they are much younger than me- I am 30, my brother is 18 and my sister is 16.
I don't mind not having a "full sibling" at all. I actually liked being an only child and never asked my mom for a sibling. My mom and I are buddies, and I she is also set for retirement too- but if something were to happen to her, I would gladly shoulder the burden myself as she took care of me (my parents divorced when I was 3)- and I would do it with honor.
I also want to say, I have a very large extended family so I always had cousins around- which is probablly why I never though about a brother/sister.
As for what I would do- I'll take what we can get 1 child, 2 children, whatever- I leave that up to God's master plan.
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Mrs-Boop
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
DH only wants one, but thats because he already has one from a previous relationship. I want atleast two so they have each other for pranks on mom and dad, support, guidance, fun. He says well, there will be two if we have one, but by the time we have a kid together, my stepson will be almost 15, sooo I highly doubt my 15 yr old stepson will want to hang with a baby. When he's 30 my little one will be 15. I don't think so!!
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Briannasmommy
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
we are having 2 tops 3 we both want that
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by MrsDiamondgrlie
Me! I am really considering it but DH wants like 3 
I think YOU should have 3 too!
We have considered this but only because we dont think we could afford more than one!
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Boobobunny
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
we would like to have another child...but because of the difficult road we had bringing James into the world...we may not attempt a 2nd baby.
We both flip flop so much about TTC...some days Ken is all for it, while I'm not. Other times I want James to have a brother or sister to grow up with...but Ken isn't so sure....we both admit that our reservations about having a 2nd baby is fear.
I think until we both are positive about how we feel...and who knows if that will ever happen...we are going to hold off...and just enjoy and be grateful for the beautiful baby boy we do have
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nov04libride
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by Janice
Posted by Kathy116
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
wow never considered that. always think in lines of playmates.
I don't know about that. I have a sister and I hardly talk to her. I don't think I would be any more "lonely" if I was an only child.
I have a brother I am not close to, but my mother has already divided the duties of executor of her will/end of life decisions between the two of us. I am definitely glad I have someone with me making a decision for our parent. We're not close like my DH and his brother (who are inseparable), but I know if I ever needed anything he'd be there. He's actually been a great help to me lately with a few issues.
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Redhead
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I TOTALLY see DJPILLS point and ultimately you can't really make the assumption that 2 + kids...easier for the kids...It really varies quite a lot from person to person. Family to family.
I don't think by having a sibling automatically makes it easier. It doesn't. In fact for some of us it makes it HARDER.
If something should happen to my parents...my sister would be more MY RESPONSIBILITY rather than sharing that responsibility.
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sasha96
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
Posted by Kathy116
I am an only child as well, and even though as a child I was spoiled, and didn't have to share anything; as an adult, it's very lonely. I wish I had a sibling, I wish I was an aunt and nieces and nephews of my own (I am an aunt through my DH, but it's not the same);
most of all, I wish I had a larger immediate family for Sunday dinners, holidays...I also wish I had siblings for the potential issue of taking care of my parents or making decisions for them when they get older.
Bottom line: For me, as an adult, it's lonely as an only child.
that is EXACTLY how I feel! I would like to have 2 kids.
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dm24angel
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I was " kinda" an only child....My mom only had me, she had Cancer, could not have any more...I have many siblings through my Dad, but we never lived together, grew up together etc.
I HATED BEING AN ONLY CHILD!
Iwould never want to do that to my kids...I mean if I had no choice of course, theres nothing I could do. AND Im sure there are people who liked being an only child...I personally DID NOT!
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| Posted 10/13/05 6:27 PM |
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sunny
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Re: Anybody considering have an only child by choice?
I always feel like siblings are important. I really always wanted one, but want my child to have a sibling.
But let's see how I do with the first one!
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